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| I had the weirdest thing happen tonight and I felt like I went back in time 10 years. Out of the blue, I had a woman message me on FB and say she would appreciate it if I didn't follow ____ on Twitter. The guy is an ex-boyfriend from college that I haven't spoken to in probably 8 years and have absolutely no interest in speaking to. I never get on Twitter and didn't even realize I was following him, but it reminded me of the days when I did date him because he obviously hasn't changed much. I told her I would unfollow him, and then asked out of curiousity, why I needed to. She said she is his fiance and she doesn't want him to have any contact with ex-girlfriends. It reminded me of the time I stalked his Myspace (ha!) page and messaged a girl on there to quit talking to him (and then we turned into friends - we chatted tonight about the message I received!). The point of this though, is that the message I got tonight made me so sad for her. If I had to guess, I bet she just found out he cheated on her, or that he's been talking to another girl, or something else to make her paranoid and now she's lashing out at the wrong people. I seriously just wanted to tell her that life is so much easier without him in it. But I didn't, because I know she wouldn't listen. I wouldn't have listened.
By the way, she is probably almost 40 and a lawyer. Not the 22 year old I expected when I first read the message. Which made me even more sad for her.
So, moral of the story. If you're messaging exes that have no interest in your boyfriend/husband/girlfriend/wife/whatever because your SO has done something wrong, do yourself a favor and dump them. I guarentee your life will be so much happier without them in it. | |
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| MissouriJen - 2015-04-11 1:05 AM I had the weirdest thing happen tonight and I felt like I went back in time 10 years. Out of the blue, I had a woman message me on FB and say she would appreciate it if I didn't follow ____ on Twitter. The guy is an ex-boyfriend from college that I haven't spoken to in probably 8 years and have absolutely no interest in speaking to. I never get on Twitter and didn't even realize I was following him, but it reminded me of the days when I did date him because he obviously hasn't changed much. I told her I would unfollow him, and then asked out of curiousity, why I needed to. She said she is his fiance and she doesn't want him to have any contact with ex-girlfriends. It reminded me of the time I stalked his Myspace (ha!) page and messaged a girl on there to quit talking to him (and then we turned into friends - we chatted tonight about the message I received!). The point of this though, is that the message I got tonight made me so sad for her. If I had to guess, I bet she just found out he cheated on her, or that he's been talking to another girl, or something else to make her paranoid and now she's lashing out at the wrong people. I seriously just wanted to tell her that life is so much easier without him in it. But I didn't, because I know she wouldn't listen. I wouldn't have listened.
By the way, she is probably almost 40 and a lawyer. Not the 22 year old I expected when I first read the message. Which made me even more sad for her.
So, moral of the story. If you're messaging exes that have no interest in your boyfriend/husband/girlfriend/wife/whatever because your SO has done something wrong, do yourself a favor and dump them. I guarentee your life will be so much happier without them in it.
I feel like if you doubt someone... they've given you reason to. In my person case, if I can't trust you we can't even be friends. Much less have a relationship together. But I'm a one chance kind of girl.. Probably why I'm still single in this day an age. I refuse to tolerate bad habits, liars, cheaters or munipulators. I feel bad for anyone not strong enough to tell someone they won't put up with it. I'm a daddys girl, he raised me to be tough. =P
But I also believe if you're not happy single, you won't be happy as a couple with anyone. A lot of young girls have a time figuring THAT one out. | |
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| I think the same. Knowing him, I'm sure he has given her plenty of reasons to not trust him. I just thought it was sad that instead of dealing with him, and the jealousy and paranoia, she is tracking down girlfriends from almost a decade ago that have zero interest in him and are happily married (and live 4 hours away!). She's going after the wrong person in this scenario.
Life is so much happier when you trust your SO/spouse and are not worried that every person he's ever met is trying to steal him from you. | |
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