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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | So please skip this if you don't want to see it....
I know there are quite a few women on here or many on here know someone who went through a miscarriage.
Question, just how long does it take for your body to be physically normal afterwards? Normal as is no pain etc?
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| This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Not the only one, but a big deal. Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous..... |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Â Not the only one, but a big deal. Â Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....Â
Maybe try talking to your ob..my mom went 22 years with pain and weakness down there due to some unknown complications to a couple really simple procedures and never opened her mouth. Well she had basically reconstructive surgery and she feels completely normal again after all these years. After I have this baby I will give two years time then I'm going to talk to the same lady my mom went to if I still don't feel "normal". ..it has been over 3 years since I have been trully in the mood without being afraid. No one should have to feel that way. |
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Location: Where Governor's make the liscense plates | Â I know tilted uterus' can cause pain as my mom said intercourse was never comfortable for her and that's what she had and she also had multiple miscarriages before me. |
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| I can relate. If you learn to relax (which is very difficult!) it's not as bad. When you tense up fearing the pain it makes it ten times worse. Lubricants are very much your friend. |
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Location: Florida.. | Whiskey_Girl - 2014-02-02 10:16 PM I can relate. If you learn to relax (which is very difficult!) it's not as bad. When you tense up fearing the pain it makes it ten times worse. Lubricants are very much your friend.
I agree..which pain can make you tense so its very hard to do that. tilted uterus will cause pain to. .. lubricate helps alot and also positions.. so you are in charge.. (sorry tmi but truth) |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Â Not the only one, but a big deal. Â Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....Â
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband. |
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| My mom died of ovarian cancer @ 50. Fast fwd i was in my twenties the doc said since your thin we should be able to palpate and feel problems a lie. In my late 30's started having lower ab pain told doc was not concerned got a second opinion did a trans vag. ultra sound had fibroids seheduled a hystrectomy. When the doc came to see me after surgery he told me he told me i killed his back casue he scraped and scraped as i had the worst case of endometretious that he had ever sceem and had a endometretial cyst in addition to the fibriod tumors. The doctor told me i should have been screaming imasked him what good would it have done. Moral of story iyou hurt go to the doc and if they dont listen go,to another, and another.
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| I have had four miscarriages and my middle son was stillborn. I can honestly say I was back to normal in about a month after my miscarriages and after my stillbirth it only took about six weeks before I felt normal and had no pain. I'm not sure how long it has been for you but if your past a month from your miscarriage and still having pain I would see a doctor. If your doctor doesn't listen find another one who will. Go see a specialist if you need to. No one could figure out why I kept losing babies so I kept looking till I found a perinatologist who wanted to help me. I was diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder that affected me during pregnancy and caused clots to form in the placenta. With my next pregnancy I had to take heparin shots (blood thinner) and I had a successful pregnancy and got my son who is eight now. My suggestion is find a specialist who will listen to you. Don't take it will get better for an answer.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | cheryl makofka - 2014-02-02 10:32 PM
missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Â Not the only one, but a big deal. Â Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....Â
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband.
 No. They haven't done anything. Last doctor told me it was heart burn and to take a Zante and not call her again. This isn't just pain during intamacy. It gets so bad during the day sometimes that I can't even stand up straight. It hurts to lay certain ways, sit certain ways, and I get so hot at night I'm sleeping with ice packs |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-03 7:16 AM
cheryl makofka - 2014-02-02 10:32 PM
missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Â Not the only one, but a big deal. Â Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....Â
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband. No. They haven't done anything. Last doctor told me it was heart burn and to take a Zante and not call her again. This isn't just pain during intamacy. It gets so bad during the day sometimes that I can't even stand up straight. It hurts to lay certain ways, sit certain ways, and I get so hot at night I'm sleeping with ice packs
That is how my friends was, not always a constant pain but sometimes a stabbing pain that would drop her to her knees.
People with pcos also have a harder time conceiving google it and see if some of the symptoms listed you are experiencing. |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-03 7:16 AM
cheryl makofka - 2014-02-02 10:32 PM
missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Â Not the only one, but a big deal. Â Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....Â
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband. No. They haven't done anything. Last doctor told me it was heart burn and to take a Zante and not call her again. This isn't just pain during intamacy. It gets so bad during the day sometimes that I can't even stand up straight. It hurts to lay certain ways, sit certain ways, and I get so hot at night I'm sleeping with ice packs
You need to see another doctor and as for the doctor that told you not to bother her again, you ought to complain, especially if she is part of a practice group or hospital.
ETA: maybe you just aren't ready … physically and emotionally. miscarriage is hard.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | I've been trying to see a specialist but the primary care won't refer me because she said they won't do anything. Apparently tricare west doesn't care about healthcare as much as south. I'm supposed to see an on post doc but that's not until the 13th. |
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| Where exactly do you live? At this point it might be worth making a drive to St. Louis, Kansas City, or Little Rock for a larger hospital and better doctors to see you.
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Location: lexington KY | Your pain sounds so much like my endometriosis. Mine was so bad at times I had to crawl to the bathroom to take a HOT HOT bath, because that is all that helped me. I spent so many years in pain and I have a high pain tolerance. One thing to remember it so breathe through it. Deep breaths and staying relaxed helps. I finally had laproscopic surgery and it helped some, but BC helps me more than anything. I hope you get some relief and can find the problem.
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Location: Southwest Minnesota | missroselee - 2014-02-03 12:56 PM I've been trying to see a specialist but the primary care won't refer me because she said they won't do anything. Apparently tricare west doesn't care about healthcare as much as south. I'm supposed to see an on post doc but that's not until the 13th.
Find a new primary care. One that will refer you. It is your choice, your primary care is not paying for it so what difference does it make to her if you go see a specialist? I would love to be your advocate. Give me that primary care dr's # and I will give her a little "come to Jesus" talk. We have a doc at our hospital that is a real jackwagon and thinks that MD stands for Medical Deity. I assure you it does not. Maybe they went to the same school... I have never had a miscarriage, but I don't think you should be having this much pain. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | polorunner - 2014-02-03 2:22 PM Your pain sounds so much like my endometriosis. Mine was so bad at times I had to crawl to the bathroom to take a HOT HOT bath, because that is all that helped me. I spent so many years in pain and I have a high pain tolerance. One thing to remember it so breathe through it. Deep breaths and staying relaxed helps. I finally had laproscopic surgery and it helped some, but BC helps me more than anything. I hope you get some relief and can find the problem.
endometreosis is one of the main reasons I stayed on BC for 15 years. That and if I got a menstrual cycle, I would get so sick that it put me in the hospital twice as a teenager. And pills were never an option, it always had to be something non oral. Anything oral made me vomit excessively. I chose to get off BC because I started having other negative side affects from it including bleeding stomach ulcers. Getting no periods was awesome, but I couldn't deal with the ulcers anymore.
It was hell coming off. Hubby tried forcing me to go the the ER several times because of the pain, but I just dealt with it until it got a little better. I do not ever want to go back on BC because life is so much better without the ulcers.
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Location: Nebraska | I had the same experience as the others as far as endometriosis. I had an exploratory surgery in Nov of 2012 that yielded no positive results. He did find a spot that he thought was endometriosis but it was in a tricky spot so he couldn't biopsy it. I spent 6 years hopping from doctor to doctor trying to get one to listen to me. He also recommended to me to go on the Paleo diet and gave me a pill called Linzess (it's an IBS-C pill) but since doing all of that, I have been pain free for a year! It's amazing! I'm also taking a BC pill 365 days a year. I started having a horrible reaction during the week off every 3 months so he told me to stay on it.
I have Tricare West, but I just have the standard. My doctor took it no problem. I also have BCBS and Tricare is the only one that covers my Linzess pill. Are you coming up here for the BRF? Maybe you can get in to see him then. He's extremely easy to talk to and actually cares. |
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Location: lexington KY | missroselee - 2014-02-03 3:16 PM
polorunner - 2014-02-03 2:22 PM Your pain sounds so much like my endometriosis. Mine was so bad at times I had to crawl to the bathroom to take a HOT HOT bath, because that is all that helped me. I spent so many years in pain and I have a high pain tolerance. One thing to remember it so breathe through it. Deep breaths and staying relaxed helps. Â I finally had laproscopic surgery and it helped some, but BC helps me more than anything. Â I hope you get some relief and can find the problem.Â
endometreosis is one of the main reasons I stayed on BC for 15 years. Â That and if I got a menstrual cycle, I would get so sick that it put me in the hospital twice as a teenager. Â And pills were never an option, it always had to be something non oral. Â Anything oral made me vomit excessively. Â I chose to get off BC because I started having other negative side affects from it including bleeding stomach ulcers. Â Getting no periods was awesome, but I couldn't deal with the ulcers anymore. Â
It was hell coming off. Â Hubby tried forcing me to go the the ER several times because of the pain, but I just dealt with it until it got a little better. Â I do not ever want to go back on BC because life is so much better without the ulcers.Â
Gosh, I so hate that you are going through that. Hopefully you can find something that can help you. Have you ever had the surgery? I recently went off the pill as well and I am hoping I can stay off. I have talked to a few girls that try to help it with nutrition. Some say Paleo really works, which I have been doing for about 8 months. I am anxious to see how things go, now that I am off BC. |
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