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Location: Texas | I read the OP, a few comments and the last post. That being said I would tell him how I felt and why. If he continued doing it I would have 5 days to pack my things. |
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Location: Georgia | I have a lot of sympathy for your friend. Many prayers and well wishes for her during the Christmas season. It's no longer a marriage when the wife becomes the "other woman" to her husband.
Edited by Klittle3 2015-12-23 5:25 PM
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Location: KS | ThreeCorners - 2015-12-23 4:09 PM sodapop - 2015-12-23 9:11 AM ThreeCorners - 2015-12-23 7:13 AM He tried telling his wife she had nothing to worry about and that the "friend" was "Older". The wife pushed for a dinner get together. Husband at first thought good idea and then refused. A few weeks went by and then the 2 drivers were stuck for 2 days at a truck stop due to weather, the wife again pushed for a dinner meeting because the "friend" was sitting right there also. So they had dinner at a local restaurant last weekend. She was feeling very positive about the dinner get together and was just certain she was going to meet a "older" plain jane granny type. Ummm, no. In walks a cute little blond definatelly younger!!!!! Far from the older granny type he tried to paint her as. Wife said she deserved a medal for sitting there shining it all on and acting like everything was a-ok. They ( husband as friend) spent the whole time talking about how much they know each other,how much they have in common, how much she detests church and christians, and she even likes to bake and brought him cookies the week prior!!!! When the wife got her dinner and her baked potatoe was VERY undercooked, the trucker "friend" popped off with "Most people like it hard." Who on earth turns a undercooked baked potatoe into a raunchy sexual joke remark? No, the dinner didnt help the wife at all and when she made any kind of unfavorable account of this dinner to the husband after they left, he defended this friend and belittled the wife for not thinking she's as wonderfull and funny as the husband does. Actually the dinner did help the wife she just doesn't seem to know it. She needs to analyze the whole thing and decide her next move. Only she knows really what kind of relationship these two have and what needs to be done about it. A bit off topic.....the "hates Christians comment". Does he hate Christians as well? What about your friend, the wife? That seems like odd dinner conversation and an odd thing to have in common. How old are all people involved? Trucker or not the potato joke was weird. I know truckers who know when and where to be appropriate. I can only imagine their conversations if she felt comfortable enough to say that.
I feel like this is the biggest red flag. |
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Doggy Diaper Designer
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Location: WI | I am recently divorced.. Not for this same issue.. But I can say that first, I offer the biggest hug to this wife.. Prayers for you dear.. This is a miserable situation to be in and so hurtful.
Don't call any of the other people, it's not their marriage.. It's as simple as he needs to respect his wife and end this or wide needs to send the marriage. Not sure what state she is in, but might want to find out about the divorce laws.. Some states will hold affairs against you in court which could work in wife's favor if need be.
I pray they come out of this ok and better, but I'm skeptical.. |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | OK I thought that this woman trucker was married? |
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 Off the Wall Wacky
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Location: Louisiana | I can tell you this, and I haven't read through any replies...
Even if it was completely 100% innocent, but I told my husband it bothered me, he would stop. He respects me.
That said, I don't go around demanding he doesn't see people. I'm not the jealous type and neither is he. So if I were to bring it up, he would know it was a genuine concern.
I can see both sides here. |
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| Absolutely sounds like an emotional affair, if it hasn't become physical yet. People typically don't just fall in to bed together, it starts as something innocent and progresses.
If she is so inclined, there is software that can be installed on his phone (if he ever leaves it alone and not password protected) where she could actually see how "innocent" their conversations were.
I would absolutely see an attorney as soon as possible, state laws vary a LOT on community property, custody, etc. She should have one on retainer just in case-if there's a chance she's going to kick him to the curb. She should also start stashing back some cash if possible.
Nothing is going to change unless HE decides to and it doesn't sound like he's interested. |
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