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 Cute Little Imp
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Location: N Texas | What I'm going to say is probably not going to go over very well, but you have to take the emotion out of it and stop letting her take advantage of you. Make her pay you up front for farrier and vet costs. If she doesn't pay, the horse doesn't get shots or his feet trimmed. It is NOT your responsibility to make sure her horse has the best care possible. You're letting your emotions control your decisions because you feel sorry for the horse. He needs to get the most basic care...feed, hay, water, shelter. That's it. You're enabling her by providing more than that, and you're making it easy on her (holding her horse for the farrier because she can't be there), etc.
I speak from experience. It's incredibly hard to just look the other way when someone isn't caring for their horse the same way you would. But that's the thing--everyone does things differently, and just because she doesn't do EVERYTHING you do, doesn't make it wrong.
Not getting regular trims, worming, shots, etc is not ideal, but it's not going to kill the horse. Trust me. I know horses that get feed and hay and THAT'S IT. No worming, maybe once a year trims, no shots, and they're fine. It's not my business how other people take care of their horses. Your deal was to provide a place for the horse to stay. She doesn't sound like she cares about the horse, or she'd be making more of an effort. Tell her she has x amount of time to find a new place for the horse to go. Put your foot down!  | |
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Cute Little Imp
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Location: N Texas | I wanted to add that you're helping out an ungrateful family member at the risk of your family's and horses' safety and sanity. This horse is unsafe, is mean to the other horses, and is destructive, yet you're putting up with it because you're too nice to make her find a new place for it. Make her bring feed to you...if she doesn't, the horse doesn't eat. He'll survive on hay just fine.
You need to decide what's more important...your peace of mind that your family, horses and facilities are safe, or enabling an ungrateful aunt. | |
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 I Am Always Right
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Location: stray dump capital of the world | cheryl makofka - 2014-01-05 10:46 PM justmetalking - 2014-01-05 10:27 PM Sophiebelle , I know who you are talking about. You should tell the truth, and stop the lies. You wanted her to leave the horse with you. She knows and has had more horses than you will ever in your life time. She cares deeply for all her animals, you know this to be true-yes the other two are at a stable now, because she moved and has no land now-they are cared for every day, you have swindled her out of money in the past. You said " I'm certain Karma will knock on her door " Really how could say such a mean and cruel thing-she has Lupas, isnt that enough for you-? Keep your mean and lieing remarks in that little bitty head of yours sweetheart--cause we sure would not want Karma to come knocking at your door-cause Daddy's money might not be enough to get you out of what ever Karma might bring. There is good and bad --and I only wish good for people, just thought you should rethink what you say and tell people. : . ) Lupus is a very treatable disease. With the correct meds, you can put it in remission without side effects. From my experience the meds aren't that expensive about 40/month I'm not sure lupus should be a crutch for not inquiring about ones horse or offering to pay costs
ETA: If by some weird shot in the dark you THINK we are talking about the same person, have them contact me and they can make a deposit of feed or hay and I'll retract my Karma statement. Chances are, I won't hear from them, and that means we are not speaking of the same person. 
Edited by sophiebelle 2014-01-07 1:07 PM
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