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Location: Lost in the corn of Iowa. | Yesterday after work I was at the grocery store, and on my way out I heard a little kid. Maybe 4ish in age, yell at his mom "Look mom I found something!" The little kid had picked up a reciept and was showing it to her. And her only response was "That's not your job to pick that up." Then she proceeded to grab it and throw it away. What saddened me was two things. That even though she was in a hurry she didn't really acknowledge the toddlers great find, and that she was teaching the child not go out of their way to do anything, by just simply stating "That's not your job" To most people it may not seem like a big deal, but to me it just stuck with me and makes me wonder about our future adults and what we are teaching them. Just wanted to share.
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Location: Never in one place long | I see your point exactly. She was not acknowledging that he was exciting about something and she shot him down on it, she didn't say good job for picking it up, wow you HELPED pick it up! So sad, sometimes I wonder if parents just are so busy they don't even think about the words they say and how they affect their children. I understand parenting is a big job and sometimes parents get so exhausted they don't always do what they should but some just don't care. Too bad she couldn't just listen to herself and think about her influence on her child. :(
On a positive note, I do know MANY great wonderful parents who discipline their kids, encourage them and teach them to be a friend to others, be responsible and kind to animals. It makes me so happy to see GOOD parents teaching their kids and gives me hope! They will have to counteract the bad ones unfortunately..... |
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Location: where ever my L/Q trl is parked | you know a lot of women that are stay at home with kids I'm sure watch lots of the talk shows on tv. Like the "View, Today, Good Morning Am" etc. Be nice if they would discuss topic of just this sort. I really believe most of the new mom's just have no clue about such things. Mostly because their mom's didn't know and if they did it was no big deal to them to relate it. |
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Location: Memphis, TN | Reminds me of my last grocery store trip. I was really really disheartened and tried hard not to let my brain wander to the possibilities of what went on at home with a "family" I saw. I came up on what I thought was a father disciplining his little girls. However as I stood there trying to get what I needed I realized this man was not their father but their mothers boyfriend. He was wearing sunglasses the entire time they were in the store and was threatening to whoop their "@$$" the whole time and then laughing about it afterwards. He talked to them like they were dogs and the little girls kept crying as he was saying these things to them. Then he turns to the mother and says I can handle them this is nothing my son has ADHD blah blah blah and made me feel like the mom barely even knew this man who was treating her daughters like crap. The worst thing is the mom never even acknowledged her girls. She laughed along with this man and couldn't keep her hands off of him while in line to check out. He slapped her butt one minute then had his finger in the face of these two girls the next. These girls were maybe 2-4 years old. It was just sad for me to watch. I try not to judge and not to assume anything but the things I overheard and what I saw really gave me a bad feeling. |
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Location: Lost in the corn of Iowa. | When my kids were little, the best advice I ever got was to raise children that other people can be proud of and proud to know. It never really hit me until my girls were older what that really meant. But it's true. I was a young mother and had no clue what I was doing and just managed to figure it out as I went. This would be a great topic on one of the daytime talk shows, just something on basic respect and how much of an impact every moment spent with your child can impact how they can possibly turn out as adults. |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | It's too bad.
The other day at the grocery store, our 5 year old and I were walking towards the entrance. The man and woman walking ahead of us kicked a bottle out of their way. I almost walked past it, I'm sure I've done it many times before. But what type of example am I then, for my child? So I picked it up and handed it to Amber, who threw it away.
It's so simple. It's too bad not everyone tries a little harder. |
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Location: CA | Aqhaczy - 2014-05-14 8:17 AM
you know a lot of women that are stay at home with kids I'm sure watch lots of the talk shows on tv. Like the "View, Today, Good Morning Am" etc. Be nice if they would discuss topic of just this sort. I really believe most of the new mom's just have no clue about such things. Mostly because their mom's didn't know and if they did it was no big deal to them to relate it.
I'm a stay at home mom of two young boys and I can guarantee you there is no time to sit around and watch talk shows all day. I think the moms who spend their day plugged into the tv are probably not the type of moms to be overly concerned about teaching their kids to lend a helping hand by picking up trash, or being excited for their child over something mundane that the kid happens to think is magical. |
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| This! I was a stay at home mom and if we watched tv during the day it was sesame street or Mr. Rogers or a Disney movie before nap time. |
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| Grunt - 2014-05-14 3:38 PM Aqhaczy - 2014-05-14 8:17 AM you know a lot of women that are stay at home with kids I'm sure watch lots of the talk shows on tv. Like the "View, Today, Good Morning Am" etc. Be nice if they would discuss topic of just this sort. I really believe most of the new mom's just have no clue about such things. Mostly because their mom's didn't know and if they did it was no big deal to them to relate it. I'm a stay at home mom of two young boys and I can guarantee you there is no time to sit around and watch talk shows all day. I think the moms who spend their day plugged into the tv are probably not the type of moms to be overly concerned about teaching their kids to lend a helping hand by picking up trash, or being excited for their child over something mundane that the kid happens to think is magical.
Agree, I stayed home with my 4, all a year apart, we did not have leisurely afternoons watching TV. Yes, it does not take much effort to be turned in enough to your child to give them an "oh wow" and a smile and see the opportunity to teach a child to be giving and concerned. |
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Location: North Dakota | Its not easy being a parent, maybe the parent had other things on her mind at the time. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Aqhaczy - 2014-05-14 10:17 AM you know a lot of women that are stay at home with kids I'm sure watch lots of the talk shows on tv. Like the "View, Today, Good Morning Am" etc. Be nice if they would discuss topic of just this sort. I really believe most of the new mom's just have no clue about such things. Mostly because their mom's didn't know and if they did it was no big deal to them to relate it.
Being a stay at home mom raising my 2 boys sure didnt leave much room to sit around and watch TV, lol... |
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