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Location: Is it Summer Yet? | tripleE - 2014-01-21 6:16 AM I'm sure it's not the "proper" thing to do, but my Mother used to say...if you're going to cry, I'm going to give you a reason to cry and she would bust my brothers b*tt.
I use this one often, my son did get spankings and time outs. not sure about spanking a 16 mth old but she sure can handle a time out. Just keep starting that clock over again, going to be frustrating as he**. We do 1 minute / year of age, since she's 16 mths I'd do 1.5 minutes. My sone is now 4 and we very rarely have to do spankings. he's never thrown temper tantrums like yours but I find when when he gets into that completely worked up stage, I need to remove him from the situation. Washrooms are our friend, I have picked him up and removed him from my parents house. I always let him go back when he calms down, but he is often told to pull himself together. | |
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| When your daughter acts out..... address it immediately. I think every kid will push you to the edge at one point. My daughter is coming 2 in March and she can be a handful sometimes. If your kid screams, hits, or bites do something about it. If you dont believe in spanking then put her in timeout. Kids act out when they want attention, if you shut off that attention for a few mins then they will straighten up. For example: If your daughter screams at the dinner table, ask her to use inside voice, she does it again, say "this is your last warning," she does it again then you follow up with your word and put her in timeout. Sit her in a chair and tell her to stay there, If she gets off the chair put her back on there. When time out is done (about 2 mins) get down to her level and tell her why she was put in time out. Let HER say sorry. Then go back to the dinner table. She starts screaming again....follow the same process. She will realize that you are in control. There's been times where I had to do timeout 2-3x during dinner. Same thing in restaurants or Grocery stores. Step outside or in a bathroom and let her know her behavior is not acceptable. (Dont feel guilty if someone sees you punishing your kid, its non of their business) Dont ever leave what you are doing..... then she knows she won the battle. I hope everything works out and remember to breath. | |
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Location: CA | 2 things. check her foods. Sounds like a chemical imbalance. Less sugar, no soda's, more fruits and veggies. Might even be Gluten intolerant.
and she needs to know how to behave. If during dinner she acts up, put her in her room. She can't come out until she behaves. They get hungry eventially and will be good.
I did manner night at my house about once a week. We practiced for going to restaurants. They knew what was accepted and what was not. I never had issue with them, but after about 45 minutes they lost focus. Not really their fault they are kids after all.
If you are riding at an outside arena, she needs supervision. 16 months is too young to be left alone for any length of time.
I used to joke to my son's that if they misbehave I would beat them with a stick. I never had to spank my kids, but one day one of them acted up some in the grocery store and in the sweetest voice said, "mommy, you gonna beat me with a stick". The whole store got quiet, but I answered with,
no dear, I left it in the car. lol they crack up. but the people in the store didn't think it was very funny. lol | |
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