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Location: Oklahoma | I just have to vent... I've been fighting my ex for child support... currently according to the state of OK he is $14,025.37 behind in child support. He lives in another state. He hasn't seen or talked to our daughter in 5 years. My now husband has raised her like his own and has been in her life the last 5 years. (She's 6 1/2). He will be adopting her. My vent is that I have called the OK Child support office daily for the last week trying to get my case figured out as Calif...ornia has transferred it to Oklahoma since we live here now. Just today I received a letter from Illinois saying they're canceling his support order. I'm livid... first I know for a fact IL does not have the jurisdiction to do this. I am to the point I think I need an attorney... The ex also had another child while we were trying to get divorced and is now married to a 3rd lady (who is 20) and just had a baby. The new wife had the nerve to send my daughter a card while the ex was in jail for a felony DU and she signed it "love Daddy, _____, _____, and ______ |
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Location: ND | sounds like you should just be glad that he has stayed out of her life for the last five years......and hope he continues to do so... |
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Bulls Eye
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Location: Oklahoma | dhdqhllc - 2014-04-11 11:24 AM sounds like you should just be glad that he has stayed out of her life for the last five years......and hope he continues to do so...
I am very glad he is not in her life. I don't expect to see a dime from him. I would love for him to voluntarily sign his rights over but he won't. I've told him if he does I will drop all support from the day he signs forward. He also has multiple DUI's and I had a protection order against him. In our divorce there is no contact with our daughter until he can prove to the court he is alcohol free and has done anger management. |
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 Shelter Dog Lover
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| Sounds like a losing battle, both with him and the authorities. Might be less hassel, heartache and frustration to just pretend he doesn't exist. How wonderful your daughter has a REAL loving father. Baffles me how parents don't want any responsibility but yet won't sign over parental rights.
Edited by rodeomom3 2014-04-11 3:19 PM
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Bulls Eye
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Location: Oklahoma | I agree. We will pursue step parent adoption regardless if he signs his right or not. My daughter considers my husband her dad and wants all of our names to be the same... |
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Location: Who knows | I just wanted to say, I don't know the background with the new wife, but sometimes when someone sends a card like that, they are trying to something nice for the child, even if the ex hasn't. It's not always malicious. Some of my family members would do something like that because they want the child to feel included, even if the partner showed no interest. So unless you know for a fact she's trying to do it to get your goat, try to give her some slack. She might be a nice soul that landed with a d-bag.
Other than that, good luck with your situation. People like your ex are unreliable and alcohol rules their lives. Glad your child has a better dad. |
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Bulls Eye
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Location: Oklahoma | BigSkyDream - 2014-04-11 1:49 PM I just wanted to say, I don't know the background with the new wife, but sometimes when someone sends a card like that, they are trying to something nice for the child, even if the ex hasn't. It's not always malicious. Some of my family members would do something like that because they want the child to feel included, even if the partner showed no interest. So unless you know for a fact she's trying to do it to get your goat, try to give her some slack. She might be a nice soul that landed with a d-bag. Other than that, good luck with your situation. People like your ex are unreliable and alcohol rules their lives. Glad your child has a better dad.
I can tell you it wasn't in a nice way. She has emailed me saying they will sue for visitation to have my daughter for all her summer breaks. This "girl" (she married at 31 year old at 19 knowing he has 2 kids he doesn't pay support on) and is trying to play house. |
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I'm a Cry Baby
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Location: n.c. | Well, if he hasn't been paying child support and has no contact with the child, can't the parental rights be terminated without his consent? This is something I looked at many years ago here in NC; don't know if it's changed now. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | rodeomom3 - 2014-04-11 3:18 PM Sounds like a losing battle, both with him and the authorities. Might be less hassel, heartache and frustration to just pretend he doesn't exist. How wonderful your daughter has a REAL loving father. Baffles me how parents don't want any responsibility but yet won't sign over parental rights.
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