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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | I don't forsee my husband going with me in the future. When I told him I wanted to start running again he had no issues with it as long as I could do it independently. He just said "That's fine. I just hope you don't think I'll be going with you". He'd work eight days a week if it was possible. It's a family business and that's his passion. Running barrels is mine.
I was actually (pleasantly) suprised when he offered to go with me last weekend to look at horse. He went so he could do the driving (I can't drive for more than about two hours without having bad shoulder pain & I wanted to drive into the wee early morning hours to get home and not have to stay overnight somewhere). That was the first time (in person) that he's ever watched me run a horse and I think he actually saw why I love it so much. He was a different person to talk to once we hit the road to come back home.
I probably won't be going to more than 4-5 overnight events a year so I don't think it's too big of a deal. If I was trying to go pro or something that required me to be gone a lot I'd probably want him there as I'd be more inclined to need the help! |
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Veteran
Posts: 238
| I send mine golfing. I don't want to be on the golf course and he doesn't want to be at the arena. We can both appreciate that the other has a hobby they enjoy and that some times that's an overnight hobby.
I don't like feeling "responsible" for someone else's happiness when I'm doing my horsie activities. It takes the focus off my horse. |
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Posts: 1432
Location: Never in one place long | All the time...... He's usually too busy, he goes when he can but doesn't happen as often as I'd like. |
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Expert
Posts: 1432
| Mine went with me a lot last year but he told me I'm on my own this year. Which is fine, I don't mind traveling by myself. He's a farrier and drives a lot shoeing in several different states, so by the weekend he has no desire to go any where. |
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Posts: 209
| My SO travels with me to almost every race or rodeo. He's a roper himself so it's nice to have something there that understands what's going on and he will help me saddle horses, get water, tape my runs, go over runs and offer suggestions. I really enjoy his company when he comes! |
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Elite Veteran
Posts: 1096
| I'm by myself with 2 kids 90 % of the time. I haul overnight and 6+ hours away sometimes. It's not a big deal. Guess I'm used to it. If he does go along he usually talks, takes pictures, video's, and doesn't help me with the kids or horses anyways , LOL
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 I hate cooking and cleaning
Posts: 3310
Location: Jersey Girl | Mine will only go if I can't find one of the girls to go with. He is always relieved when he doesn't have to go! |
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Pig-Bear Dog Lover
| FlyingJT - 2014-04-24 9:18 AM
wyoming barrel racer - 2014-04-24 9:22 AM
I never take my husband. He used to be fun before we were married, now all he does is gripe "what did all those buckets cost, what is the entry fee, what is lunch going to cost, what did that saddle pad cost, did you check the oil...what did that cost?" LOL, you get the idea. Fun doesn't come cheap
Mine never complains about the fees But he's like a dang kid...I'm hungry, this is taking to long, are they close to being done, where's the concession, I should be running that tractor they don't know what they are doing, you better go get ready (100 people away from me still ), can we get the puppy! I'd rather take my 6 year old daughter with me! lol!
OMG that's how I feel! he always has to pee before we get there, or stop and eat... one thing after the other. IF he would help drive I would take him, but since he's not going to drive, no point might as well do it myself in peace. |
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 Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | rockinas - 2014-04-24 12:20 PM I love going with mine but unfortunately we usually have so much going on here, that we don't get to go together much. This is us.... Its really tough for us both to be gone at the same time.
When he isn't working, he'll come watch me run. He's really handy with a horse, I love having him come and critique my runs. He'll film, help me get ready...whatever. He'll see little things that need worked on...If you ask him for advice, you darn sure better have a thick skin because he's going to tell you like he sees it. We don't sugar coat.
We will both sit there and watch some of the top horses in our area go and study the riders then discuss what I need to work on most.
Hauling alone doesn't bother me a bit, I kinda enjoy the peace & quiet. (I do love to take my dogs!)
Edited by MS2011 2014-04-24 7:25 PM
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Location: Beneath the Cypress trees | Mine doesn't know horses. He likes my horse, has enjoyed riding the few times I've taken him, but I prefer to go it alone. I always have.
For the local shows I'm sure he'd be happy to come watch, maybe hang out for an hour or so, but I'd send him on his way after that. I love him dearly but I can already hear it, "I'm bored, I'm hungry, it's hot." I enjoy the time with my horse and with horse people. I think he'd enjoy going to a big overnight rodeo somewhere interesting, but otherwise he's limited to just visiting :)
He likes golfing. I come with him every couple of months and play 9 holes, but most of the time I'm happy that he's out with his friends enjoying the day. I'm certainly not going to be able to make it as long as he likes. I can hear myself already, "I'm bored, I'm hungry, it's hot." (Hehe, sound familiar?).
We have hobbies we enjoy together, and ones we enjoy apart. It's a lovely arrangement.
I would imagine that if you were used to traveling with your SO, it would be a lonely adjustment to going alone.
It's fun though! You'll learn to enjoy it. |
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 Queen Bee Cat Owner
Posts: 3629
Location: Way up North | Mine never goes with. He works in Ag so he works a lot of long hours and weekends during the busy season and when he isn't working he likes to go to his parents farm to help out, that's his hobby. He knows I like going to the races and hanging out with my sister and I know he likes getting to do field work and spending time with his family so we respect that. I feel bad enough we spend so much money on the horses I don't think I could ask him to give up his fun time for mine. I have had people ask my sister if I was actually married beings no one has ever seen him come to the races  |
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 Texas Tenderheart
Posts: 6715
Location: Red Raiderland | My hubby used to go a lot and then just sent me on my way when I had a LQ's trailer but now that we haul with an RV he feels more inclined to go because he thinks something may break on the RV and I will get stranded. I don't mind if he goes because he is a great groom and videographer for me.  He usually stays in the RV, when I am not running and watches sports or does work on his computer...or takes naps with the dogs.  |
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  A Lady with Fight
Posts: 2701
Location: NC | My hubby is the better rider of the two of us. He's been riding/training barrel horses for over a decade now. And I kind of stole his horse. LOL So he comes when he can. I did go to a weekend show without him in November, because he was on call for work. A friend of mine went with me.
When I was pregnant with my youngest, I paid for him to go to President's Cup in Augusta. I was 28 weeks prego, hauled 7 hours down there, slept in the gooseneck on a crappy air mattress, cleaned stalls and all that fun stuff in the still pretty hot heat that year without ever sitting on a horse. lol. I also tagged along to State Finals last year since I couldn't run. We support each other. He tells me what I did wrong, I tell him what he did wrong. We video each other. If he has to work but can make it as an add on, I haul the horses and kids and he meets me at the show.
I think I'm the more inexperienced horsey spouse of our relationship, having only started really riding and competing less than a year ago.
Edited by hlynn 2014-04-24 9:19 PM
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 Am I really the Weirdo?
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Location: Kansas | I rodeoed a lot without Matt last year, simply because he preferred to stay closer to home so he could do chores AND rodeo while I would take off and go farther north to pens with ground my horses like better. Several weekends, he rodeoed in Missouri and I was in Iowa & Nebraska. Sometimes I crashed in my trailer at rodeo grounds, and a couple times I even went and stayed at an ex's place because it was between a couple of the rodeos. Matt wasn't too sure about that the first time but we stayed up almost all night with the ex watching Matt's bareback riding videos and giving me tips for him! Matt was a lot more OK with me staying there another time a month later - I think he really wanted more bareback riding advice lol. |
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 Certified Snake Wrangler
Posts: 1672
Location: North MS | My hubby goes to about 1-2 events a year. Never overnight, but he bought me a bigger trailer last year so I have more room and amenities. So far I have stayed in it at three events. First time my plug in cord wasn't long enough and I didn't have an adapter to my previous trailers cord to extend it. 7am Walmart trip fixed that problem. 2nd trip I was cheap and used the generator- worked great on night #1 and I found out on night two that the battery wasn't being recharged when generator was own (that was last fall and I figured out the issue last week by myself). Third time was smooth sailing last month plugged in. Luxury when everything works right. The hubby would have come in handy the first two times. But he would have even bored. Only thing I need now is a tv, DVD, or something electronic to keep him occupied. He feels I ignore him- but I'm riding 4 horses and barely have time to rest. I do drag my mom to all my events. She is official treat giver an mane bander. |
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 Goat Giver
Posts: 23166
| FlyingJT - 2014-04-24 9:11 AM Me!!! He gets on my nerves!
Ditto |
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Expert
Posts: 4766
Location: Bandera, TX | No way! Who would ever take care of the Zoo I leave behind? |
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Posts: 1611
Location: bring on the heat, NV | He never goes.... ha ha I dont deserve that kind of punishment. Seriously he is awful. So my to little guys a 5.5 month, 3yo, and id never survive without my mom going. Getting to where my friends will go too. Just trips hoping to get to show my new mare this fall. |
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 Lady Di
Posts: 21556
Location: Oklahoma | Mine is a golfer/hunter/fisherman and he has his own hobbies that I don't care to partake of, either, so I nearly always go by myself or with other barrel racers. He hauled me for 2 years when I made the IFR and I think I burned him out. lol If our daughter had continued to ride, I think he would have gone to watch her, but he really doesn't enjoy going and I feel bad making him go. Plus, it's nice to have someone at home to take care of things. He's got lots of men friends that come visit when I'm gone. lol |
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