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| My heart hurts this morning. I just read in the paper where a student I used to have was arrested for sexual assault on a minor. He lied and said he was 15. She was 13. He's actually 20. Parents found out about sexual interactions and his age.
Little background on the kid. Very disturbed young man, with a pretty bad homelife. Mom wouldn't get meds, sold the meds, or took them herself. Boy had them on and off. Ended up dropping out of HS because HS teacher wouldn't take her time with him. He wasn't one of her chosen ones. He flew off the handle one day and ran from school. Cops found him across the town creek, sitting in a tree he'd climbed laughing maniacly in 10 degree weather with a 30mph wind in his sweatshirt and jeans.
The part that makes my heart hurt is that this kiddo could have been so much more with a different set of cards. Jail is probably the best and safest place for him. :( |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Unfortunately, jail may not be the best place for him....he will most certainly be the "low man" on the totem pole in jail....if you get my drift? Even though, I am certain that you try your best, you can't save them all...... |
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Location: Kansas | I'm sorry to hear that  |
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Location: In The Land of Cotton | Things like this make me sad also. It all starts at home and some kids are just dealt a crappy hand from the beginning. |
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Location: Riding Crackhead. | I'm so sorry Rae. I know you well enough that you did everything you could for this young man. He got a crappy mom and homelife and sadly it didn't end well. Lets hope and pray he learns from this and he gets the help he needs. Hugs to you my friend. |
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Miss Laundry Misshap
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| Thanks guys. I know I can't save them all. I also know that I probably spend way too much of my time worrying about the things I can't control. But I suppose that's why I became a teacher, to try to help them in any way I could.
And yes, Norma, I've thought about that aspect of jail too. To be honest, if he's got the staples, food, meds, hygeine, etc., he's probably not someone most would mess with. |
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Location: Texas | I hate to hear stories like this. It makes me want to hug my kids tighter. Stories like this also make me angry. There was obviously a lack of parenting for both the boy and the girl. A 13 y.o. girl shouldn't be allowed to get into a situation where she could be having intimate relations with a boy. Maybe I'm so old school or too much of a harda$$, but the parents of the girl should not be pressing charges if they were allowing her to date, etc., at that age. I don't know all the circumstances, but at 13, your focus should be friends, makeup, hobbies, and having crushes. I know that kids are growing up faster these days, but it's absurd that parents can press charges in an effort to compensate for their lack of parenting.
This is still a sad situation. But here is a little girl whose parents are not doing their job, a boy who got dealt a horrible hand, and our justice system that is not designed to handle things. He will be forced to register as a sex offender and will probably be sent to prison where he will learn skills that will likely enable him to become a criminal. |
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Location: Lost in the corn of Iowa. | I know how hard you try. Even if they aren't your students. If only more teachers were as committed as you are to your kids. Hugs |
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Location: South Georgia | As a teacher at an alternative high school, I can understand your anguish. I think sometimes I may be the only one that sees the "good" within my students. Most people do not understand the vastly different world they have been raised in. They are products of their environment and feel trapped within it. It is sad. |
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Location: In a happy place | This is so sad. Not only is the girl a victim but so is this youg man. Parents like this make me sick. As you said this young man will probably be better off where he is going than he has been in his own home. |
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Location: Oklahoma | Its sad to see peoples poor decisions with "problem" children end up as problem adults. Hopefully the state he is convicted in offers a mental institution, a lot of states do not anymore. I see kids (17-25ish) here everyday that could have been a lot more, if someone had just taken the time to help. It really is sad. While prison will keep him from hurting someone else, if won't be a safe place for him. 'Chomo's' do one of two things around here. Get the crap beat out of them, get extorted and end up requesting protective custody, or become someone's b****. Usually the former, as most gangbangers have no tolerance for child molesters. |
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