rodeomom3 - 2017-03-30 3:30 PM  Absolutely, my husband and I are on the same page when it comes to values and principals.  He is a competitive sporting clays shooter, travels 5 or 6 times a year to big shoots and there are local ones every weekend.  I usually go with him to the big shoots but for the local ones I will go do my horse stuff instead of going with him, if there is not a race I will go with him.   When our girls were rodeoing he never missed a single weekend of rodeo or any activity that the kids went to -that was our life for 10 years, every weekend and we loved every minute, kids are grown now.    I have friends that ask why he never comes to the barrel races with me, I tell them he has his own activity -shooting, I don't ask him to miss shooting and he doesn't ask me to miss barrel races.   If I have a race close to home and I can tell him when I'll be running he'll come up and watch but he's over the all day waiting around for a couple of runs.   I would say what we have in common is that we both have hobbies that we love, we both like to support each other, we both want to see the other happy.  

RnRJack - 2017-03-18 8:21 AM Or any relationship for that matter! It's always good in the beginning, maybe they think the horses are just a phase or that we will give up our time riding or in the barn to rush home and cook dinner, take care of kids etc, I don't know but I feel like it always ends in a disaster for me. I've tried compromising and lessening my time at the barn and riding (which sucks when you have young horses who need riding and seasoning). But it never works out, I feel like the horses have been a huge burden when it comes to trying to have a relationship and I've even thought about giving it up but I know I wouldn't be happy. So I'm down to one colt and one in training that's not mine and I still get crap all the time about how much time I spend at the barn. Most of the issue is that he has a child and cannot do the things I can do freely. I even took weekends off from work so every Sunday I watched his child so he could go fishing, which I love too but I did it for him. Anyway it didn't end well, I'm pretty much a bad person because I spend so much time riding and not Enough time at home (even though I rush now at the barn). But my question is....it's been a year now and he knew this from the beginning, so why does he think it will change now, I feel like I've wasted so much time :( Living in a beachy area you're not going to find men into horses so this is always a struggle for me. Anyone else have these issues? I'm 34 and feel like I'll be alone forever because of my horse obsession! Rant over