My husband hates that I barrel race

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roxieannie Reg. Sep 2006	Posted 2014-04-14 10:54 AM Subject: RE: My husband hates that I barrel race
Dog Resuce Agent Posts: 3459 Location: southeast Texas	What 3,4 luck said.
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Brrlracengirl Reg. Jul 2012	Posted 2014-04-14 11:11 AM Subject: RE: My husband hates that I barrel race
Elite Veteran Posts: 685 Location: Arkansas	Just Bring It - 2014-04-14 10:36 AM I am a little shocked by all the suggestions to get a divorce, move on, trade him in, etc. The comment that you won't change for any man I'm sure didn't do much to make him feel very important either. While I don't feel you should necessarily change sometimes you do need to compromis in a marriage. If there is no compromise then no marriage will work out. If you have never compromised in the marriage then he has been doing it all and I'm guessing he is tired of being the one doing all the compromising. He started up barrel racing for you. He is building stalls for you. What have you done for him? Do you try to share his hobby of off-roading? When you two are together at night do you just sit in front of the TV or do you two actually interact with one another and be a couple and not just roommates? Maybe make the choice to not go to a big barrel race some weekend and instead take him on a road trip where he has always wanted to go or a place you two share some good memories. Show him that he is more important that some stupid little barrel race. There will always be another barrel race but there is only one him! The comments about divorce from so many so called Christians is sad. You made a promise not only to each other but to God to be there for each other through the good and the bad. To say that barrel racing is more important than your promise to God is just heartbreaking to me. If that is your attitude then I understand your husband's hostility to barrel racing. Men often times have a hard time talking about their feelings. Not only because they feel "less manly" but because they honestly don't know what their feelings mean. All he knows is he doesn't like that you are gone barrel racing all the time but he hasn't put it together that the reason he feels that way is because you are gone enjoying something without him. Sit down and TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND. Find out what is really bothering him. Do not yell at him, do not storm out of the room, but sit down and calmly talk to him and understand what he is trying to tell you. Don't get defensive but LISTEN!!! He is the man you chose to marry and give the rest of your life to. He is the man you promised God to love and look after for the rest of your lives now take the time to sit down and listen to him. Well said!!
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Whiteboy Reg. Jul 2012	Posted 2014-04-14 11:14 AM Subject: RE: My husband hates that I barrel race
That's White "Man" to You Posts: 5515	Fairweather - 2014-04-13 10:43 AM I was married to a guy that complained about anything I did with the horses. I left. The horses weren't the real issue. What is the basis of his complaint? When you fight, what is it that he's complaining about? I would get specifics and get to the real issue and try to address that. If you can't narrow down the real issue or nail down a specific reason, then it's not about you, it's about them, IMO. Here's the thing... life is short and we're not guaranteed tomorrow. You can put all your energy and effort into trying to make someone else be happy and die tomorrow or have your life completely altered in two seconds. And what would you have gained? In the big picture of life what do you really want? What really makes you happy? Bottom line, ultimately no one is going to make sure you're happy and taken care of but you and life is short. I couldn't disagree with you more. My wife is everything to me! Hobbies are only temporary, people are what matters. I feel really sorry for those of you who still don't understand that.
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dream_chaser Reg. Jun 2006	Posted 2014-04-14 11:15 AM Subject: RE: My husband hates that I barrel race
Chasin my Dream Posts: 13651 Location: Alberta	RidenFly - 2014-04-14 9:43 AM Time to asses what's important to you. All that commitment you invest in becoming a winner in the arena needs to be redirected and balanced to becoming a winner in marriage. Not many of us are ever going to be running along side Cervi. You have to be realistic while chasing your dreams. Good luck and hug your guy and try and talk to him. Good luck. ditto.......
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Longneck Reg. Mar 2004	Posted 2014-04-14 11:37 AM Subject: RE: My husband hates that I barrel race
Rad Dork Posts: 5218 Location: Oklahoma	How many horses are you running? If you're running more than one horse can you sell some (or one) so that you can cut back on your bills and time commitments to those horses... and maybe quit one of your jobs so that you can dedicate more time to your husband? I'm glad to see that your husband has hobbies of his own and can spend some time independently, but if you have no extra time to really spend with him I can't say I can fault him on complaining. Please don't try to value chasing a saddle more important than time with your husband.
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