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Location: **Cactus Country down in South Texas*** | Its everywhere, I don't care for any local stuff where I am at. If you are not brown nosing then consider your self not welcome. I just keep to myself, say hello and ride my horse. Because who cares, at the end of the day I just want to have fun and ride. I read a really good bible verse lastnight and it speaks volumes for it self (As one piece of iron sharpens another, so friends keep each other sharp. Provb 27:17) Keep positive people in your life, and get rid of the negative. God works in seasons, he can take the negative out and bring the postive in the next. But its up to you to let him do so. |
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| First of all if this person is rude to you she is surely rude to others. She will cut her own throat and people will stop going to her shows. I don't know how old you are but I am old and don't put up with other peoples bs. I am nice to everyone but they only get one chance. Have you ever heard "Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me"? Remember that. Distance yourself from users and negative people. I am happy that you are doing well with your new horse and hope you continue to improve. There are negative people in every walk of life. Fortunately, MOST of the people who run around here are glad to see everyone do well. |
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Location: Lost in the swamps | It's everywhere! Some people get so jealious! they will talk you down to only build themselves up! and if they don't cheer for you during your times of glory! shame on them. They really weren't your friend to begin with! That's why I have very small circle friends that encourage and help with our troubles and cheer and congratulate each other for our victories!
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| TxSweetie - 2015-03-16 3:05 PM
Personally I think its petty to pick apart a title. Geez people just lighten up. You wonder why no one wants to ask a question or have an opinion. I really think she was coming here to vent and express herself and then it somehow turned on her as the bad guy. This is really unfortunate.......
Its ok it's not the first time they have made me out to be the bad guy... Yes I was venting. I have ran with some of these ladies for years and really respected them. Until I started helping in the office I guess I've had rose colored glasses on. Their off now and I'm seeing them for how they really are. |
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Location: southeast Texas | (In a southern drawl)
sweetie, pull your big girl panties up and keep on keeping on.
picking up the green at the pay window is its own revenge. |
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The Advice Guru
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| Jazz's Girl - 2015-03-16 2:51 PM
cheryl makofka - 2015-03-16 2:06 PM
Your title REALLY DISAPPOINTED IN BARREL RACERS I find offensive and petty.
It sounds like you are having a bad experience with one, but have decided all barrel racers are evil.
If you don't like it find something different to do
Also there is the another side to the story we don't know, your personality may have changed subtly when you started doting better, you may be acting like you are better then them, non verbals can tell a lot. One example you wouldn't take time to stop your horse and have a discussion with the person, you continued to lope circles, this shows that you think she is beneath her, as you couldn't stop and give her your focus.
It isn't always the other people's fault on why they are no longer "your friends" you may need to reflect back on your own behaviours.
You may also need to reflect back on how you choose your friends, as this may be flawed.
As with everything there are bad apples in everything, what makes a person is how they deal with these situations.
You choose to lump all barrel racers, and if you barrel race this includes you too. So as your title says you are DISAPPOINTED IN ALL BARREL RACERS, INCLUDING YOURSELF.
You are the only one who can change it
Ive read a lot of your posts and I find you closed minded and offensive.
NO I have not changed because my horse keeps me humble. We'll have a good run and then 5 not so good runs. Its an up and down ride with us. I am thru with the drama and bull**** pettiness that certain riders have. I am here to have fun. And better my riding.
NO I did not stop warming my horse up to talk to her. I will not go out of my way to talk to her after the way she has treated me for the past 6 months. I will say hi but that's it. I wasn't rude in my answer. I didn't know if they were staked yet.
I hang with some of the most humble down to earth people you will ever meet. They challenge me to be a better rider. Yes there is a healthy competition between us but we all want each other to do well.
Self awareness is a continuous thing, you may not be aware of what you are a really doing.
I never said your answer was rude, but the individual could have taken your demeanour as rude.
Why even holler out in the arena to say hi, while warming up your horse? Why not wait till after you were done warming up your horse?
If you don't like this person so much, why even say hi in the first place? By hollering out in a public place, you are drawing attention to both yourself and her, she may not have wanted this.
As for what I post to replies, you are free to think whatever you want. |
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Location: So. California | I hear your frustration... Honestly, you are ALLOWING them to frustrate you and you are giving all your power away. This isn't about money, horses, rigs, or what not. This is about you allowing someone else to dictate how you are feeling. It's time to take your power back.
Take a deep breath and do NOT allow "them" free rent in your head. Only you can kick them out. Here is what has worked for me (mostly with work colleagues...)
I pray for the person I am frustrated with/resentful of. I pray for them to have good health, happiness and much love. ALL positive things (NOTHING to do with me), just general positive thoughts and vibes.
Pray for them every day for a month. Yes, every day!
You will be surprised at how you feel in 30 days, it works!
When they continue to gossip, let them and laugh on the inside. Can you imagine why they think your life is so fascinating? Maybe their life is so monotonous??? I've even asked a few that... "I was surpised that they found my life interesting, in fact I was flattered. Especially since I thought my life was pretty darn average" And, I thanked them for thinking of me so much! 
In the end, it's all about prayer and perception.
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Location: Texas | I just don't worry about it. I say hi, and if I don't get a response back, I blow it off or make a joke out of it. If someone has a problem with me, we can deal with it.. otherwise, life is too short.
To my knowledge, I haven't lost any friends when I started doing better at the jackpots. I'm sure people talk but whatever. Can't stop people from talking. |
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| Again, when a person comes on a public forum and asks for opinions, you have to expect a wide range of opinions. When that has happened to me I reread what I wrote and can usually see where I could have done a better job of presenting my issue or position. If 10 people read the same thing you will get between 2 to 10 different interpretations.
Glad that you and your horse are coming along. I am currently without a ride and working too much to have time for one anyway. But it's really getting to me.
Good luck. The best revenge is to do well! |
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| The next time you beat them do the moon walk leaving the arena then grab your crotch Michael Jackson style. |
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| Hahaha Itsme..... I trip over air! I can guarantee I would make everyone laugh if I attempt that! |
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Location: Florida | roxieannie - 2015-03-16 5:20 PM (In a southern drawl)
sweetie, pull your big girl panties up and keep on keeping on.
picking up the green at the pay window is its own revenge.
What she said. |
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Location: Oklahoma & Texas | Shake it off. ..whenever someone's rude to me or mean I just tell myself they're obviously having a bad day...who knows what demons their fighting of their own...and in the end you are the only one in control of your destiny...don't waste 1 more second dwelling on what they said or why they said it... |
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Location: Fort Bragg North Carolina | By reading some of your comments it's obvious who the "bully barrel racers" are-why be offended by the title it's true barrel racers are cruel and mean whether they are to your face or behind your back it's the sport it's the competitiveness. Everyone has done it! To the orginal post: it's everywhere in all associations I personally don't speak to many ppl at shows and I've been told I'm stuck up but actually just avoiding the gossip and I let the timer do the talking. Can't change people just do what you do keep your head up and remember why your running in the first place. Focus on you and your horse brush the haters off |
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| First of all you ASSUMED I hollered out across the pen and there were people around. Actually we were both at 1 end. And as I rode by I said hi. I say hi to everybody. Its the way I am. I didn't holler at her to draw attention to myself. So before you ASSUME and make an ass out of yourself, you need to get the facts :)
I am a friendly person. I try to hang with the ladies that are positive and challenge each other. My hauling partner is actually the one who started this association. I have a select few I will go to for advice but if someone else offers me tips I sure as heck try them out. You never know what may work. And the reason I only go to a few for advice? They are helluva good riders and their style of riding is similar to mine. Ive let 2 of them get on my mare and work her. They were able to help me even more with small issues. |
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Location: NE Pa-Gods Country | you obviously do not run in Pennsylvania at Diamond 7 or Keystone series. everyone is kind and friendly...no drama and 200+ run in the open. whether you are 1D or 5D....we all help and cheer for each other. it is truly a great place to run. the producers of these shows are racers also, so they are very attentive to the needs and ground conditions. So very sorry you had to deal with that. there are a few places around that are similar to your experience ....we just don't go there.
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Location: MD | either call her out about it or let it go.
karma will catch up. and really the people that left probably would have b**ched about the ground anyway so don't let the door hit em on the way out. This crap is everywhere and honestly I think it is way more prevalent in the barrel industry because it's so many women crammed into one spot, and spending a lot of time and money to do this. You surround yourself with the people you want to be surrounded by. Don't drag drama into your life... let that crap carry its way out :) |
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| All I can say is I understand your frustration! I didn't realize how nasty some of the girls were until a friend accidentally caught them in one of my recorded runs. I heard some nasty comments about my weight, my horse, how I ride, how pathetic I was for trying to run with them. What was even more disappointing was the smile and "great run" comments I was getting from the same group as I walked out of the arena. It truly did hurt me. But you know what you do, use it! After that I decided to move barns, took a break from racing and I worked my *ss off. The comments were my fuel and 5 months later we set an arena record and not a single peep came from them.
Jealousy runs in the blood of the weak. It's hard, but bite your tongue and focus on yourself. They are clearly going nowhere and are threatened by you. |
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