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| Do any of you have one? Of so, how do you manage so that everyone stays happy? Mine isn't exactly "non" horsey. He really enjoys riding and working with the horses. His philosophy (sp?) is that I (as in me) know horses and he has a hobby he can simply enjoy when he feels like it, no upkeep. I however, since we are now getting nice days again, am all about horse work. I know once we are into regular warm days I will have alot done and won't feel like I have to milk every nice day with the horses for all it is worth. But are we ever fighting about it right now! I have heard many times that "horse people are a different breed". So how do you co-exsist with a non-horse consumed "other half"?
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Location: On the Coast, AL | Wow, do I know how you feel. With my significant other, he feels if you can't put gas in it and turn the key, there's no need for it. It is not that he is not supportive, it's just that he simply has NO interest. Very difficult to keep the balance. Very much give and take. |
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Location: Florida | My other half comes from a non-horsey background. We balance very well because I have my hobby and he has his, which is cars. You have to be fair and show interest in what they like to do. I go to his car shows and he goes to my horse shows. He's also sort of grown into liking horses. He was with me when I bought my horse as a baby and watched him grow up. Now he enjoys riding him every now and then. And MAN does he love pulling the horse trailer!!  |
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Location: Omaha, NE | What a coincidence, I posted a post KINDA like this on "the other" board earlier today. Hubby has been all over me about how much time I'm spending with my horses right now. I have to go to the barn every day because my barrel mare foaled so she and baby are in a stall and it's self care. I spend 2 1/2-3hrs a day driving to the barn and doing my thing (mucking and riding my reiner) and driving back home. I don't think that's an irrational amount of time, but he does so I have to adjust it some how. He also likes the horses but it's not his passion like it is mine. I mean it just runs in my blood. It's definitely not an easy task co-habitating with someone who doesn't live for the horses because he just doesn't get it. But I'm not really sure if I would want to be with someone who was just like myself. Too much competition, LOL. |
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| Racey and BLVD, I laughed when I read your posts! Mine is a complete deisel truck freak and boy will he come RUNNING when it is time to haul. I am lucky he atleast likes them and has some interest...I think we are just having "one of those days". But hearing about how everyone balances it is good. I'd rather cope happily than fight like today! |
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| Originally written by CissyGirl on 2004-04-01 11:43 PM He also likes the horses but it's not his passion like it is mine. I mean it just runs in my blood. It's definitely not an easy task co-habitating with someone who doesn't live for the horses because he just doesn't get it. QUOTE] Ditto! I think dealing with us horse chicks will get easier once the good weather is more sparse! |
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Location: Texas | My husband and I have been married 23Yrs, he doesn't care anything about horses. But he has his own things like cows, bulldozer, tractors. He also bales all our hay which is very helpful. He said I could have horses ass deep in the pasture as long as he doesn't hve to take care of them. But it took alot of years of fighting before he gave up and decided the horses were here to stay. Point of this story is if you can stand it,it usually gets better. At least for me it has. |
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| Here too. He likes them, will ride them with us, but constantly complains about the cost of feed or vet bills !
He wants a new motorcylce, I want a new horse... I usually win. But once they are here he loves them, but I feel like if they all disappeared tomorrow he wouldn't even notice. |
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Location: Wisconsin | Same here too.........mine is into mud trucks/atvs/cars...........he's great being around the horses, but just HATES riding, he tells me they don't have suspension in them! But he just doesn't have the desire to learn how to ride and I could care less on learning about engines and trannys.........so I think to make a relationship work both need to accept each other's hobbies and support one another and definetly go along to watch or just be there once in awhile. We do and we don't have too many disagreements. Geez I sound like a counselor now |
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Location: N. Texas | Sometimes you should consider yourself lucky!!! My fiancee is a professional horseman- I am constantly being yelled at if I do anything wrong around the horses, from the way I lead one, to the way I put on my bridle, and even if I am riding with my fingertips, I can think of many more examples too! And I have been riding my entire life! I have to work soooo hard to keep our place up, it has to be maticulate, and, we don't do anything that doesn't revolve around horses, except maybe see a movie every once in a while. Now, don't you appreciate your non-horsey guy? It makes your hobby much more fun!!!! (now, ask me on another day, I might have a different answer, but I am home alone right now and having to do all the work!!) |
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Location: Arizona | Originally written by RaceyMae on 2004-04-01 11:37 AM Wow, do I know how you feel. With my significant other, he feels if you can't put gas in it and turn the key, there's no need for it. He simply has NO interest. Mine is like that. The only thing he does with the horses is feed them in the am. I told him I will do it, but I leave for work much earlier than he does. My s/o races motorcycles. He don't go to my barrel races, so I don't go to his races either. Most of the time they are the same weekend anyway. He is very jealous of the time I spend with the horses. And most of it is when he is at work. I go to work real early and come home at least 2 hours before him. He comes home and turns on the TV, and its never nothing I want to watch, SCI-FI stuff, so i am gone outside again. So most of the time it seems we get further and further apart. |
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