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Location: Texas | I guess I am just venting.... But I really am missing my husband tonight. He works in ND in the oilfield and is gone for 2 weeks and home for one. He is due to come home on Tuesday but I will be gone for work. Normally I am so busy that the time flies by, but this week work was slow so I was home Ll week. I rode horses and cleaned house and now I am bored to tears and missing him terribly. The worst part is that he will be home tues night and I won't get home Friday night and then he has to leave again on Sunday morning. I guess 10 days home with only the horses and dogs and no work has made me batty. I went to jackpot last night and again today and that helped some. Would have just liked to have had him home to go with me. I got to visit with some friends tody and went to lunch with a friend and her family after the jackpot which was nice. Ok. Guess I will finish watching my lifetime movie. |
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Location: Texas | Im with ya...my hubby is a rig welder and must go where the work is..he has been gone 5 weeks as of Sunday...and still gone :( |
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Location: Four Corners Colorado | Mine is gone for 4 weeks and with training for his new job will be gone 10 weeks at a time. It's a hard road but we are blessed that our husbands have these jobs.
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Location: Texas | Yes, definately blessed that he has this job. It is affording us to do lots of things we could t do otherwise. I certainly have no idea how they work the long hours that they do, I couldn't do it that's for sure. Normally we get to talk a while everyday but the last two or 3 days have been hammer down up there. Two more days and he is headed south. Yay |
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Location: SW North Dakota | I work in the oilfield and I see guys like your husbands every day. The opportunities are wonderful. Why else would people make the sacrifice of being away from their loved ones for hitches that are many times measured in months? When I speak with your husbands, I ask them why they have made this choice. Why have they left their families to endure the harsh weather, long hours, intense workloads and brutal schedules? Why? Because the income is an opportunity that they cannot overlook. I get that. But I beg them to keep this one of the best opportunities they have ever had, instead of the worst mistake that their families need to endure.
They need to stay safe. Aware. Focused. It is not easy work they do, and not an easy environment. Your husbands need to be their "brothers' keeper." They need to help each other stay safe and they need to protect our earth. No shortcuts. Ever.
I have met people from all over the country; I enjoy them and want to help protect them. I also want to protect this beautiful state where I was raised. I want to protect the landowners and my land. My son is 13 and wants to follow in his father's footsteps in being a fulltime rancher. My daughter is 11 and wants to be an oilfield geologist. We can all "have our cake and eat it, too" if we are respectful of each other and the land.
Enjoy the time when your oilfield husbands are home. Remind them of the reasons they go, and more importantly, the reasons you want them to return home in the same condition they were when they left. It is not easy work they do, but it is important. Keep them safe!
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Location: on my horse | I understand where you're coming from my SO got a new job 12 hours from our place so he is gone sometimes for months on end it gets soooo lonely  |
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Location: Southwest New Mexico | I'm having one of those days where I wish my husband worked far far far away..... |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | You do sound lonley, I'm sorry, hope that you get to feeling better |
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Location: Alberta | It's definitely not a lifestyle for everyone and I understand how you feel 110%. |
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Location: Texas | Feel you pain! I'm a turnaround/shutdown wife. Hubby has been home only 3 weeks since December 1st. 10 days at Christmas. And a week 1/2 at the end of Feb.
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Location: Texas | Somedays info get lonely, but it goes with the territory. It's not so bad when work keeps me busy. |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | ND3canAddict - 2014-03-22 11:55 PM I work in the oilfield and I see guys like your husbands every day. The opportunities are wonderful. Why else would people make the sacrifice of being away from their loved ones for hitches that are many times measured in months? When I speak with your husbands, I ask them why they have made this choice. Why have they left their families to endure the harsh weather, long hours, intense workloads and brutal schedules? Why? Because the income is an opportunity that they cannot overlook. I get that. But I beg them to keep this one of the best opportunities they have ever had, instead of the worst mistake that their families need to endure.
They need to stay safe. Aware. Focused. It is not easy work they do, and not an easy environment. Your husbands need to be their "brothers' keeper." They need to help each other stay safe and they need to protect our earth. No shortcuts. Ever.
I have met people from all over the country; I enjoy them and want to help protect them. I also want to protect this beautiful state where I was raised. I want to protect the landowners and my land. My son is 13 and wants to follow in his father's footsteps in being a fulltime rancher. My daughter is 11 and wants to be an oilfield geologist. We can all "have our cake and eat it, too" if we are respectful of each other and the land.
Enjoy the time when your oilfield husbands are home. Remind them of the reasons they go, and more importantly, the reasons you want them to return home in the same condition they were when they left. It is not easy work they do, but it is important. Keep them safe!
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Location: Muskogee, OK | Completely know where you are coming from! Just know you aren't alone.. My SO just took a new job with Halliburton and is away for weeks at a time training--once he gets his own shift will probably go to the more common 2 week on, 2 week off rotation. It's rough, but like some of the others said, these jobs offer great opportunities and pay very well.
Just enjoy him while his home---and hang in there! I think it takes a special type of woman and relationship to endure the oilfield lifestyle. But the ones that can hang in there are truly strong relationships and last a lifetime. |
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Location: Texas | Usually I am ok while he is gone. I keep busy etc. we have been at this for 3 yrs now so it's not new At all. Like I said just slow at work so I have been home more than usual so I have just run out or things to lol. End of April we are going to Jamaica on an all expenses paid trip I won at work. We are both really excited about it. |
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| Have you considered volunteering during your free time? Visiting a nursing home, learning a new skill, taking an online class? There are so many lonely people out there who don't have the luxury of looking forward to someone coming home soon that would be comforted by a visit. JMO. |
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Location: Texas | I definately would volunteer if I had more time. This week has not been the norm. Usually I leave home on Monday and get back on Thursday or Friday and do that all over again the next week. This week was just unusually slow so I didn't have to travel. |
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Location: oklahoma | nm_ana07 - 2014-03-23 12:09 AM
I'm having one of those days where I wish my husband worked far far far away.....
Lol, my ex worked for Halliburton for years, overseas. Probably why we stayed married as long as we did. Op, hope you get busy again so the time flies. |
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| My nieces husband mike worked the north dakoda oil fields and it was hard for them to be separated.its got to be tuff. |
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Location: Oklahoma | I'm an oilfield wife, but not to the true extreme that you gals are!
I'm lucky enough that my husband is only about 3-4 hours away from home and he doesn't have to work night shifts or anything that would keep us from communicating on a regular schedule. He is usually gone only M-Th nights, but sometimes he has to work weekends and might be gone for 2-3 weeks, but I am lucky enough to be able to go out and see him on the weekends.
One of my best friends' husbands works in ND and they're on a 3week on/1week off rotation. We usually go to the gym together or do anything just to stay busy! Neither of us have kids so it's harder to fill the time, but probably not as hard on us with them being gone compared to the ladies who have to do everything for their kids single handedly.
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Location: Oklahoma | I'm also an oilfield wife... but I also staff for a couple of companies... my husband works Frac and is gone 8 days and home 4 days... It definitely takes getting adjusted too... |
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