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Location: Where the stars at night are big and bright, TX | want2chase3 - 2017-05-17 8:49 AM I agree... we've been way to lenient with him.. his grades were stellar up until baseball started, to be honest. His dad fills his head with baseball this , ball that, you are the best on that pathetic team etc etc.. I know this because, my daughter tells me the things that are said at his home! I'm all about my kids having confidence and being built up, but with that, they also need to be taught to stay humble and most importantly, respectful! The boy asked me this morning for $2 I asked what for? He said to buy a jersey at school. I almost gave it to him, but then I told him, you know what, no.. you haven't even apologized to me about yesterday, he muttered out a apology, then asked well where's my bday money? Lol! I said I'm in charge of that too buddy and you aren't getting a dime today. When I dropped them off at school, he wouldn't even say goodbye to me and he obviously was really upset! I couldn't help but question my decision on my way home. I've just gotta believe I'm doing right by him and I really hope this ugly ungrateful, snooty phase will pass!
As my husband says, he can get mad and glad in the same clothes. 
You put it back on him to think about actions have consequences...that's good. Don't question yourself. All he has to do is say he's sorry, show some respect for family, apply himself again...he had the grades once. Set a limit about grades and ball and get dad to stick with the expectation. Doesn't sound like a hill your kid can't climb. 
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want2chase3 - 2017-05-17 11:28 AM Red Raider - 2017-05-17 11:13 AM want2chase3 - 2017-05-17 10:14 AM FLITASTIC - 2017-05-17 9:30 AM GREAT JOB MOM!!!!!! I am a high school teacher and COACH!!!!! Unfortunately things like this need to happen!! We have some pre madonnas who play sports and think they have the teachers, parents, and coaches begging for them to play!!! Academics come first!!! The absolute best thing you can do is have your SON go to his COACH and TEAM MATES and EXPLAIN to them WHY he didn't play!! Look them in the face and say " I was warned about my grades, I did not learn from my warning and I was not allowed to play". I really wish your EX would be on board with you, and his coach. THat would fix that problem real quick. Sounds like he is going to cry to daddy and coach and make you out to be the bad guy. Hang in there!!!!! My mom warned me if I didn't ride my horses I couldnt go to the rodeo. And guess what......... I didn't go!!!! I too wish he would be on the same page as me... his passive aggressive approach with me this morning on the phone just confirmed one of my worst fears! He will sit there and say he agrees with me and has my back, but then he threw in that maybe I should let my son go live with him and go to school out there.. ummm no.. he!! No!!! He said perhaps a change of environment will help him.. I told him no.. not happening.. he's going to learn to adjust to THIS environment. He's not some troubled kid, failing every grade, getting in fights at school, etc etc... he's an 8 yr old boy who believes he's entitled and wants everything his way. I told my ex I'm gonna be his momma and that's all there is to it! For once in his life, he didn't try to speak over me lol! He then went on and told me the only way our son would play out here next season would be if he gets to be the coach instead of those "hillbillies". Told me everything I needed to know right there... my boy isn't going anywhere until he's old enough to make his own decision. And I do love the idea of making him face his coaches and teammates today at practice and apologizing for not being at the game yesterday. I totally understand and respect what you are saying here, but you have no idea what type of person my ex is, granted we've come a long way and are trying to co-parent as best as we can... I do not call him to rant or vent I call him when I'm making a decision about our son, especially when it comes to holding him back from a game since my ex drives an hour to be there for it. This is the man that divorced me and asked me to leave "his" house when our son was just 3 months old, same guy that told me he most likely wouldn't be spending much time with the boy because he didn't want to get too close to him because he knew ultimately I would remarry and another man would be raising him. I don't want to get too off topic here, but just giving you a little insight to this persons mentality here. Like I said, we've come a long way to try and get along and communicate when it comes to the kids, because there was a time where we couldn't be in the same room without daggers flying. My ex is extremely arrogant, pompous and narcissistic and I don't want my son to be anything like that and I've just been seeing little things here and there that have me concerned.
You are correct, he's a very controlling person, he's 10 yrs my senior also and still thinks he can control or manipulate me while trying to be smooth and act like he's got my best interest in mind.. I use to buy that.. but not anymore.. I honestly thought we had lost connection today over the phone because he was so quiet when I was saying my peice about our son NOT moving out of my house.. I was pretty heated and I was he!! bent on getting my point across. | |
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Location: Arkansas | want2chase3 - 2017-05-17 7:37 AM
Thanks ya'll. He still hasn't apologized to me about the incident, and he really didn't seem overly disappointed by missing his game.. he's got another coming up Friday and I sure hope he pulls himself together before then, I believe there are 3 games left in the season. My theory is that his father thinks and has always thought we live in a little rinky dink farm town... i.e. hillbilly central... which is far from it! We love our little town, it is a farming town and yes, we have a very small school but it's great and safe! Dad lives in a big city and thinks they have a much better program but it's about an hour away.. he's put a bug in my son's ear about playing out there instead. Which won't happen, and I put THAT bug in his father's ear!
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Location: Arkansas | TrailGirl - 2017-05-17 7:45 AM
We need more parents like you raising the kids who will one day be the adults we all have to deal with. Your son knew what the consequences would be...and yet he lied and failed and didn't improve his attitude. He is fortunate to have at least one adult in his life that will hold him accountable.
Those other "adults" need to be reminded that What we Allow...We Reinforce. Shame on all of them.
Hold your ground. Be fair but be firm.
I like what you said----and also what we allow, we will deal with in the future. . . .
When Chan was about 9 or 10 he was riding in some local Jr rodeos and playdays. He started out with just the horse events. Then, Lord help us, he decided to get off a perfectly good horse that didn't want to kill him onto bulls. . . . We were going pretty much every weekend to little arenas in AR and LA. Then two of his buddies decided they wanted to ride bulls, too. So we were hauling horses and kids and loving it. One Saturday we got to an arena and I told him to get Two out and I'd help him start brushing and booting,etc. He kinda drug around and then I lost him--he had gone to "check things out" with his friends. (They didn't have horses and weren't into them at all.) I found him and I was mostly "quiet" as I told him to get his horse ready NOW. That the horse events were first and she needed warmed up. He told me he wasn't riding anything but bulls tonight. I didn't take it well to say the least. He walked off and I did what I shouldn't of course; I warmed Two up myself. For her benefit tho, not for him. When it got time for barrels, he rode, but after acted like a total turd. I told him when bulls came up that he better enjoy it, because if his attitude stayed like it was, this was his last ride of any kind--period. I figured he didn't believe me, but that week he practiced, and when we got to the arena he got Two out, sprayed, brushed (that was always my job cause I just enjoy that time with her), saddled, and booted all by himself. Shocked me to no end. I HOPE I would have held up to what I said I was gonna do, but I think you are awesome for putting your boots down and MEANING what you say. Great parenting, my friend.
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TrailGirl - 2017-05-17 7:45 AM
We need more parents like you raising the kids who will one day be the adults we all have to deal with. Your son knew what the consequences would be...and yet he lied and failed and didn't improve his attitude. He is fortunate to have at least one adult in his life that will hold him accountable.
Those other "adults" need to be reminded that What we Allow...We Reinforce. Shame on all of them.
Hold your ground. Be fair but be firm.
I like what you said----and also what we allow, we will deal with in the future. . . .
When Chan was about 9 or 10 he was riding in some local Jr rodeos and playdays. He started out with just the horse events. Then, Lord help us, he decided to get off a perfectly good horse that didn't want to kill him onto bulls. . . . We were going pretty much every weekend to little arenas in AR and LA. Then two of his buddies decided they wanted to ride bulls, too. So we were hauling horses and kids and loving it. One Saturday we got to an arena and I told him to get Two out and I'd help him start brushing and booting,etc. He kinda drug around and then I lost him--he had gone to "check things out" with his friends. (They didn't have horses and weren't into them at all. ) I found him and I was mostly "quiet" as I told him to get his horse ready NOW. That the horse events were first and she needed warmed up. He told me he wasn't riding anything but bulls tonight. I didn't take it well to say the least. He walked off and I did what I shouldn't of course; I warmed Two up myself. For her benefit tho, not for him. When it got time for barrels, he rode, but after acted like a total turd. I told him when bulls came up that he better enjoy it, because if his attitude stayed like it was, this was his last ride of any kind--period. I figured he didn't believe me, but that week he practiced, and when we got to the arena he got Two out, sprayed, brushed (that was always my job cause I just enjoy that time with her ), saddled, and booted all by himself. Shocked me to no end. I HOPE I would have held up to what I said I was gonna do, but I think you are awesome for putting your boots down and MEANING what you say. Great parenting, my friend.
Glad he turned around for you! It's tough on us moms, especially with those little boys! I'm so glad I was able to stick to my guns on him missing that game... when he came home from practice yesterday he walked into the house and came up behind me and threw his arms around my neck while I was sitting at the table. He gave me a big hug for really no reason lol! I love those moments. They are rare with him. My husband said he apologized to coach and his whole team in the dugout. Low and behold, my ex did show up too.. but my husband said everything was cool and he followed my husband's lead on the situation. (Surprisingly ). Coach told my husband he totally understood, he's a parent too to a young boy on the team. He just suggested next time that we make him dress in his uniform and they will bench him instead of us just keeping him home.. I'm not sure how I feel on that, I can see that stinging him, but that dugout is full of his buddies from school and I know they play around a lot in there. | |
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Chandler's Mom - 2017-05-17 7:47 PM
TrailGirl - 2017-05-17 7:45 AM
We need more parents like you raising the kids who will one day be the adults we all have to deal with. Your son knew what the consequences would be...and yet he lied and failed and didn't improve his attitude. He is fortunate to have at least one adult in his life that will hold him accountable.
Those other "adults" need to be reminded that What we Allow...We Reinforce. Shame on all of them.
Hold your ground. Be fair but be firm.
I like what you said----and also what we allow, we will deal with in the future. . . .
When Chan was about 9 or 10 he was riding in some local Jr rodeos and playdays. He started out with just the horse events. Then, Lord help us, he decided to get off a perfectly good horse that didn't want to kill him onto bulls. . . . We were going pretty much every weekend to little arenas in AR and LA. Then two of his buddies decided they wanted to ride bulls, too. So we were hauling horses and kids and loving it. One Saturday we got to an arena and I told him to get Two out and I'd help him start brushing and booting,etc. He kinda drug around and then I lost him--he had gone to "check things out" with his friends. (They didn't have horses and weren't into them at all. ) I found him and I was mostly "quiet" as I told him to get his horse ready NOW. That the horse events were first and she needed warmed up. He told me he wasn't riding anything but bulls tonight. I didn't take it well to say the least. He walked off and I did what I shouldn't of course; I warmed Two up myself. For her benefit tho, not for him. When it got time for barrels, he rode, but after acted like a total turd. I told him when bulls came up that he better enjoy it, because if his attitude stayed like it was, this was his last ride of any kind--period. I figured he didn't believe me, but that week he practiced, and when we got to the arena he got Two out, sprayed, brushed (that was always my job cause I just enjoy that time with her ), saddled, and booted all by himself. Shocked me to no end. I HOPE I would have held up to what I said I was gonna do, but I think you are awesome for putting your boots down and MEANING what you say. Great parenting, my friend.
Glad he turned around for you! It's tough on us moms, especially with those little boys! I'm so glad I was able to stick to my guns on him missing that game... when he came home from practice yesterday he walked into the house and came up behind me and threw his arms around my neck while I was sitting at the table. He gave me a big hug for really no reason lol! I love those moments. They are rare with him. My husband said he apologized to coach and his whole team in the dugout. Low and behold, my ex did show up too.. but my husband said everything was cool and he followed my husband's lead on the situation. (Surprisingly ). Coach told my husband he totally understood, he's a parent too to a young boy on the team. He just suggested next time that we make him dress in his uniform and they will bench him instead of us just keeping him home.. I'm not sure how I feel on that, I can see that stinging him, but that dugout is full of his buddies from school and I know they play around a lot in there.
Believe me, sitting in the dugout dressed to play but knowing you are NOT playing will be way worse than staying at home. My son was very involved in all sports and it killed him to have to set out one inning or down of plays so another kid could get a chance to play, or watch someone show his heifer because he couldn't. It is a pain to take them to the game knowing they will not play, but my experience was the moms respected me more for trying to keep my son from being that obnoxious kid who thinks the team can't win with out him or that he was too good to have to follow the rules.
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| GLP - 2017-05-18 9:12 AM
want2chase3 - 2017-05-18 9:01 AM
Chandler's Mom - 2017-05-17 7:47 PM
TrailGirl - 2017-05-17 7:45 AM
We need more parents like you raising the kids who will one day be the adults we all have to deal with. Your son knew what the consequences would be...and yet he lied and failed and didn't improve his attitude. He is fortunate to have at least one adult in his life that will hold him accountable.
Those other "adults" need to be reminded that What we Allow...We Reinforce. Shame on all of them.
Hold your ground. Be fair but be firm.
I like what you said----and also what we allow, we will deal with in the future. . . .
When Chan was about 9 or 10 he was riding in some local Jr rodeos and playdays. He started out with just the horse events. Then, Lord help us, he decided to get off a perfectly good horse that didn't want to kill him onto bulls. . . . We were going pretty much every weekend to little arenas in AR and LA. Then two of his buddies decided they wanted to ride bulls, too. So we were hauling horses and kids and loving it. One Saturday we got to an arena and I told him to get Two out and I'd help him start brushing and booting,etc. He kinda drug around and then I lost him--he had gone to "check things out" with his friends. (They didn't have horses and weren't into them at all. ) I found him and I was mostly "quiet" as I told him to get his horse ready NOW. That the horse events were first and she needed warmed up. He told me he wasn't riding anything but bulls tonight. I didn't take it well to say the least. He walked off and I did what I shouldn't of course; I warmed Two up myself. For her benefit tho, not for him. When it got time for barrels, he rode, but after acted like a total turd. I told him when bulls came up that he better enjoy it, because if his attitude stayed like it was, this was his last ride of any kind--period. I figured he didn't believe me, but that week he practiced, and when we got to the arena he got Two out, sprayed, brushed (that was always my job cause I just enjoy that time with her ), saddled, and booted all by himself. Shocked me to no end. I HOPE I would have held up to what I said I was gonna do, but I think you are awesome for putting your boots down and MEANING what you say. Great parenting, my friend.
Glad he turned around for you! It's tough on us moms, especially with those little boys! I'm so glad I was able to stick to my guns on him missing that game... when he came home from practice yesterday he walked into the house and came up behind me and threw his arms around my neck while I was sitting at the table. He gave me a big hug for really no reason lol! I love those moments. They are rare with him. My husband said he apologized to coach and his whole team in the dugout. Low and behold, my ex did show up too.. but my husband said everything was cool and he followed my husband's lead on the situation. (Surprisingly ). Coach told my husband he totally understood, he's a parent too to a young boy on the team. He just suggested next time that we make him dress in his uniform and they will bench him instead of us just keeping him home.. I'm not sure how I feel on that, I can see that stinging him, but that dugout is full of his buddies from school and I know they play around a lot in there.
Believe me, sitting in the dugout dressed to play but knowing you are NOT playing will be way worse than staying at home. My son was very involved in all sports and it killed him to have to set out one inning or down of plays so another kid could get a chance to play, or watch someone show his heifer because he couldn't. It is a pain to take them to the game knowing they will not play, but my experience was the moms respected me more for trying to keep my son from being that obnoxious kid who thinks the team can't win with out him or that he was too good to have to follow the rules.
You are doing a great job!
I'm sure you are right. Hopefully there won't be another time, but if there is, he will be benched. I think it was really helpful that my husband took him to practice yesterday and stood by his side while he apologized. They've always had a good relationship but this made it even better.. he's been in my son's life since he was just 1yr old. I sometimes wonder if my son understands the whole step dad situation, he's never asked. My hubby treats him just as his own... that includes disiplining and making decisions. I'm thankful for that! | |
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| want2chase3 - 2017-05-18 1:46 PM
GLP - 2017-05-18 9:12 AM
want2chase3 - 2017-05-18 9:01 AM
Chandler's Mom - 2017-05-17 7:47 PM
TrailGirl - 2017-05-17 7:45 AM
We need more parents like you raising the kids who will one day be the adults we all have to deal with. Your son knew what the consequences would be...and yet he lied and failed and didn't improve his attitude. He is fortunate to have at least one adult in his life that will hold him accountable.
Those other "adults" need to be reminded that What we Allow...We Reinforce. Shame on all of them.
Hold your ground. Be fair but be firm.
I like what you said----and also what we allow, we will deal with in the future. . . .
When Chan was about 9 or 10 he was riding in some local Jr rodeos and playdays. He started out with just the horse events. Then, Lord help us, he decided to get off a perfectly good horse that didn't want to kill him onto bulls. . . . We were going pretty much every weekend to little arenas in AR and LA. Then two of his buddies decided they wanted to ride bulls, too. So we were hauling horses and kids and loving it. One Saturday we got to an arena and I told him to get Two out and I'd help him start brushing and booting,etc. He kinda drug around and then I lost him--he had gone to "check things out" with his friends. (They didn't have horses and weren't into them at all. ) I found him and I was mostly "quiet" as I told him to get his horse ready NOW. That the horse events were first and she needed warmed up. He told me he wasn't riding anything but bulls tonight. I didn't take it well to say the least. He walked off and I did what I shouldn't of course; I warmed Two up myself. For her benefit tho, not for him. When it got time for barrels, he rode, but after acted like a total turd. I told him when bulls came up that he better enjoy it, because if his attitude stayed like it was, this was his last ride of any kind--period. I figured he didn't believe me, but that week he practiced, and when we got to the arena he got Two out, sprayed, brushed (that was always my job cause I just enjoy that time with her ), saddled, and booted all by himself. Shocked me to no end. I HOPE I would have held up to what I said I was gonna do, but I think you are awesome for putting your boots down and MEANING what you say. Great parenting, my friend.
Glad he turned around for you! It's tough on us moms, especially with those little boys! I'm so glad I was able to stick to my guns on him missing that game... when he came home from practice yesterday he walked into the house and came up behind me and threw his arms around my neck while I was sitting at the table. He gave me a big hug for really no reason lol! I love those moments. They are rare with him. My husband said he apologized to coach and his whole team in the dugout. Low and behold, my ex did show up too.. but my husband said everything was cool and he followed my husband's lead on the situation. (Surprisingly ). Coach told my husband he totally understood, he's a parent too to a young boy on the team. He just suggested next time that we make him dress in his uniform and they will bench him instead of us just keeping him home.. I'm not sure how I feel on that, I can see that stinging him, but that dugout is full of his buddies from school and I know they play around a lot in there.
Believe me, sitting in the dugout dressed to play but knowing you are NOT playing will be way worse than staying at home. My son was very involved in all sports and it killed him to have to set out one inning or down of plays so another kid could get a chance to play, or watch someone show his heifer because he couldn't. It is a pain to take them to the game knowing they will not play, but my experience was the moms respected me more for trying to keep my son from being that obnoxious kid who thinks the team can't win with out him or that he was too good to have to follow the rules.
You are doing a great job!
I'm sure you are right. Hopefully there won't be another time, but if there is, he will be benched. I think it was really helpful that my husband took him to practice yesterday and stood by his side while he apologized. They've always had a good relationship but this made it even better.. he's been in my son's life since he was just 1yr old. I sometimes wonder if my son understands the whole step dad situation, he's never asked. My hubby treats him just as his own... that includes disiplining and making decisions. I'm thankful for that!
I think he is going to be fine. He has a good mama and step dad to love him and keep him in line. It kinda sounds like maybe his dad is starting to see the light about sports, too. | |
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Location: Arkansas | want2chase3 - 2017-05-18 1:46 PM
GLP - 2017-05-18 9:12 AM
want2chase3 - 2017-05-18 9:01 AM
Chandler's Mom - 2017-05-17 7:47 PM
TrailGirl - 2017-05-17 7:45 AM
We need more parents like you raising the kids who will one day be the adults we all have to deal with. Your son knew what the consequences would be...and yet he lied and failed and didn't improve his attitude. He is fortunate to have at least one adult in his life that will hold him accountable.
Those other "adults" need to be reminded that What we Allow...We Reinforce. Shame on all of them.
Hold your ground. Be fair but be firm.
I like what you said----and also what we allow, we will deal with in the future. . . .
When Chan was about 9 or 10 he was riding in some local Jr rodeos and playdays. He started out with just the horse events. Then, Lord help us, he decided to get off a perfectly good horse that didn't want to kill him onto bulls. . . . We were going pretty much every weekend to little arenas in AR and LA. Then two of his buddies decided they wanted to ride bulls, too. So we were hauling horses and kids and loving it. One Saturday we got to an arena and I told him to get Two out and I'd help him start brushing and booting,etc. He kinda drug around and then I lost him--he had gone to "check things out" with his friends. (They didn't have horses and weren't into them at all. ) I found him and I was mostly "quiet" as I told him to get his horse ready NOW. That the horse events were first and she needed warmed up. He told me he wasn't riding anything but bulls tonight. I didn't take it well to say the least. He walked off and I did what I shouldn't of course; I warmed Two up myself. For her benefit tho, not for him. When it got time for barrels, he rode, but after acted like a total turd. I told him when bulls came up that he better enjoy it, because if his attitude stayed like it was, this was his last ride of any kind--period. I figured he didn't believe me, but that week he practiced, and when we got to the arena he got Two out, sprayed, brushed (that was always my job cause I just enjoy that time with her ), saddled, and booted all by himself. Shocked me to no end. I HOPE I would have held up to what I said I was gonna do, but I think you are awesome for putting your boots down and MEANING what you say. Great parenting, my friend.
Glad he turned around for you! It's tough on us moms, especially with those little boys! I'm so glad I was able to stick to my guns on him missing that game... when he came home from practice yesterday he walked into the house and came up behind me and threw his arms around my neck while I was sitting at the table. He gave me a big hug for really no reason lol! I love those moments. They are rare with him. My husband said he apologized to coach and his whole team in the dugout. Low and behold, my ex did show up too.. but my husband said everything was cool and he followed my husband's lead on the situation. (Surprisingly ). Coach told my husband he totally understood, he's a parent too to a young boy on the team. He just suggested next time that we make him dress in his uniform and they will bench him instead of us just keeping him home.. I'm not sure how I feel on that, I can see that stinging him, but that dugout is full of his buddies from school and I know they play around a lot in there.
Believe me, sitting in the dugout dressed to play but knowing you are NOT playing will be way worse than staying at home. My son was very involved in all sports and it killed him to have to set out one inning or down of plays so another kid could get a chance to play, or watch someone show his heifer because he couldn't. It is a pain to take them to the game knowing they will not play, but my experience was the moms respected me more for trying to keep my son from being that obnoxious kid who thinks the team can't win with out him or that he was too good to have to follow the rules.
You are doing a great job!
I'm sure you are right. Hopefully there won't be another time, but if there is, he will be benched. I think it was really helpful that my husband took him to practice yesterday and stood by his side while he apologized. They've always had a good relationship but this made it even better.. he's been in my son's life since he was just 1yr old. I sometimes wonder if my son understands the whole step dad situation, he's never asked. My hubby treats him just as his own... that includes disiplining and making decisions. I'm thankful for that!
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| He played last night... that honestly was the most emotional game we've had so far! Coach benched my boy for the 1st inning, you could tell the teams moral was way down.. they were losing by 4... I snuck over to the dugout and he came up to me crying saying "we are losing". My heart broke for him! They finally turned my boy loose and they ended up winning! My boy threw the winning "out" from 3rd to 1st base... we were on the edges of our seats! For the first time EVER at a ball game he ran right to me and hugged me he was in tears! I said why are you crying ya'll just won!! He said they are happy tears momma! Of course, I started crying lol!!! I was so proud of him and I truly think he learned a very valuable lesson! My ex's girlfriend was there, she came up to me and told me how much she respected me for making him sit out a game like that and she respected my "mothering". It was an AWESOME evening!
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | want2chase3 - 2017-05-20 8:43 AM He played last night... that honestly was the most emotional game we've had so far! Coach benched my boy for the 1st inning, you could tell the teams moral was way down.. they were losing by 4... I snuck over to the dugout and he came up to me crying saying "we are losing". My heart broke for him! They finally turned my boy loose and they ended up winning! My boy threw the winning "out" from 3rd to 1st base... we were on the edges of our seats! For the first time EVER at a ball game he ran right to me and hugged me he was in tears! I said why are you crying ya'll just won!! He said they are happy tears momma! Of course, I started crying lol!!! I was so proud of him and I truly think he learned a very valuable lesson! My ex's girlfriend was there, she came up to me and told me how much she respected me for making him sit out a game like that and she respected my "mothering". It was an AWESOME evening! He's the little guy at bat
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | What an awesome ending to an emotional and trying event for you. I'm proud of him but mostly of you | |
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Lickable I mean Likeable
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Location: De Berry, Tx | I will tell you this is just the beginning. When my daughter was high school rodoeing we had a deal 85 and above or no rodeo. Dad(ex) was all for it for awhile. Until her grades actually dropped. He begged me. I stood by my decision which at times led him to push my daughter to go live with him (you know better opportunities). De would decline especially after I told her I would fight it because he was only home every two weeks do to his job. We fast forward to now she is fixing to turn 24 graduated from college with a good job and fixing to get married. We talk about how strict I was with her rodeo and phone and she is so thankful. It won't be easy especially with a boy. But what you do today shapes them for tomorrow has never rang more true than watching her become the driven respectful young lady she is. It sucks being the bad guy but I just told myself this will payoff. She will be better for it. And she is!! | |
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  Angel in a Sorrel Coat
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Location: In a happy place | You are a good moma. There should be consequences for actions. I would have lost it when he shoved his little brother down. That would not fly with me. I just know this has to be so hard for you, but hang in there. | |
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