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| HotbearLVR - 2014-01-10 8:17 AM Sounds like you have a good man there rodeomom. Smart too. He understands "womanese" and knows how to cut to the chase as well.
Womanese is a hard language to master. I'd rather have to learn Mandarin Chinese. I will say that since being on BHW for the past 7 years I've started to understand womanese better. Women are curious creatures, but then again I can't imagine life without them. It's a challenge trying to translate the language sometimes, but life wouldn't be very fun without them. They are a little like trying to figure out a Rubik's cube.
Yes, I do. 25 years and he still makes me laugh every day. Love being with him. |
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | the title alone pi$$es me off........
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | isn't she the obnoxious woman that had the radio talk show? She would force people to call in and say "I am my childrens mother" when people were calling about issues with their kids? I think her thought process is similar to those that raise kids with the kids thinking we need to do everything in our being FOR THEM. When in fact our greatest generation felt happy to be able to have a nice dinner on the table when they were kids and got in from working the farm for 10-12 hours. Their parents never sugar coated anything, they were taught respect before they could walk and talk. They were taught that their parents WERE NOT put on this earth to make their every minute of every day a pleasant experience.
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Location: Texas | I've read it. The take away for me was to treat people with respect and empathize with their situation, don't take people for granted and don't nag. That goes for both men and women. |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | It cracks me up that I got a dislike, I am honestly curious as to why? Maybe you like Doc L? or that our parents/grandparents that survived the depression, WWII and still know how to take care of themselves and know what is important in life, weren't raised correctly?
I listened to her for a good summer, nearly every day while helping my husband work a fencing project. It was the only station that old pick up got back in the boonies. I am not saying she didn't have some good advice here and there, but over all she believes parents should change their entire life for their children. This creates the "poor me" society and kids that grow up and can not think for themselves as everything is every one elses fault. As for the book, I'm sure like her program, you could get some good out of it, but I don't like her general thought process. |
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Location: relocated to Texas | HotbearLVR - 2014-01-11 7:17 AM Sounds like you have a good man there rodeomom. Smart too. He understands "womanese" and knows how to cut to the chase as well.
Womanese is a hard language to master. I'd rather have to learn Mandarin Chinese. I will say that since being on BHW for the past 7 years I've started to understand womanese better. Women are curious creatures, but then again I can't imagine life without them. It's a challenge trying to translate the language sometimes, but life wouldn't be very fun without them. They are a little like trying to figure out a Rubik's cube.
Well, if you ever got it figured out it wouldn't be a challenge anymore and therefore boring, LOL. |
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| wyoming barrel racer - 2014-01-10 1:58 PM isn't she the obnoxious woman that had the radio talk show? She would force people to call in and say "I am my childrens mother" when people were calling about issues with their kids? I think her thought process is similar to those that raise kids with the kids thinking we need to do everything in our being FOR THEM. When in fact our greatest generation felt happy to be able to have a nice dinner on the table when they were kids and got in from working the farm for 10-12 hours. Their parents never sugar coated anything, they were taught respect before they could walk and talk. They were taught that their parents WERE NOT put on this earth to make their every minute of every day a pleasant experience.
I have very little respect for Dr Laura.
Yes, she is obnoxious, very cut and dry but actually she is the opposite of do everything for your kids. She can get almost down right rude when she gets a call from an enabler. She will try to discuss it but if they don't get she just cuts them off. She believes in tough love and kids have to suffer consequences and darn sure better have respect.
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | rodeomom3 - 2014-01-10 2:34 PM wyoming barrel racer - 2014-01-10 1:58 PM isn't she the obnoxious woman that had the radio talk show? She would force people to call in and say "I am my childrens mother" when people were calling about issues with their kids? I think her thought process is similar to those that raise kids with the kids thinking we need to do everything in our being FOR THEM. When in fact our greatest generation felt happy to be able to have a nice dinner on the table when they were kids and got in from working the farm for 10-12 hours. Their parents never sugar coated anything, they were taught respect before they could walk and talk. They were taught that their parents WERE NOT put on this earth to make their every minute of every day a pleasant experience.
I have very little respect for Dr Laura. Yes, she is obnoxious, very cut and dry but actually she is the opposite of do everything for your kids. She can get almost down right rude when she gets a call from an enabler. She will try to discuss it but if they don't get she just cuts them off. She believes in tough love and kids have to suffer consequences and darn sure better have respect.
That's what I never got about her. This was 14 years ago when I was listening to her on the radio and she would tell one woman one thing and then the next it, she would switch. She was impossible to follow. She was definitly rude. She would hang up on a lot of them. She was entertaining for sure. |
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| I have not read the book, but her 10 points make sense. It's very true, men and women do think much differently and we do have different values as far as what makes us feel loved and appreciated. Having these differences pointed out to us can help us realize why they act differently and that they aren't just trying to be annoying. Sometimes we need to be brought back down to earth and realize that there are 2 people in the marriage and it requires some give and take. Articles like hers probably have saved a few relationships. |
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Location: Ohio | rodeomom3 - 2014-01-10 4:34 PM wyoming barrel racer - 2014-01-10 1:58 PM isn't she the obnoxious woman that had the radio talk show? She would force people to call in and say "I am my childrens mother" when people were calling about issues with their kids? I think her thought process is similar to those that raise kids with the kids thinking we need to do everything in our being FOR THEM. When in fact our greatest generation felt happy to be able to have a nice dinner on the table when they were kids and got in from working the farm for 10-12 hours. Their parents never sugar coated anything, they were taught respect before they could walk and talk. They were taught that their parents WERE NOT put on this earth to make their every minute of every day a pleasant experience.
I have very little respect for Dr Laura. Yes, she is obnoxious, very cut and dry but actually she is the opposite of do everything for your kids. She can get almost down right rude when she gets a call from an enabler. She will try to discuss it but if they don't get she just cuts them off. She believes in tough love and kids have to suffer consequences and darn sure better have respect.
This is what I take from her too. She doesn't believe we need to do anything and everything for our kids, but she does believe that there needs to be more time devoted to the kids and family. I do believe this is a major issue with our society. Parents give all the material items and not enough of their time. I don't profess to know what the answer is except to try to find balance. I know she is a firm believer in one parent being a stay at home parent too. I don't know how the average family can make that work in today's society. I am blessed enough to be able to work part-time and my son is either with me, my husband, or a family memeber. This is truly blessing and not a reality in today's society.
Wyoming Barrel Racer, your point about the generation that was happy to have the family dinner after spendig a long day working the farm togher is actually more the lifestyle she would promote. The family working together, spending time together, and eating together. Not Mom and Dad both working long days just to buy the kids the latest and greatest toys and electronics.
As far as the book goes, I read it a couple years ago whle away at a horse camp with my son. I implemented some of her suggesions when we got back home. I got a very positive resonse. As others have pointed out, what I took away from the book was that men and women are bascially wired different. We cannot expect our husbands to see things the same way we do. If you treat him like a King, he is going to treat you like a Queen. Afterall, aren't we told "Do unto others as you would have done unto you"? She does admit that this will not work in all cases. They are just those that are not good people and in those cases, she does not expect one person to give and give and get nothing in return.
I don't agree with everything she says, but she does have some very valid points. |
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