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Location: Missouri | I'm not up to explaining the whole incident, but yesterday my 14 month old daughter was literally, physically torn out of my arms by her father's "step brother" while her father was grabbing my shoulders from behind and pulling me to the ground while she was in my arms. She has no apparent bruises or proof but it was obvious that she was being hurt while being ripped out of my arms. I am her mother and and she lives with me in our apartment. Custody has not been established, but I want to get that done as soon as possible. Incident was late last night, today being Saturday, no attorneys have answered their phone. I'm a single/stay at home mother, so I need to find an attorney in Missouri who will at least open a case and accept payments or even better offer pro bono.
The cops were called last night, they gave me my daughter back, but didn't seem to want to do anything about her being pulled from my arms. I want to press charges for child endangerment or kidnapping, or what ever I can. Do I need to have an attorney first or can I just go to the court house? |
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| I don't have any advice, but they sound like low lives, and I'll be praying for you and your baby's safety and that you all can get this taken care of!  |
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Location: SE Louisiana | Wha... What city do you live in that the cops don't charge them with assault for that? or are they buddies with the cops? |
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 Ditch the Stirrups
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Location: Sorrow Not! Defending against workplace bullies | It will be difficult and expensive esp with no proof...I would put all the energy toward nailing down custody before anything else if it was me. |
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Location: NOT at Wal Mart | komet. - 2014-02-22 11:31 AM Wha... What city do you live in that the cops don't charge them with assault for that? or are they buddies with the cops?
There are two sides to every story. Just sayin. |
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Location: lone star state | Without a custody order either biological parent has the right to possess the child.
As for the assault you need to contact your local county attorney and ask the status of the case. They can prompt law enforcement to fully investigate.
Contact your attorney general. In most states they handle child support and in tbe process of establishing child support the court will order custody and visitation. This is at no cost to the custodial parent ( you in this case)... |
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Location: The Great West | Go to a woman's shelter near you and tell them what happened, they will be able to help you get intouch with attorneys and assist you with a custody order, etc. you can also request a welfare check from the police and neighbors since you are alone with your daughter, to have the cops and others stop by will be a deturant for this type of incident again in the future, just because there are more people looking out for you and on your side. |
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Location: Argyle, NY | Many Legal Aid offices offer free legal advice or representation, depending upon the grants they have available. Check www.lsc.gov to find an office near you - good luck! |
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Location: Alberta | Rodeo2u - 2014-02-22 2:57 PM Many Legal Aid offices offer free legal advice or representation, depending upon the grants they have available. Check www.lsc.gov to find an office near you - good luck!
Good advice!!!
I'd probably not be saying much online (since this is forever & anyone can see) and concentrate on steps legal advice gives you.... |
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| You should of insist on fileing charges |
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Location: Where the pavement ends and the West begins Utah | You go to the nearest police station and tell them you would like to file charges. It doesn't cost you any thing. You fill out a report you need the time of incident .location who and what happened. No other people need to be involved . Be truthful. The police should have helped you in that process. I should add that it has to be within the jurasdiction of the police department that you file the charges at for your location/home. Unless it happened in another area other than near your home then it would be the police station for that area. After filing you can also go to the shelter for battered women. Do while it is still fresh in memory and write it down so you don't miss any thing.
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| Black Horse - 2014-02-22 2:47 PM
Go to a woman's shelter near you and tell them what happened, they will be able to help you get intouch with attorneys and assist you with a custody order, etc. you can also request a welfare check from the police and neighbors since you are alone with your daughter, to have the cops and others stop by will be a deturant for this type of incident again in the future, just because there are more people looking out for you and on your side.
Go to the Women's Shelter and stay there until you can get some assistance. |
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Ditch the Stirrups
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Location: Sorrow Not! Defending against workplace bullies | I would be very careful about being around your ex or his family at any ttime. Be sure you always have someone with you.
Obviously there is a lot more to the story and I am sure it was a scary and painful experience. I do not mean to sound unsympathetic but I believe you will waste time, energy and money trying to file charges. Hearing this from an outsiders point of view; what could you file charges for? If the baby was being ripped away and hurting so much you believe it was endangering her, a question that could come up is Why didn't you let go? How is this kidnapping if it is the father? I would guess these reasons are why the police did not want to get involved. Having the baby back is the important thing and they did help with that.
This is why it is so important to have a custody agreement. If your ex took the baby and violated the agreement then it would be kidnapping. Please please spend your money onthat. If you are afraid of your ex also see about a restraining order. |
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| Since you aren't giving any information out, we can't help you with what to do. However, if you are a stay at home with no income that isn't going to work in your favor when going for custody. Next time if anyone comes to your apartment late at night, just don't answer. Glad your daughter is safe! |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | You should have called a Attorney, Lawyer the first thing that morning while it was still fresh. |
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| okie_91 - 2014-02-23 8:13 AM
Since you aren't giving any information out, we can't help you with what to do. However, if you are a stay at home with no income that isn't going to work in your favor when going for custody. Next time if anyone comes to your apartment late at night, just don't answer. Glad your daughter is safe!
The op is right on elaborating, as per rules, and this is public forum whatever she writes could be used against her.
Good luck, as what other people have said contact a lawyer and get custody papers going |
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| cheryl makofka - 2014-02-23 11:27 AM
okie_91 - 2014-02-23 8:13 AM
Since you aren't giving any information out, we can't help you with what to do. However, if you are a stay at home with no income that isn't going to work in your favor when going for custody. Next time if anyone comes to your apartment late at night, just don't answer. Glad your daughter is safe!
The op is right on elaborating, as per rules, and this is public forum whatever she writes could be used against her.
Good luck, as what other people have said contact a lawyer and get custody papers going
I am not asking her to give out information, just stating without knowing the whole story no one can give true advice. Remember every story has two sides plus the truth. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | okie_91 - 2014-02-23 11:31 AM Remember every story has two sides plus the truth.
Agreed....and apparently most have missed the statement that the police were THERE......IF the child had been hurt OR she had been hurt, they would have hauled someone's butt to jail! The only reason to see an attorney would be to get a "custody" case going. |
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