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Location: OK | In my situation, a protective order would've only been a challenge to him, so I didn't do that. What I did do was keep a gun handy and keep my dog by me 24 hours a day. I know how all that goes. The cussing at first, intimidation. When that won't work, there's all the crying and I love you and all that. Then when they feel like they've lost control, that's when they do other things, stalking, repeated calling, breaking in, watching you. I hope you get through your situation, and I hope the order scares him, but my advice is, protect yourself. Call your local PD or sheriff or whoever and let them know, besides the order. Have them take down your address and keep it handy in case you have to make a call. Even though there's not much they can do, at least they know. An order is only a piece of paper. Let everyone in your family know. Record all conversations. In my case, when I let him know that if anything happened to me, all eyes were on him, it helped. People get hurt by idiots. Don't be one of those people. | |
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Location: OK | bringinithome - 2014-02-04 11:02 AM
aggiejudger - 2014-02-04 10:55 AM
Never been through this, but please be safe. Also, if possible, get your concealed handgun license. Not sure what the rules are in Tennessee, but please keep one in the house for your protection as well. A protection order is nice to have, but if he is going to hurt you, that piece of paper won't stop him.
Thank you I do plan on getting a carry permit in the near future. All of the others in my household currently have permits and weapons in the house. Needless to say, I'm pretty safe at home.. but I'm hardly ever there. I know that the piece of paper isn't going to stop him, but maybe/hopefully open his eyes a little.
Get a carry permit, but don't wait to at least have something on you. If he gets ahold of you, that fact that you don't have a permit will be the least of your worries. I'm not saying he's on drugs, but if he is, or if he's just that crazy, pepper spray won't work. A bat on the other hand, will. | |
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| jojammer - 2014-02-04 2:05 PM bringinithome - 2014-02-04 11:02 AM aggiejudger - 2014-02-04 10:55 AM Never been through this, but please be safe. Also, if possible, get your concealed handgun license. Not sure what the rules are in Tennessee, but please keep one in the house for your protection as well. A protection order is nice to have, but if he is going to hurt you, that piece of paper won't stop him. Thank you I do plan on getting a carry permit in the near future. All of the others in my household currently have permits and weapons in the house. Needless to say, I'm pretty safe at home.. but I'm hardly ever there. I know that the piece of paper isn't going to stop him, but maybe/hopefully open his eyes a little. Get a carry permit, but don't wait to at least have something on you. If he gets ahold of you, that fact that you don't have a permit will be the least of your worries. I'm not saying he's on drugs, but if he is, or if he's just that crazy, pepper spray won't work. A bat on the other hand, will.
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Location: Southwest New Mexico | Screen shots of texts between you two with you asking him to leave you alone would work. I've used printed screen shots in court. They do hold up, however in my case the other party did not deny they sent those messages. | |
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