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| Help me deal with a friend please! She is not only a friend or maybe now just an acquaintance but also a coworker. She helped me get the job I'm in and treats me like her daughter at work. When I finally said something she told me I was getting an attitude. She backed off a little but is still a royal pita!!!!! Especially when they came to me after 2 months and told me I was doing such a good job and would be promoted to the same position as her. Oh man fit hit the shan! She threw a huge fit to our boss.
Anyway this person gave me a horse a few months ago. The mare is really nice. She was given her and then did nothing with her. Mare is 4 and halter broke. That's it. She is getting another horse and had to get rid of one so offered her to me. I jumped at the offer for a horse for my husband. I know the parents of the mare and am friends with the breeder. He's tickled that we have the mare. Within a week of having the mare I was already getting on her but my husband and I have decided to send her off to be started. I just don't have the time with the hours I'm working.
Fast forward to today. She asks how the mare is doing. I told her
my husbands been working with her and is more in love with her everyday. She then tells me she doesn't like him and if she'd have known I was going to let him have her she wouldn't have given her to me. I just sat there. About 10 not so nice answers came to mind but I bit my tongue. How the heck do you reply to that??? Do I tell her shes my horse and I'll do whatever I dang well please with her??? Please tell me I'm over reacting and getting bent out of shape for nothing Cuz right now I'd like to throw her off the 2nd story balcony of our office building. |
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 Cute Little Imp
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Location: N Texas | I don't think you're overreacting at all. That was very rude of her to say that. Also, since she made the decision to give the horse away, she can't control what you do with it. Even if later on you decide to sell the horse, she has NO say in any of it. The horse is now YOURS to do with as YOU please. |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | No you'ur not over reacting, the mare is yours and you gave her to you'ur hubby to ride and hes enjoying working with her, this lady had no right to say this, she sounds like a sour puss, hope that you have this mare in your name are at least a bill of sale.  |
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I Really Love Jeans
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Location: North Dakota | Sounds like she is jealous! Just keep pushing forward and don't let her bitterness get to you. She is the type of person that wants people to worship her. She didn't get you the job for you she got it so she can be in the spot light for getting you the job!!! I had a "friend" like that years ago, she ended up trying to destroy my marriage. I called her on it and she showed her true face!!! if a person doesn't make you feel good then they are NOT your friend they are TAKERS!!!!!! |
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Extreme Veteran
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| No papers but a bill of sale and coggins. She's a mean lady. Lol I'm being nice. I knew she was going to be my biggest head ache at this job but. Its worse than I imagined. If the money wasn't so good I wouldn't be here. |
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  Warmblood with Wings
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Location: Florida.. | LOL.. just ignore her.. your mature and do your job .. no answers needed no replys needed.. Ignore her..be pleasent.. id get coggins and papers changed to my name though..
Edited by Bibliafarm 2013-12-02 10:03 AM
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | You are probably not over reacting but I would sure drop her from "friend" status. I would try to avoid any "in depth" conversations with her and do my job.
If she makes rude remarks....just smile and say "That sure was a rude remark" and WALK AWAY! She will eventually get the hint. |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Glad to hear that you have a bill of sale and her coggins in your name. 
Just smile and nod your head when she speaks to you and move on and do your job. Just dont lower yourself to her level |
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| Had a friend like this. Back away slowly. It's your horse, just tell her that you've taken over most of the training and let her believe what she wants. Not worth losing a job or a horse and go about your business and write it off as lesson learned. People are crazy. |
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The Advice Guru
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| What I would do is if she starts asking you about the horse, say something positive about her clothing ask where she bought it, then politelty say you need to get back to work, do an errand, etc.
This way you are avoiding the question by still being nice |
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Extreme Veteran
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| I wish it was that easy. We work in the same room at desks next to each other. Earlier she was throwing a fit because her daughter gave away a lab. The guys girlfriend took the dog with her to her parents for thanksgiving and the dog ran away. Now her daughter and her are upset saying that they weren't supposed to take the dog anywhere. How dare they let the gf take the dog. I looked at her, and said you GAVE the dog away. End of story. What they do with the dog is not your problem. It was THEIRS to do with. She tried to argue that they told them the dog couldn't be taken from the home. I just laughed and repeated myself. She huffed off to the other room and hasn't said another word. Fight fire with fire I guess. She isn't the person I thought she was when we first became friends. Now I don't consider her a friend but more of a thorn in my side Im forced to work beside for 55 hours a week.
Thanks for all the advice! I appreciate it. |
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