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| I don't post here much but just needing some uplifting words and thoughts. I am having a very hard time right now in life. My mom is divorcing my dad. She sometimes talks to me about it more like a friend than a daughter. I told her she had to stop with that and she tries. But it is still very hard for me. It probably shouldn't affect me as I'm 26. I have moved about 18 months ago with my boyfriend. For the past couple months I have not been happy. I tried to discuss it with him and how I am feeling and he pretty much just blows it off as its my own problem. Last night at barrel club, he was running and I was cheering for him and he went to the second and I said slide your hand down! and he yells back I am! CANT YOU SEE THAT!. Just brought me to tears. How embarrassing. Then he wonders why I am upset! He did apologize for that later on that night but still. He told me he is not 100% confident on a horse yet. I kept trying to show him what I meant and how to do things (This is my horse he is riding. Always takes care of him.). He doesn't listen, or look when I am trying to show him things. I told him you need to ride more with me that is how you learn and build confidence. Jumping on at club doesn't cut it. Then I am vice president of this barrel club but I am thinking of dropping it because it is too stressful. I know it sounds silly. BUT I take vacation time to try to be there early, I board my horses out at 2 different places and usually have to make 2 stops to get all the horses I need, I have to hook up my trailer when I get there, and still drive 45 minutes. Its a lot and I have been getting, for lack of a better word, nagged at about helping and being there early for everything. This is especially irritating when there are other officers who could be helping too and don't or pick the easier jobs, like only setting up the eyes. We had a short meeting about a month ago about people helping and where and everything, I said I get here as soon as I can. Well, I got rudely interrupted by I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT. I go into my job early so I can be here by 3, I take vacation time to be here. Well you also have your horses at your house, trailer hooked up ready to roll, and live 5 minutes away. I just get so frustrated. I love the club and love to help but they act as if I don't do enough. I try my hardest to be as helpful as possible. Then my job. Its not a high end stressful job, however, I am getting so tired of being treated like I am not doing enough. I am also getting sick of when I take off early or take a day off basically being told not to, or to "realize that we are short staffed with so and so gone." This is just a rant. I'm hurting, confused, stressed, and just not sure what to do anymore. Not asking for answers, just uplifting words and thoughts. On a good note, my horse ran super awesome last night and I felt like I rode her well which is something I have been working hard to do!  | |
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Location: 31 lengths farms | Your mom probably feels like she needs someone to vent to, but you are right, it shouldn't be to you about the specific troubles in the marriage. It sounds like you are a bit over whelmed with the divorce, horses being at 2 places ( I know how that can be when I had a couple horses in training for a friend and kept them at a boarding place rather than at my home) and dealing with men and barrel racing ego  What about taking the 2 horses from one boarding place one week and the two from the other boarding place the next rather than having to run around like that each and every time? I can't even get 3 at home ridden enough to run them let alone a 4th and having to run around from place to place to do it, sounds like you just need a little more "you " time.
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| run n rate - 2016-06-24 12:24 PM
Your mom probably feels like she needs someone to vent to, but you are right, it shouldn't be to you about the specific troubles in the marriage. It sounds like you are a bit over whelmed with the divorce, horses being at 2 places ( I know how that can be when I had a couple horses in training for a friend and kept them at a boarding place rather than at my home ) and dealing with men and barrel racing ego What about taking the 2 horses from one boarding place one week and the two from the other boarding place the next rather than having to run around like that each and every time? I can't even get 3 at home ridden enough to run them let alone a 4th and having to run around from place to place to do it, sounds like you just need a little more "you " time.
I definitely do. It was easier this time as I had all my horses in one place. I am about ready to do that and go to the place further away and that I have to haul out of to go ride. Irritates the boyfriend but the other place has two of their own horses that make mine crazy and hard to catch to say the least. Which is just more crap I have to worry about. I think next weekend I will be home by myself for the whole weekend so hoping that will do me some good. | |
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| My parents divorced when I was 27. I was very upset at first but through the years am thrilled my father has found a wonderful woman that he is so happy with. I love my mother but she is a piece of work to say the least. Quit your officer position at the barrel club, become just a member and help out when you can. As to your boyfriend, I don't mean to sound harsh but that is not a big thing to get upset about. He might not have appreciated you giving him instruction just as much as you did not appreciate his response. I sent my husband a barrel pic once and he responded with " hand too high, reins too long, and a couple of other stuff. It sure rubbed me the wrong way and I let him know it. I didn't think my hand was too high at all :). In the scheme of things that is small potatoes unless you are getting upset because of bigger issues. Hugs to you, simply your life, appreciate what you do have, if the boyfriend is not marriage material, move on.
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | You can sure emasculate a guy in a hurry by correcting him that way in front of others. Unless he is asking you to coach him from the sidelines as he is running...don't. Offer him advice afterwards when it's just you guys....and...it wouldn't hut to ask him what he thought about your run either. (not that you have to follow his advice...but it's the way friends interact...and above all else you should treat each other as friends.
I'd say in general...you need to do what you can to lower your stress level. Tell mom she needs to leave you out of the details on the divorce. That's what her friends are for...it puts you in a stressful spot in the middle.
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| rodeomom3 - 2016-06-24 12:47 PM
My parents divorced when I was 27. I was very upset at first but through the years am thrilled my father has found a wonderful woman that he is so happy with. I love my mother but she is a piece of work to say the least. Quit your officer position at the barrel club, become just a member and help out when you can. As to your boyfriend, I don't mean to sound harsh but that is not a big thing to get upset about. He might not have appreciated you giving him instruction just as much as you did not appreciate his response. I sent my husband a barrel pic once and he responded with " hand too high, reins too long, and a couple of other stuff. It sure rubbed me the wrong way and I let him know it. I didn't think my hand was too high at all :). In the scheme of things that is small potatoes unless you are getting upset because of bigger issues. Hugs to you, simply your life, appreciate what you do have, if the boyfriend is not marriage material, move on.
I am planning on dropping of the barrel club officer. I know what the boyfriend said doesn't sound that bad and yes I may be a little sensitive about it. However, I have been unhappy for a couple months and have tried talking about it with him, and him blowing it off doesn't help. So kind of like the straw that broke the camels back thing. Also, he started riding with me, learning from me (and others as well). I have tried to talk to him about things in practice, and show him as well. He is marriage material and I do love him, I know it is a rough patch but I wish he took my feelings into consideration. I moved, not him. I am the one out of my element here. | |
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| I wasn't correcting so much as just cheering and reminding. Like if a friend reminds you to look. This hasn't been a problem of me cheering before but he isn't always the best in communication so I will give you that. I do ask him about my runs. I don't always give him enough credit per say so yea that I can work on. Mom is doing better about the divorce but she slips sometimes. I can't unhear what she has said. It's almost like she wants me to fix her problems and I can't.
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| Just remember you don't have to do anything. Don't feel like you have to manage the club. It's okay to drop it, especially if they don't appreciate everything you do for them. And don't feel like you have to be in a relationship with your boyfriend. You don't deserve someone who doesn't support you through everything. You deserve someone who makes your problems their problems and helps you through them. Congrats on your barrel run. Those moments are always the best. If you feel like you don't have anyone, remember you always got us.
ps. my mom always told me "if you can't treat yourself like you are enough, find someone who will do it for you" | |
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| jmcanchaser - 2016-06-24 5:07 PM
Just remember you don't have to do anything. Don't feel like you have to manage the club. It's okay to drop it, especially if they don't appreciate everything you do for them. And don't feel like you have to be in a relationship with your boyfriend. You don't deserve someone who doesn't support you through everything. You deserve someone who makes your problems their problems and helps you through them. Congrats on your barrel run. Those moments are always the best. If you feel like you don't have anyone, remember you always got us.
ps. my mom always told me "if you can't treat yourself like you are enough, find someone who will do it for you"
LOVE IT! Thank you! I am just feeling pretty lonely with pretty much no friends here...well wait I got one friend. And she is awesome I love her. This really helped me! Thank you so much. And yea that barrel run really upped my spirits! Was super proud! | |
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Location: Northwest Florida | I am so sorry to hear all of this.
I don't have advice on the parents divorcing... I'm sure others on here can give better advice and perhaps speak from experience on that.
I do however know how it is to try to teach your SO to barrel race. My husband was not experienced with horses when we met. Last year we bought him a nice, point and kick 3D/4D Flit Bar gelding that has been wonderful for him, despite the rider error. It is HARD to watch his toes point downward, him lean in and look down at his barrels... but I never call out any advice in public or at a race. I just make sure I video tape every time he rides, because he likes to look back at his videos at the end of the night. It is then that he can see his own mistakes, and I can simply agree with him and say we can work on it in practice. When we practice together I do give pointers, but never in front of anyone. I know for us girls it's nothing to call out "Look up! Kick!" etc.. but I think guys typically take that sort of instruction a little differently. I love that he wants to do this with me and I want it to be fun for him, so I try to pick as little as possible.
If he were to take me golfing (that's his thing) and yell instructions at me in front of strangers or his friends, I would probably get a little frustrated as well.
Moving on to the vice president issue - I say if it is causing you heart ache more than it's worth to you, then leave it. A position like that should be something you can enjoy.
Lastly, the job... I got very frustrated with my job a couple months ago and I put in applications at two other hospitals hiring in my area. When I got called for interviews though, I quickly changed my mind. You have to weigh the good with the bad, and remind yourself of what you do like about your job. (mine was the schedule, and the fact that I can spend plenty of time on BHW:) If you find that you could have it better somewhere else, then go ahead and apply for a new one. Maybe the excitement of a job change would be good for you at this point?
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Location: Arkansas | RachelBeth* - 2016-06-24 12:16 PM
I don't post here much but just needing some uplifting words and thoughts. I am having a very hard time right now in life. My mom is divorcing my dad. She sometimes talks to me about it more like a friend than a daughter. I told her she had to stop with that and she tries. But it is still very hard for me. It probably shouldn't affect me as I'm 26. I have moved about 18 months ago with my boyfriend. For the past couple months I have not been happy. I tried to discuss it with him and how I am feeling and he pretty much just blows it off as its my own problem. Last night at barrel club, he was running and I was cheering for him and he went to the second and I said slide your hand down! and he yells back I am! CANT YOU SEE THAT!. Just brought me to tears. How embarrassing. Then he wonders why I am upset! He did apologize for that later on that night but still. He told me he is not 100% confident on a horse yet. I kept trying to show him what I meant and how to do things (This is my horse he is riding. Always takes care of him. ). He doesn't listen, or look when I am trying to show him things. I told him you need to ride more with me that is how you learn and build confidence. Jumping on at club doesn't cut it. Then I am vice president of this barrel club but I am thinking of dropping it because it is too stressful. I know it sounds silly. BUT I take vacation time to try to be there early, I board my horses out at 2 different places and usually have to make 2 stops to get all the horses I need, I have to hook up my trailer when I get there, and still drive 45 minutes. Its a lot and I have been getting, for lack of a better word, nagged at about helping and being there early for everything. This is especially irritating when there are other officers who could be helping too and don't or pick the easier jobs, like only setting up the eyes. We had a short meeting about a month ago about people helping and where and everything, I said I get here as soon as I can. Well, I got rudely interrupted by I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT. I go into my job early so I can be here by 3, I take vacation time to be here. Well you also have your horses at your house, trailer hooked up ready to roll, and live 5 minutes away. I just get so frustrated. I love the club and love to help but they act as if I don't do enough. I try my hardest to be as helpful as possible. Then my job. Its not a high end stressful job, however, I am getting so tired of being treated like I am not doing enough. I am also getting sick of when I take off early or take a day off basically being told not to, or to "realize that we are short staffed with so and so gone." This is just a rant. I'm hurting, confused, stressed, and just not sure what to do anymore. Not asking for answers, just uplifting words and thoughts. On a good note, my horse ran super awesome last night and I felt like I rode her well which is something I have been working hard to do!
I want you to know that you have officially got folks on your side now that have your back! I'm so sorry you're going thru all this, and I'll be praying things get better. Maybe your momma isn't thinking about how you'll feel hearing all the ins and outs between her and your daddy; she might just want to talk to someone she loves and trusts. Once you make her understand hopefully she'll realize that confiding in someone else is a better option.
You said you've been unhappy the past few months--did you mean with your relationship? Or just in general? I think the first step is deciding what area you're unhappy with and making the change there. Then I bet the other parts of your life will fall into place.
I was in a riding club and just became overwhelmed because there were just a few of us that did everything. And then when it was time for our annual rodeo, people came out of the woodwork to be seen and take credit for all the hard work. I decided to "just" be a member and help when and if I wanted to. In the end the drama and hatefullness made my decision to get out of the club completely the right one for me. I miss some of the people and being totally immersed in horses all year round, but I know something else will come long when my life slows down some!
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| BigStarBound - 2016-06-24 5:57 PM
I am so sorry to hear all of this.
I don't have advice on the parents divorcing... I'm sure others on here can give better advice and perhaps speak from experience on that.
I do however know how it is to try to teach your SO to barrel race. My husband was not experienced with horses when we met. Last year we bought him a nice, point and kick 3D/4D Flit Bar gelding that has been wonderful for him, despite the rider error. It is HARD to watch his toes point downward, him lean in and look down at his barrels... but I never call out any advice in public or at a race. I just make sure I video tape every time he rides, because he likes to look back at his videos at the end of the night. It is then that he can see his own mistakes, and I can simply agree with him and say we can work on it in practice. When we practice together I do give pointers, but never in front of anyone. I know for us girls it's nothing to call out "Look up! Kick!" etc.. but I think guys typically take that sort of instruction a little differently. I love that he wants to do this with me and I want it to be fun for him, so I try to pick as little as possible.
If he were to take me golfing (that's his thing ) and yell instructions at me in front of strangers or his friends, I would probably get a little frustrated as well.
Moving on to the vice president issue - I say if it is causing you heart ache more than it's worth to you, then leave it. A position like that should be something you can enjoy.
Lastly, the job... I got very frustrated with my job a couple months ago and I put in applications at two other hospitals hiring in my area. When I got called for interviews though, I quickly changed my mind. You have to weigh the good with the bad, and remind yourself of what you do like about your job. (mine was the schedule, and the fact that I can spend plenty of time on BHW: ) If you find that you could have it better somewhere else, then go ahead and apply for a new one. Maybe the excitement of a job change would be good for you at this point?
Anyway, sorry to read all of this and keep your head up! It's bound to get better.
I always cheer so I guess I never thought it would hurt his manhood. It's not just that, he acts like a teenager when a parent is helping. I know, I am, eye rolling. That is frustrating. I am here to help and make sure he has fun. I trained this horse so I am trying to help him ride him the best he can. So that gets soooo frustrating. As for the barrel club, I am planning on quitting that. I have too much going on in my life to deal with that stress, especially when I am feeling unappreciated. We have a month break so I figure it is a good time to do that without leaving them in too much of a bind. The job is the job. I like it, but get tired of the crap that happens here. But it is a job I do enjoy and I know all jobs have good days and bad days. Things are getting better in all aspects of my complaints, lol. Thanks for the encouraging words! They do help! | |
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I don't post here much but just needing some uplifting words and thoughts. I am having a very hard time right now in life. My mom is divorcing my dad. She sometimes talks to me about it more like a friend than a daughter. I told her she had to stop with that and she tries. But it is still very hard for me. It probably shouldn't affect me as I'm 26. I have moved about 18 months ago with my boyfriend. For the past couple months I have not been happy. I tried to discuss it with him and how I am feeling and he pretty much just blows it off as its my own problem. Last night at barrel club, he was running and I was cheering for him and he went to the second and I said slide your hand down! and he yells back I am! CANT YOU SEE THAT!. Just brought me to tears. How embarrassing. Then he wonders why I am upset! He did apologize for that later on that night but still. He told me he is not 100% confident on a horse yet. I kept trying to show him what I meant and how to do things (This is my horse he is riding. Always takes care of him. ). He doesn't listen, or look when I am trying to show him things. I told him you need to ride more with me that is how you learn and build confidence. Jumping on at club doesn't cut it. Then I am vice president of this barrel club but I am thinking of dropping it because it is too stressful. I know it sounds silly. BUT I take vacation time to try to be there early, I board my horses out at 2 different places and usually have to make 2 stops to get all the horses I need, I have to hook up my trailer when I get there, and still drive 45 minutes. Its a lot and I have been getting, for lack of a better word, nagged at about helping and being there early for everything. This is especially irritating when there are other officers who could be helping too and don't or pick the easier jobs, like only setting up the eyes. We had a short meeting about a month ago about people helping and where and everything, I said I get here as soon as I can. Well, I got rudely interrupted by I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT. I go into my job early so I can be here by 3, I take vacation time to be here. Well you also have your horses at your house, trailer hooked up ready to roll, and live 5 minutes away. I just get so frustrated. I love the club and love to help but they act as if I don't do enough. I try my hardest to be as helpful as possible. Then my job. Its not a high end stressful job, however, I am getting so tired of being treated like I am not doing enough. I am also getting sick of when I take off early or take a day off basically being told not to, or to "realize that we are short staffed with so and so gone." This is just a rant. I'm hurting, confused, stressed, and just not sure what to do anymore. Not asking for answers, just uplifting words and thoughts. On a good note, my horse ran super awesome last night and I felt like I rode her well which is something I have been working hard to do!
I want you to know that you have officially got folks on your side now that have your back! I'm so sorry you're going thru all this, and I'll be praying things get better. Maybe your momma isn't thinking about how you'll feel hearing all the ins and outs between her and your daddy; she might just want to talk to someone she loves and trusts. Once you make her understand hopefully she'll realize that confiding in someone else is a better option.
You said you've been unhappy the past few months--did you mean with your relationship? Or just in general? I think the first step is deciding what area you're unhappy with and making the change there. Then I bet the other parts of your life will fall into place.
I was in a riding club and just became overwhelmed because there were just a few of us that did everything. And then when it was time for our annual rodeo, people came out of the woodwork to be seen and take credit for all the hard work. I decided to "just" be a member and help when and if I wanted to. In the end the drama and hatefullness made my decision to get out of the club completely the right one for me. I miss some of the people and being totally immersed in horses all year round, but I know something else will come long when my life slows down some!
Please keep coming back and update us on how things are going. Wishing you all the best.
Thank you for your support! Its really appreciated! I have gotten over this hump for the most part. Easy going weekend and some talking things through with my boyfriend has helped. We were both in a better place to understand everything. It was a super tough week but I made it. I've got some things to work on myself and lightening my own load. Thanks again! Glad to know I have to come to for help, advice, and encouragement.  | |
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Location: Arkansas | RachelBeth* - 2016-06-27 3:49 PM
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RachelBeth* - 2016-06-24 12:16 PM
I don't post here much but just needing some uplifting words and thoughts. I am having a very hard time right now in life. My mom is divorcing my dad. She sometimes talks to me about it more like a friend than a daughter. I told her she had to stop with that and she tries. But it is still very hard for me. It probably shouldn't affect me as I'm 26. I have moved about 18 months ago with my boyfriend. For the past couple months I have not been happy. I tried to discuss it with him and how I am feeling and he pretty much just blows it off as its my own problem. Last night at barrel club, he was running and I was cheering for him and he went to the second and I said slide your hand down! and he yells back I am! CANT YOU SEE THAT!. Just brought me to tears. How embarrassing. Then he wonders why I am upset! He did apologize for that later on that night but still. He told me he is not 100% confident on a horse yet. I kept trying to show him what I meant and how to do things (This is my horse he is riding. Always takes care of him. ). He doesn't listen, or look when I am trying to show him things. I told him you need to ride more with me that is how you learn and build confidence. Jumping on at club doesn't cut it. Then I am vice president of this barrel club but I am thinking of dropping it because it is too stressful. I know it sounds silly. BUT I take vacation time to try to be there early, I board my horses out at 2 different places and usually have to make 2 stops to get all the horses I need, I have to hook up my trailer when I get there, and still drive 45 minutes. Its a lot and I have been getting, for lack of a better word, nagged at about helping and being there early for everything. This is especially irritating when there are other officers who could be helping too and don't or pick the easier jobs, like only setting up the eyes. We had a short meeting about a month ago about people helping and where and everything, I said I get here as soon as I can. Well, I got rudely interrupted by I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT. I go into my job early so I can be here by 3, I take vacation time to be here. Well you also have your horses at your house, trailer hooked up ready to roll, and live 5 minutes away. I just get so frustrated. I love the club and love to help but they act as if I don't do enough. I try my hardest to be as helpful as possible. Then my job. Its not a high end stressful job, however, I am getting so tired of being treated like I am not doing enough. I am also getting sick of when I take off early or take a day off basically being told not to, or to "realize that we are short staffed with so and so gone." This is just a rant. I'm hurting, confused, stressed, and just not sure what to do anymore. Not asking for answers, just uplifting words and thoughts. On a good note, my horse ran super awesome last night and I felt like I rode her well which is something I have been working hard to do!
I want you to know that you have officially got folks on your side now that have your back! I'm so sorry you're going thru all this, and I'll be praying things get better. Maybe your momma isn't thinking about how you'll feel hearing all the ins and outs between her and your daddy; she might just want to talk to someone she loves and trusts. Once you make her understand hopefully she'll realize that confiding in someone else is a better option.
You said you've been unhappy the past few months--did you mean with your relationship? Or just in general? I think the first step is deciding what area you're unhappy with and making the change there. Then I bet the other parts of your life will fall into place.
I was in a riding club and just became overwhelmed because there were just a few of us that did everything. And then when it was time for our annual rodeo, people came out of the woodwork to be seen and take credit for all the hard work. I decided to "just" be a member and help when and if I wanted to. In the end the drama and hatefullness made my decision to get out of the club completely the right one for me. I miss some of the people and being totally immersed in horses all year round, but I know something else will come long when my life slows down some!
Please keep coming back and update us on how things are going. Wishing you all the best.
Thank you for your support! Its really appreciated! I have gotten over this hump for the most part. Easy going weekend and some talking things through with my boyfriend has helped. We were both in a better place to understand everything. It was a super tough week but I made it. I've got some things to work on myself and lightening my own load. Thanks again! Glad to know I have to come to for help, advice, and encouragement.
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I don't post here much but just needing some uplifting words and thoughts. I am having a very hard time right now in life. My mom is divorcing my dad. She sometimes talks to me about it more like a friend than a daughter. I told her she had to stop with that and she tries. But it is still very hard for me. It probably shouldn't affect me as I'm 26. I have moved about 18 months ago with my boyfriend. For the past couple months I have not been happy. I tried to discuss it with him and how I am feeling and he pretty much just blows it off as its my own problem. Last night at barrel club, he was running and I was cheering for him and he went to the second and I said slide your hand down! and he yells back I am! CANT YOU SEE THAT!. Just brought me to tears. How embarrassing. Then he wonders why I am upset! He did apologize for that later on that night but still. He told me he is not 100% confident on a horse yet. I kept trying to show him what I meant and how to do things (This is my horse he is riding. Always takes care of him. ). He doesn't listen, or look when I am trying to show him things. I told him you need to ride more with me that is how you learn and build confidence. Jumping on at club doesn't cut it. Then I am vice president of this barrel club but I am thinking of dropping it because it is too stressful. I know it sounds silly. BUT I take vacation time to try to be there early, I board my horses out at 2 different places and usually have to make 2 stops to get all the horses I need, I have to hook up my trailer when I get there, and still drive 45 minutes. Its a lot and I have been getting, for lack of a better word, nagged at about helping and being there early for everything. This is especially irritating when there are other officers who could be helping too and don't or pick the easier jobs, like only setting up the eyes. We had a short meeting about a month ago about people helping and where and everything, I said I get here as soon as I can. Well, I got rudely interrupted by I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT. I go into my job early so I can be here by 3, I take vacation time to be here. Well you also have your horses at your house, trailer hooked up ready to roll, and live 5 minutes away. I just get so frustrated. I love the club and love to help but they act as if I don't do enough. I try my hardest to be as helpful as possible. Then my job. Its not a high end stressful job, however, I am getting so tired of being treated like I am not doing enough. I am also getting sick of when I take off early or take a day off basically being told not to, or to "realize that we are short staffed with so and so gone." This is just a rant. I'm hurting, confused, stressed, and just not sure what to do anymore. Not asking for answers, just uplifting words and thoughts. On a good note, my horse ran super awesome last night and I felt like I rode her well which is something I have been working hard to do!
I want you to know that you have officially got folks on your side now that have your back! I'm so sorry you're going thru all this, and I'll be praying things get better. Maybe your momma isn't thinking about how you'll feel hearing all the ins and outs between her and your daddy; she might just want to talk to someone she loves and trusts. Once you make her understand hopefully she'll realize that confiding in someone else is a better option.
You said you've been unhappy the past few months--did you mean with your relationship? Or just in general? I think the first step is deciding what area you're unhappy with and making the change there. Then I bet the other parts of your life will fall into place.
I was in a riding club and just became overwhelmed because there were just a few of us that did everything. And then when it was time for our annual rodeo, people came out of the woodwork to be seen and take credit for all the hard work. I decided to "just" be a member and help when and if I wanted to. In the end the drama and hatefullness made my decision to get out of the club completely the right one for me. I miss some of the people and being totally immersed in horses all year round, but I know something else will come long when my life slows down some!
Please keep coming back and update us on how things are going. Wishing you all the best.
Thank you for your support! Its really appreciated! I have gotten over this hump for the most part. Easy going weekend and some talking things through with my boyfriend has helped. We were both in a better place to understand everything. It was a super tough week but I made it. I've got some things to work on myself and lightening my own load. Thanks again! Glad to know I have to come to for help, advice, and encouragement.
So glad to hear things are looking up
Thanks! Had a couple set backs yesterday. My mare kicked a whole in the wall where I board. UGH! Easy fix though. Then some more issues at work, but I am handling the best I can. I'm not letting this get me down. | |
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