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kramerica
Reg. Oct 2005
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ropenrun - 2014-02-11 12:40 AM
Fat Chance hospice has really changed. My mother passed recently but just prior to her passing we had hospice set in place. They came in occasionally and then it became more frequent for only 4 days before her passing. But hospice was able to prescribe any needed drugs with just a phone call vs a need for a Dr visit as she was considered on comfort care. It is a hard thing as a child to have to place your parents in a nursing home. My mom spent a month not liking it and then adjusted quite well and thrived for 8 years. My dad, who became a resident 4 years after my mom, didn't like it from day one and passed 2 months later. However his kidneys were failing and regardless his time was limited and I was not equipped to care for him at home any longer.
He was very very angry with me, said some really mean things
but in my heart I knew it was the best place for him to be. I had to make the decision, stick with it and come to peace with my decision . He was 86. But it was not much easier taking the car keys away from both of them when they were no longer safe behind the wheel. For me what made it so hard was the fact that as the child, I had now moved into the adult role and they had begun to assume the child role as I was now responsible for them vs the other way around.
Ropenrun, this is the same thing that my friend is dealing with and I feel so sorry for her. She feels so guilty about some decisions she has had to make for her father. It is certainly taking a toll on her.
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cowdoc101
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I have dealt with this. Because my grandmother could not qualify for Medicaid and didn't have long term care insurance
(medicare does not pay for Long term care
), we hired independent help, paid them $10/hour to be in the house with her. Most were CNA's so they knew when to call us if something didn't look right. I did check on her daily though. It was cheaper for us to go this way than pay out of pocket for a nursing home.
I try to tell people the "litmus test" for me is do they need 24 hour NURSE care? If they need an RN available 24/7 then you should think about a nursing home. things like a brittle diabetic or someone with complicated wounds that need dressed. Someone who is bed-bound should also likely be in a nursing facility.
I hope this helps, I know what you're going through and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
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