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  A Lady with Fight
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Location: NC | Southtxponygirl - 2014-02-24 1:16 PM
hlynn - 2014-02-24 12:10 PM Surgery was today. Apparently the tumor was affecting her balance and making her so dizzy she was sick to her stomach. She's in ICU now for observation for 24 hours, then she'll be in step down recovery until she's ready to go home. She's unable to drive for 6 months though. So I have no idea what will happen now. Both of her kids are over 600 miles away. Her brothers don't live close enough to drive her around. And I know she'll fight quitting her job or moving away. But what else can we do? If anyone has experience in this, please give me some advice. I have no idea what to do here Who is going to help her once she gets out of the hospital? Maybe you could go stay with her for awhile and then the other kid could come and take over for awhile again untill she gets back on her feet. Sometimes we have to drop everything to help out our family. She's going need her family for help. 
If only it was that easy. I wish it was. |
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 Hog Tie My Mojo
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Location: Opelousas, LA | I have no advice, hugs to you and your family, you are in a tough spot.
When my Mom had brain cancer my Dad took a lot of family medical leave days from work, so did my sister. My hubby hired extra help so I could be away and I took my newborn son with me so my husband just had to take care of my 4 year old son. My Dad eventually took early retirement because my Mom got to the point where she had to be supervised 24/7. You can hire help and some of it may be covered by insurance but after ins. runs out it gets very expensive fast.
Prayers you Mom recovers fully and quickly and this is a very temporary situation. |
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A Lady with Fight
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Location: NC | Thank you all.
She made it through surgery Monday just fine. They had her in ICU in recovery. She had some issues yesterday, still having the small seizures she was having before with the tumor on her spine and she was mixing up words. The Dr wasn't terribly worried, just said they wanted to keep her in ICU a while longer until she improves. She did get moved out of ICU and into step down recovery today.
We are heading out tomorrow morning after my class for Pittsburgh. It's about a 10-12 hour drive, but will be longer with the kiddos. Hoping for an easy drive up there.
Thanks for everyone keeping her in your thoughts and prayers. |
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 Warmblood with Wings
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Location: Florida.. | when my dads cancer metistisized I packed up, and rented a place by theres.. I needed to be there for them.. horses are on back burner.. its a blip in my life.. but I was needed.. im starting to balance it back out.. my life . he had his lung tumor removed and is doing well so far but its been a very hard 2 yrs.. chemos radiation surgeries etc.. Im very close to my parents though .. I do understand when we have kids though and etc.. maybe you can help the first month or two shes home til she adjusts .. and have a nurse come in .. prayers |
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 The Vaccinator
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Prayers for you and your mom and family. Travel safely.
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A Lady with Fight
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Location: NC | Bibliafarm - 2014-02-26 6:48 PM
when my dads cancer metistisized I packed up, and rented a place by theres.. I needed to be there for them.. horses are on back burner.. its a blip in my life.. but I was needed.. im starting to balance it back out.. my life . he had his lung tumor removed and is doing well so far but its been a very hard 2 yrs.. chemos radiation surgeries etc.. Im very close to my parents though .. I do understand when we have kids though and etc.. maybe you can help the first month or two shes home til she adjusts .. and have a nurse come in .. prayers
I can't just up and move. With school and kiddos and everything else. My sister and uncles have convinced her to move down here. Sister is in VA Beach so that's a lot closer to me too. She would be able to come stay every once in awhile and we would see her for holidays. I have no idea how long she'll be in the hospital. She is in step down now, but she won't be going home before her first treatment. I'll be figuring out all the details this weekend I'm sure. |
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Warmblood with Wings
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Location: Florida.. | No I just was explaining what i did. I did say maybe just stay a month and help her but thats good shes moving to you all.. |
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A Lady with Fight
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Location: NC | I have a few updates. She has decided to move down to VA Beach with my sister after 10 rounds of radiation. We had planned on her staying in a rehab center during those, but she walked out of the place 2 hours after they transferred her. She said she didn't feel right and felt like that was a place people drop unwanted people off at. Said people were screaming and all sorts of stuff. And they let her walk out! She tried to walk back to the hospital but went the wrong way and ended up a few blocks down in a whole foods store thing. So here I am, tracking my mom down in DOWNTOWN Pittsburgh at 11pm on a Friday night in single digits. I about strangled her. Put her up in a hotel with us for the night then took her to my Grandma's the next day. We got to spend some good time with her while we were there. I'm ready for her to be down here closer to me.
She seemed to be in good spirits, willing to deal with the reality of the situation though. Had to do some paperwork for powers of attorney and such. And I think the steroids she's on are making her loopy. I've never known her to be as talkative as she was or as unfiltered either. It was odd, but I just let it go.
All the research I've done on this has just made me more depressed. Everything I've seen points to months, not years, of life left. And that all depends on what works. Melanoma is resistant to radiation and the tumors are known to rupture. So I have no idea what to expect or how long she even has left. This sucks. I hate this horrible horrible disease. |
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 Angel in a Sorrel Coat
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Location: In a happy place | Prayers for your mother and you. |
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