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Location: Choctaw, Oklahoma | ACEINTHEHOLE - 2014-11-03 3:32 PM
Unless your friend specifically told you not to say anything.. then your friend needs to grow up, and the mom too, from the sounds of it.
She beat me to it!
I can't believe she hasn't told her mom yet and is your friend now mad at you?!?
Sounds like they have a petty bone and don't like nice things or trips....
So that being said I think I need to go since I know all the 1/2 price meal tomes, happy hours and have reward points I need to cash in!!
Seriously though. Can you eat a taco El Gordo for me please? I'd go back just for those!!  |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | No you were not in the wrong and shame on your friend for being a baby and telling you that you blabbed whats so wrong being excited about a trip and talking to someone about it, your friend is the one in the wrong.  |
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 Cute Little Imp
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Location: N Texas | Longneck - 2014-11-03 3:37 PM
ACEINTHEHOLE - 2014-11-03 3:32 PM Unless your friend specifically told you not to say anything.. then your friend needs to grow up, and the mom too, from the sounds of it.
She never told me not to say anything, but I think she might be paying the way for her younger sister and I don't think her parents would approve at all about that... but not my circus, not my monkeys!
She's a grown woman spending her own money! Her parents can get over it!
If she owes them money, I can see them being pissed about it. Other than that, it's none of their business what she spends her money on. |
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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | Gunner11 - 2014-11-03 3:46 PM
Longneck - 2014-11-03 3:37 PM
ACEINTHEHOLE - 2014-11-03 3:32 PM Unless your friend specifically told you not to say anything.. then your friend needs to grow up, and the mom too, from the sounds of it.
She never told me not to say anything, but I think she might be paying the way for her younger sister and I don't think her parents would approve at all about that... but not my circus, not my monkeys!
She's a grown woman spending her own money! Her parents can get over it!
If she owes them money, I can see them being pissed about it. Other than that, it's none of their business what she spends her money on.
Yeah, I'm just kinda curious about that aspect, but not a boundary I'm going to get even close to! I know that her parents don't like for people to know when they're out of town (afraid of thieves coming around when they're gone & I think that's a valid reason), but their daughters live two hours away and no one locally even knows where their house is. I was just really taken aback that she hadn't mentioned it! They're very close, but I guess not in all aspects!! I don't really blame her mom for being upset about having to "hear it at the beauty shop", I'd be upset, too.... But I'd be more upset that it's been planned for so long! |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | Do NOT feel bad about this! We all share happy news like that! It's not your fault that she has a dysfunctional relationship with her mom. The fact that her mom decided to be passive aggressive and not even speak to her daughter for a few days...wow...that's like emotional blackmail by the mom. Good lord. She and her mom need to do some serious growing up in the relationship department if a little vacation planning can cause this much drama.
I sure hope your friend doesn't blame you for her family issues. She could have warned you...she didn't. So not your mistake at all.
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  Witty Enough
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Location: CTX | Nope, you are not in the wrong. If she didn't want her parents to know she should have said something. |
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| Some parents are way over protective, and can't let go of the kids when they are no longer kids. My grandparents were that way, and my mother is that way. When I tell her I am off to Vegas or where ever she wants to know everything. I keep my boundries up and say, I will call if I need anything. Sounds like she hasn't set the boundries with her parents. It won't be easy for her or a one time thing. You did nothing wrong, there are plenty of people like her parents in this world. |
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 Off the Wall Wacky
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Location: Louisiana | Your "best friend" needs to grow up. She's blaming you for not having an open line of communication with her mother. Mommy busted her and she's taking it out on you. Hopefully she realizes she's wrong and apologizes for accusing you of having a big mouth before your trip! |
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| bowersk - 2014-11-03 1:41 PM
Absolutely not. Sounds like your friend and her parents need to grow up and let go a bit. My parents always stressed to me to live within my means and be conservative with my money, and I do keep that in mind and appreciate their guidance. However, I am an adult now, make my own money and pay my own bills. I will spend my money however I darn well please; in fact, SO and I are taking a vacation to Austin, TX this week, and when I told my parents, they wanted to load up and go with us! I wouldn't let it get to you, girl!
This. None of the parents' business what two ADULTS do with their money. Now if the girls come back owing money to the casino or something...also NOT the parent's problem!! |
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I Really Love Jeans
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Location: North Dakota | You are very lucky to have friends to go and do things with!!!!! Shake it off and go and have a great time! Your friend is old enough to go but has not figured out how to get out fom under mom and dad who think they still have small kids!!!!! I would not mention it again! I still baby my teenage son and will always do that!!! Just go and enjoy, you are lucky!!! |
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 How freakish is that?
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Location: Oregon | Really this isn't a big deal. Just say sorry you let the cat out of the bag and move on. Doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong. |
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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | Thanks, everyone. We're fine... Not mentioned another word about it! I just got a little sensitive to the "blab" word, but it will all be fine! |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Longneck - 2014-11-05 8:36 PM
Thanks, everyone. We're fine... Not mentioned another word about it! I just got a little sensitive to the "blab" word, but it will all be fine!
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