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Location: Probably On the Road to the Next Barrel Race! | Bibliafarm - 2013-12-17 6:50 PM
so you get 100 for them .. put it in box in garage..
meanwhile you let her borrow a bit to see if she likes it. nevr heard anything again from her.. so she basically kept bit instead of paying for it. for 2 yrs.. Id send her the 20 bucks if bit was 80..no explanation needed.. they know the story the agreement..
I do think 2 yrs to get her her money is odd. Id have sent a MO .. to her within a month.. period.. so both are in the wrong.. but they still owe you for bit..
Yup, what Biblia said...and don't feel bad, it's Christmas!! |
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Location: Qld Australia | Sorry Swannranch that you are going through this. As someone else said - it was not your responsibility to chase them down if they did not want you to post it.
As for the bit, all I can say is HOW RUDE. Just because she did not know the value does not mean she can just give away a bit SHE HAS NOT PAID FOR.
I am sorry, it was all a long time ago but I would not be sending all the money. As you said, money is tight, and it is CHRISTMAS. How can she expect you to suddenly have $100 to post her NOW that is suits her?
Hugs to you, I would be feeling the same. I also might just post the money because I would be ssssooooo angry but that person would be OFF my friend list and heaven help them if that ever wanted me to do anything for them again. |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Well if they didn't pay you for the bit , I would just say that we're even on the money then. Thats not right that they sold your bit to someone else. |
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Meanest Teacher!!!
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Location: sunny california | Maybe you should just give the $100 bill away and say sorry I didn't know how much it was worth..thought is was worth maybe about $20 by now....the economy ya know; besides it was used
I will take it! |
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Location: South Central Florida | magic gunsmoke - 2013-12-17 9:06 PM
So essentially you forgot you had the money and are not even sure if you have the money as a result of the wreck because it took them so long to contact you.
You loaned them a $120 bit that they gave away.
Money is tight-and you don't want to risk giving $100 of your money away in the event that you cannot find their cash that you forgot about that the girl won-and you don't have your $120 bit.
Here is my advice:
You all are both out something that is just about worth the same.
How about both sides cut losses-and move forward from here on out. These are material possessions....don't let them ruin a friendship.
BUT if that is not an option then....
I would say: "Return the bit to me, and I will send the money."
Thanks for the input. I guess that's how I feel if I get down to the root. We just both had kind of a wash.
When the truck wrecked, truthfully her money was the last think on my mind. The fact that my daughter did not die, and the truck and trailer were totaled were much more important. I had several people help me clean out the truck which was pretty mangled. Glass everywhere and twisted metal, had to crawl in and get everything I could get. I'm thinking I got it, but I can't swear. I honestly know that was in July. Pretty much we both forgot/trusted the other one would be okay.
Really...if my situation were switched, I would have give my 11 year old the cash myself if it were something she needed to buy etc. . .
I think when people say "it's really okay" when they didn't lose anything, but just tried to screw you out of something, it's insulting.
I mailed the check today. I truly believe my integrety is worth more than the bit or the $100. And it sounds silly but I would rather know I did the right thing (even if I know I got screwed). I know I won't do it again.
Thanks everyone for the input...I have been second guessing myself on everything for months now...it's that or cry, or bight someone's head off, then second guess that ... then cry . . . UGH
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Location: Qld Australia | I totally understand as I said in my first post. In response to yours - do it!!! Cry, bite off someone's head, cry a bit more and then say, 'I'm done. They obviously do not value my friendship like I valued theirs so I will waste no more energy making myself feel negative for them. I will just keep this info in the back of my head for future reference.'
If it helps, you can bite my head off. I'll take one for the team for you!!
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| That really sucks. I would ask to see if they could get the bit back, but not make a big deal of it.. or maybe a bit of cash for it... On the other hand... that chq you sent.. I would stick it in the daughters name, not the moms, then at least the kid is more than likely to get it. |
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Queen Bean of Ponyland
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Location: WYOMING | Give the little girl her money.
decide if a bit is worth a friendship. If it is then demand payment if it Isnt then get over it...its a bit.
so what we have learned here is...
dont pick up winnings and never eve loan bits out, bam, life just got easier! |
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Location: North MS | There is no way I would "eat" an $80 loss. They shouldn't have given away property that was not theirs to give. That would then make it "stolen". As a result I would only send $20. Not a penny more. They abused your trust and now are making you feel bad over what they have done.
#1 Asked you to pick up money for them (favor to them)
#2 Borrowed bit from friend who had your bit (favor to them)
#3 Never sought you out to pick up the money you picked up for them (you are not a safety deposit box).
#4 Gave away your private property (Stole)
#5 Expect full payment of money you held for 2 years- (You aren't a bank once again)
Subtract Stolen property from money held= $20. It would be the Mothers duty to make HER mistake right with her daughter.
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Location: Florida | Totally agree. Seeing that she is not going to be really able to return the bit since she gave it away, I'd consider it a loss on both ends. It was their responsibility to come get the money from you (2 years ago...lol). It's $100. If that makes your friendship with them come to an end, then it was never really a friendship to begin. You live and you learn. Sad that you can't help people out anymore without paying for it yourself. |
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  Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Ok. I read this and have a question lol...Why did she wait 2 years to call and ask for the cash? It seems you've had conversations with her at least and (today 12/17/13) she contacted you for the cash.....after she's used your bit and "given" it away......and 2 years later.......doesn't seem that she was very worried about the cash........idk what I'd do......it's not really worth all the mess and if $100 shut them up, I'd probably just give it to them OR, if I was feeling frisky, I would just say, "I gave that $100 away too." |
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