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| That will simplify matters.
Now the most the state will allow the mother to do is sever her rights or they may opt to sever her rights for her if she is as bad as you describe, but that is a big maybe. She probably will try to fight it because she risks being saddled with child support. If your brother puts the child on state medicaid, TANF or SNAP, the state will order her to pay child support.
Edited by SloRide 2017-03-22 11:08 AM
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| SloRide - 2017-03-22 11:07 AM That will simplify matters. Now the most the state will allow the mother to do is sever her rights or they may opt to sever her rights for her if she is as bad as you describe, but that is a big maybe. She probably will try to fight it because she risks being saddled with child support. If your brother puts the child on state medicaid, TANF or SNAP, the state will order her to pay child support.
He had said he would not request child support from her, in order to pursuade her to sign over custody. He has not been on any state or gov assistance. |
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Location: OH. IO | Just wondering how this is going???hoping it over and done with and your brother is happy? |
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Location: IN MY OWN LITTLE WORLD AT LEAST THEY KNOW ME HERE | Get a good attorney and start there.
Get the best he can afford in child custody cases.
The attorney knows the steps to take.
DNA tests?
Courts will decide and order!
Every judge in each district or parish is different.
A mother has to be a repeat offender w the legal system and pretty sorry before a child is take away.
Documentation/dates/times etc of every transaction and contact w her.
The more hard core proof he has on paper the better his case.
Heresay he said she said or she said this on the phone blah blah blah
Will not be admissible - its gossip
I'm happy to see a Dad stand up and wanna raise his baby :0)))
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| I would contact the parish attorney first to see what is needed. Not too many guys want to be put on the birth cert. They are usually trying to deny paternity so a DNA test may not be needed. It actually might be easier to adopt than go through the birth certificate thing. I don't care if that is what your wants BUT take the path of lease resistance. Since the parish attorney is free he would know best what to do. (Or the district attorney). |
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| Just to give you hope! My hubby has had full custody since his boys were 3 and 4 and this was decades ago. His first advice is always to be the one to file for custody first and have the children in your possession, but your situation is different with the birth certificate and not being married. Prayers for your family. Good guys can win!
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Go Get Em!
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Location: OH. IO | Any updates? |
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Location: Tex. Panhandle | I agree with everyone get an attorney. Most give a consultation for free if not free, they are not hugely expensive. When my husband adopted my oldest, it cost us less then 1500 to get the whole deal done.
Now ..... he needs to document EVERYTHING. I know it might sound silly, but he needs to go back and start when the kiddo was dropped off. When she brought him, if it was supposed to be temp or long term, what condidtion was the child in ect. He also needs to keep track of how often she makes contact; does she call, come by and so on. IF she makes physical contact, keep record of how SHE appears. Is she alone, does she has transport, is she high, is she with shaddy friends. He also needs to keep record of dr bills, medical, daycare anything that the mom should be paying for. This will show a) she is NOT invested in the child and is unwilling to help and b) he has the means and ability to care for the boy. All of that will greatly help any attorney and wil go along ways with a judge.
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