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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Why it costs $23,000 plus to adopt a child in America? |
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Location: Here | Isn't it a shame...
Legal costs...
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 That's White "Man" to You
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Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | I'm sure it's worth it if you can afford it. It's something my husband and I want to do but we just can't afford it. I'm sure we can start saving money and in a few years, but I still don't think it should cost that much. People shouldn't get rich off of helping children. |
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Location: Kansas | No idea......a girl I went to high school with recently adopted because she was told she couldn't have children after trying for so many years.....finally finished the adoption process, only to find out 6 months later that she was pregnant!!!! |
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Location: Okla | Consider fostering a child through your Department of Human Services. Adoption thru them isn't nearly as expensive. |
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 A Lady with Fight
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Location: NC | missroselee - 2013-12-12 4:34 PM
I'm sure it's worth it if you can afford it. It's something my husband and I want to do but we just can't afford it. I'm sure we can start saving money and in a few years, but I still don't think it should cost that much. People shouldn't get rich off of helping children.
Foster. I bet you two would be great at that. Showing kids that there are good people put there. |
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 The Non Sky Diver
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Location: SE Louisiana | Maybe that's why so many people go out and steal one.  |
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Location: in the middle of backwoods iowa | Foster parent- I have friends who have done this as they couldn't afford to adopt- they have had the same kid for 6 years now. |
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| My youngest sister and her husband are foster parents.
There is not enough money in the world to get me to what they do
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Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | We looked into fostering but we would rather adopt, and it doesn't have to be an infant by no means. So it looks like back to the state we will go. We had been there once but were overwhelmed with taking care of hubbys parents. I didn't realize infant adoption was so expensive. It feels like baby selling/buying to me. |
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 Living on the edge of common sense
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Location: Carpenter, WY | Seriously not having any idea why it would cost so much I had to google...seems like any time the government gets involved the cost of anything goes sky high
http://www.adoptionhelp.org/qa/why-does-it-cost-adopt
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | I know a couple who couldn't afford private adoption and have recently become foster parents. They felt called to it and are doing an awesome job. I would have a hard time with getting attached and then having to let them go, but thank God that some people can handle that.
On private adoption, you can pour a buttload of money into legal fees and maternal support and then have the mom change her mind and you're just hung. My parents tried to adopt twice and got burned both times. It's a beautiful thing when it happens like it's supposed to, but you never know for sure until it's final.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | missroselee - 2013-12-12 3:42 PM We looked into fostering but we would rather adopt, and it doesn't have to be an infant by no means. So it looks like back to the state we will go. We had been there once but were overwhelmed with taking care of hubbys parents. I didn't realize infant adoption was so expensive. It feels like baby selling/buying to me.
You both are going to make such a great mommie and daddy when the time comes |
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That's White "Man" to You
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2013-12-12 3:34 PM No idea......a girl I went to high school with recently adopted because she was told she couldn't have children after trying for so many years.....finally finished the adoption process, only to find out 6 months later that she was pregnant!!!!
Happened twice to my sister. Kids end up in the families they are supposed to be in! |
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Location: La Frontera | We just adopted our son and it cost a bit more than $23k but he's worth every cent and even more. 
As other's mentioned, fostering is an option but so is going through CPS or HHS, whatever it's called in your state. We did that too and were surprised at how quickly we could have gotten a child. I will say thought that all of the children we were considered for through CPS were older (like 6 months and up) and most were in the middle of the legal process (their birth parents' rights had not been terminated). We chose not to pursue unless the birth parents' rights had been terminated, but if you decide that's a risk you can live with then I suggest you look into that. There are MANY children who need loving, stables homes which I'm sure you can provide.
Also check out Catholic Social Services (you don't have to be catholic). Their adoption fee is income based, a certain percent of your income. In AZ they have a cap on their adoption fee at $20,000 but you have to make a lot of money to hit that. |
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Location: Southwest Minnesota | missroselee - 2013-12-12 3:25 PM Why it costs $23,000 plus to adopt a child in America?
My nephew and his wife are looking into adoption too. They don't make a ton of money but will be great parents. I know there is grant money through different places to help finance the adoption. Try googling Adoption Grant Money...several links come up. Good luck! The world could definitely use more good parents. |
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 Reaching for the stars....
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| The true legal fees are less than $5000. And the sad part is that the birth mother sees nothing. The profit is all for the attorney or agency.
Most newborn adoptions run better than $40K, btw. |
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Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | lonely va barrelxr - 2013-12-12 4:51 PM The true legal fees are less than $5000. And the sad part is that the birth mother sees nothing. The profit is all for the attorney or agency.
Most newborn adoptions run better than $40K, btw.
Yea, I found that googling, that most run well over 25k, but the average minimum is 23k |
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| It's terrible what it costs to adopt! A friend of mine's sister, who is a wonderful parent, had the money, applied and was denied. Her husband is in the military and they move from country to county, CPS said their home life was not stable enough. They ended up adopting a beautiful little girl from China and a few years later the same adoption agency contacted them about a little boy who was born with a defect and was surrendered by the same family. They adopted him as well.
Maybe check out foreign adoption? |
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