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| so after 29 years of marriage, my husband told me he wants a divorce. For the last few years he has been quiet, moody and seems to not want to hear my voice. I have thought he acts bipolar but of course if i bring that up it makes things worse. He says he is seeing a counselor that wants to put him on something for depression. He says he doesn't want to do that. I am really in a bad position. When i tell him i DONT want a divorce he says he can't believe i would like to live like this too. If anyone has ever been through something similiar i would really like to hear a little advice. I am lost |
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Meanest Teacher!!!
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Location: sunny california | no advice but sending prayers your way |
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  Ms. Manners
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Location: Oklahoma | Hugs and prayers . . .
Are you in counseling? A good counselor may be able to give you great advice on how to help your husband, and you.
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Location: Oklahoma | Morab76 - 2014-01-26 11:21 AM
Hugs and prayers . . .
Are you in counseling? A good counselor may be able to give you great advice on how to help your husband, and you.
This.
Hugs and prayers as well!!!! |
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 Twin Sister to Queen Boobie
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Location: East Tennessee but who knows?! | Hugs.... I don't really have advice as I walked away from mine. At least yours has admitted that he wants a divorce. Honesty is the first step in anything.
Counseling and prayers & don't doubt yourself. |
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Elite Veteran
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Location: Anywhere my horses are ! Lost in Texas!!!!! | Hugs for you |
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 Ms. Marine
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Location: Texas | Prayers headed your way. |
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 Shelter Dog Lover
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 A Barrel Of Monkeys
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Location: Texas | Be prepared for anything and everything. And I second the suggestion to get with a good counselor.
It's a shame that the first thing a depressed man blames is his marriage. Just goes to prove, many are not very in touch with their feelings.
Prayers for you. |
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Location: Somewhere between S@%&# stirrer and Saint | Another woman! |
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 MEOW!
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Location: High heels in the air... | Been there, done that..Go get yourself a good counselor!!! It will help you deal with this and him and keep you sane while decisions are made...hugs!! |
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Location: OK | Was in the same shoes a few years back. Get counseling, get your finances etc. in order in case you do split. Hugs and prayers |
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Location: Texas | Tell him to move out then. He wants a change make him do it. He doesn't want to fight or work on your marriage...... |
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Location: Central TX | my heart sunk when i read this. I myself have been divorced (my choice) but it was the most painful thing i have ever gone through and i cant imagine how it would feel after almost 30 years.. so many prayers headed your way. I am so sorry.  |
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Redneck Ranch
Location: Oklahoma | There is a book called The Love Dare that we have suggested to numerous couples that were ready to divorce. I was actually leaving my husband many years ago and this book along with lots of prayers saved our marriage. It may or may not work but is worth a try. |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | No advice from me just wanted to give you a huggg  |
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Location: Where the pavement ends and the West begins Utah | Many hugs. Please don't feel that it is your fault in any way, it takes 2 to tango. Remember God closes one door and opens another. Have him take a physical. Blood sample. My So had a blocked artery. When blood doesn't get to all the right places it changes your attitude and clouds your mind. If he is on any medications he needs to have those checked/changed.If he is healthy then he is a A-hole. |
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| cow pie - 2014-01-26 11:12 PM
Many hugs. Please don't feel that it is your fault in any way, it takes 2 to tango. Remember God closes one door and opens another. Have him take a physical. Blood sample. My So had a blocked artery. When blood doesn't get to all the right places it changes your attitude and clouds your mind. If he is on any medications he needs to have those checked/changed.If he is healthy then he is a A-hole.
This! You NEVER know if it's something medical - make sure you rule that out first. Hugs and prayers. |
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 Keeper of the King Snake
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Location: Dubach, LA | I totally understand what you're feeling. No matter how long you live with someone, you never really KNOW a person. I have no advice - just a hug. |
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MEOW!
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Location: High heels in the air... | I will tell you this....concentrate on positive things...have a life ....go hang with girlfriends, ride your horses, do some charity work, do things that bring you peace whether an afternoon matinee or a morning at church...you need to feel whole ....don't sign anything in haste, rat hole extra cash, prepare for the worse...I'm in north texas and will buy your lunch if you are close by...you are important with or without him and have this whole board supporting you no matter what... |
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