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| ridejg - 2014-10-28 9:25 PM
txkrystal - 2014-10-28 7:05 PM Many prayers for you. I was in a rough relationship for the past two years. I finally got out of it in February and it took me a while to get out of it. But I am now doing awesome. If you don't go to church I encourage you to go it will make your week go by better. If you don't already I also encourage you to read your bible daily. It will also help your day go by better. I didn't believe it when my mom told m to do so but im passing good information down to a person who needs it . Big hugs.
Yes...look for a church that you can feel comfortable in...join in, make new friends there. There are good people all over, that will put a smile on your face, but we need to be willing to reach out and make that first move....also embrace the thought "Bloom where you are planted"...
We are all responsible for our own happiness...no one can do that for you....your dogs need you...and you need them....enjoy long walks with them, and pray while you are walking and think of all the good things in your life....of which there are many....truly.
Ditto to the above - when we are searching so hard, God is waiting to help. Look to your Bible, call your family, and pray.
Find a church you are comfortable at ... hop on the internet and get to looking girl. A good pastor can help and at the very least can point you in the direction of low cost or free counseling. When we hit rock bottom and feel we have no place to go is when we find our inner strength. Volunteer, find people who are honest, good, hopeful people - allowing yourself to get out of the house is the big first step.
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Location: Never in one place long | Pm'd you! Please watch W.F. Harley's 6 counseling sessions on youtube. It helped us immensly!! Have you tried the Love Language quiz or read the book? This also helped us a ton! On another note, if there is violence in the home or you are fearful for your life or that of anyone elses, walk away, you deserve better!
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Individuals do not meet by chance. They ARE necessary in the experiences of others, though they may not always use their opportunities in a spiritual way or manner.
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| F Bar - 2014-10-28 7:00 PM I have been on the fence about reaching out and exposing my situation but I feel as if I have reached the end of answers that I am capable of finding on my own. My marriage is new. It was last minute and rushed. It has already suffered a huge blow ending in issues with both our families. We bicker like cats and dogs . I am need and need affection. He is closed off and doesn't communicate. I left once after a blow out and a broken home. I hurt my family and those who helped me in a state of total despair when I got back to California and came all the way back to Idaho because we promised each other things would be different. The words we have slung as weapons can never be forgotten. Do people who truly love each other cut each others necks verbally?
Im once again with no support system and I feel as if I am alone even in my marriage. We go through the motions every day but the truth and love feels absent. I feel as though I have lost my identity , my feeling of self worth. There is no room for growth or career opportunity for myself in this tiny dead end town. I cook, clean and keep the house in order but I feel as though I lost who I am. I have my two dogs , the other two were adopted out in amazing homes after the last disaster. The dogs can sense my pain and I can see the tension taking a toll on them. Leaving and the heartache involved seems undoable and overwhelming. The thought of that drive alone makes my stomach turn and my eyes pour tears. The thought of sitting here feeling dead inside gives me the same feeling. I cannot find myself , I cannot make the long days hes at work and me alone pass. Every day is groundhogs day. There are not enough books to read to keep me busy. Outside it is already in the 40s as a high . I don't know how to find the answers anymore .I don't know what to do to regain myself. My family is bias and I cannot afford a counselor. Is there a missing path that I have overlooked? How do you find yourself when you have been broken down so far? How bad does something have to make you feel in order to walk away? I don't know why I am sharing this or what answers I'm hoping to fnd but I know I truly cannot keep it on my chest anymore. If anyone has been in this spot please show me a sign. Ive never felt so alone.
We do not get self worth from others. We can't truly find out who we are, what we want, what we deserve, by looking at others for the answer. He may or may not be the one you are suppose to be with, Idaho may or may not be the place you are intended to live, but there is a reason you are where you are. There is somehting to be learned, either good or bad. Ask yourself, Why did you marry him, why were you willing to move to Idaho, what did you think it was going to be like, what is there to gain from the situation you are in now, what can you do to better this situation, and is it time to walk away? If the situation you are in doesn't make you happy, change it!! |
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