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Location: nearby | FlyingJT - 2014-04-10 11:00 AM
The only thing we both try to do is take time to do what the other likes to do. He's really into hunting so every so often I'll go with him, not that I don't have horses that need to be rode, but I just do it because he enjoys it and makes him happy. He'll help me ride a few of my barrel horses, not that he likes them at all or thinks they are worth a darn thing, but he does it because he's spending time with me doing something that I like or need help with. Neither one of us could care less about going out to eat, or bars, etc. So sometimes we'll grab a twelve pack, fishin poles, and sit on the tail gate for hours. Or drive around "checking cattle" and talk, reminisce, talk about our future plans. We're both pretty competitive and more often than not we get into some competition that makes us laugh and cut up. We are simple people and enjoy the simple things. We've been together over 10 years and married 6, 2 kids and too many animals.
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Location: Never in one place long | hammerdown - 2014-04-10 12:51 PM
Something simple are theme nights or holidays. For example, for St Patricks we had Mexican/Irish night. We made tacos with extra avocado (for green), margaritas (green) and I stopped off at a local bakery and got two shamrock frosted cookies.  I heard Saturday is National Grilled Cheese Day. I am thinking about getting creative with grilled cheese that day!Â
Very cool! Sounds like something I'd like! |
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Location: Lala Land | Advice I was given was to never stop being intimate.
After 10 yrs we still try to go to dinner once a week, nothing fancy just dinner and a few drinks. After work we take time to air out the work drama and head out to the barn. I think the most important thing is to make the most of the time you do have, don't sweat the small stuff, and remember why you married him in the first place (that helps me when I want to choke him).
Also, there's a great new song called Stripes by Brandy Clark.
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Location: Argyle, NY | Everybody is busy - trying to make time for each other is huge. Especially for us right now- I work the typical 8:30-4:30 M-F job, hubby is working (yeah!) but at a farm job - he leaves at 11:30 am and doesn't get home until 2:30 am! We NEVER see each other - he is working another farm job on his "days off" - so if we actually see each other a few hours a week it is big - stressful to say the least! |
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Location: Alberta | Lana - 2014-04-21 7:04 PM dream_chaser - 2014-04-10 11:44 AM
Hubby and I both enjoy riding horses and outdoor activities.......even tho we both have different events we do with them, we can always go for a nice trail ride together (ive even come roping with him). Movie nights as well have been something we do together.....we are thinking about doing a mountain trail ride this summer....
............if you live on an acerage or farm, just spend time together doing stuff in the yard or whatever! Going away for a weekend, even if it's just to the closest bigger centre and spend the weekend in a hotel....turn of cell phones and (if you have any) leave kids with someone (if you can) If you do a mountain trail ride come down to my neck of the woods. There's a ranch down here that would do a nice weekend ride/ bed and breakfast. Awesome people.
 Oh its not a "just us" trip as he apparently already has been planning with his buddy and his wife to come along......gone goes the romance  |
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Location: Blissfully happy Giants fan!!! | horsesinharleton - 2014-04-10 2:34 PM Make it a PRIORITY to make time for each other, have a kiss that lasts at least 15 seconds everyday, and have sex as often as possible!! This is coming from someone about to celebrate 35 years of marriage!!! 
This. GREAT advice. Hubby and I work different hours with different days off. BUT, we try to make time for each other. Sunday mornings are usually our day. We get up, go to church, eat out and grab groceries and then he heads off to work. We almost always tell each other, "I love you" when we end a conversation. We tell each other everything and what we are planning on doing so if we can, we can be together.
Also, we laugh a lot. I think it is one of our greatest strengths. Laughing and joking around.
A common activity is helpful. We are season ticket holders to the SF Giants. I love the Giants and so does he. We talk about them all of the time and went out for the home opener and the first 6 games. Dave came out the last 3 because of his time off schedule. But we had so much fun and it was great to do that together. We are going back out for the Dodger series on his birthday. I cannot wait.
Hubby doesn't do horses. He fixes the trailer and helps get horses to vets and feeds when I am away but doesn't really care all that much about them. He plays computer and video games. I care nothing to do any of that. So common time and a common activity are big for us. |
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