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Location: Nowhere Land | There is a trainer from the barn I am at that is very rude about people wearing helmets. I understand her concern, but have signed a waver relieving the barn and owners from any responsibly incase of an accident. I would also like to point out that the NY state law is 18 and under have to wear a helmet. . . And I am almost 30! She constantly pesters me. I ride western, she is an english trainer. She is not a barn manager, no anyone of authority. Am I within my rights to tell her to remove the stick from her bum and mind her own business ?! Its getting to be extremely annoying and hard to hold my tongue......  |
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| Maybe nicely say i appreciate your concern but I am comfortable not wearing one. That's a tough one. If she is not the owner or barn manager or your trainer she needs to leave well enough alone |
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  Whack and Roll
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Location: NE Texas | YES, you absolutely are. Tell her you have worked hard for the brain in your head and you'd like to preserve it, so back off! Helmets are cool! Good for you!!!!  |
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Location: Sperry, OK | Herbie - 2014-05-09 11:55 AM YES, you absolutely are. Tell her you have worked hard for the brain in your head and you'd like to preserve it, so back off! Helmets are cool! Good for you!!!!
Herbie.. I think the OP does not wear one and the nazi is trying to make her! |
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Location: Nowhere Land | I have been very nice to her, and she still is very persistent about nagging me about head gear. What more can I say? Is this normal behavior? I have never encountered such an issue. |
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| She shouldn't care if your not her client. Can you talk to the barn manager? |
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Location: Nowhere Land | I have spoken to both the barn owner, and manager. They'd have no issues with me riding without one. She is juts being extremely difficult. It makes it very uncomfortable for myself and people around me. Im ready to snap.  |
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| Just tell her that you don't own a helmet because you don't care to wear one :) |
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| Next time she brings it up, just nicely remind her that this is a conversation you've already had and while you appreciate her concern, the conversation is over. Just be sure it's not one of the barn rules first. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | hmmmmm.....I wonder what the statistics are now? I work in Trauma and don't know of any English rider head injuries, but do know of a few serious Western rider head injuries....including a couple of deaths. Now, I'm curious. Could certainly be my area, but we do fly in a bunch so it's not just this general area that would be sent to us. |
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| I'd snap on her. I have an issue with people getting in my business like that.
I wear one, grew up riding h/j and it's just second nature and weird feeling if I don't have one on. But I don't care if people over 18 don't, that's their choice. Personally I think under 18 should - our rule was always when I pay for my own insurance I can make my own helmet choices lol. |
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| Maybe straight up ask her why she thinks it's her job to police you. I suppose if you wanted to get real serious about it get a no contact order or a restraining order for harrassment.
Some people think it's in everyone's best interest to wear a helment. I've worn one, not worn one, worn one, and am back to not again. I know the benefits and the safety measures, but I'd never push it on another adult. I don't even push it on parents who have kids riding, although I applaud the ones who do make their kids wear one. |
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Whack and Roll
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Location: NE Texas | ACEINTHEHOLE - 2014-05-09 11:57 AM Herbie - 2014-05-09 11:55 AM YES, you absolutely are. Tell her you have worked hard for the brain in your head and you'd like to preserve it, so back off! Helmets are cool! Good for you!!!! 
Edited by Herbie 2014-05-09 1:47 PM
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | Herbie - 2014-05-09 9:55 AM YES, you absolutely are. Tell her you have worked hard for the brain in your head and you'd like to preserve it, so back off! Helmets are cool! Good for you!!!!
......OR you could say,
It's my brain, and I dont have to preserve it if I don't want to!
Honestly, if someone tells me what I need or need not do, I'd probably do the opposite just out of spite. Do your own thing. Tell her to kick dirt.
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | While I agree that helmets are a great thing...Nagging/pestering/badgering another person to wear them is NEVER a good thing.
I tend to be a smart ass. I'd ask her if she has a mother. When she says yes...Tell her you do too...and that YOUR mother is the only one that could ever tell you what to do...and that her license to do so expired 10 years ago.
Do your barn owner and manager know this lady is harassing you? I'd sure let them know. It affects their business to have a trainer...who may be seen as a representative of the barn...harassing customers.
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Location: Lost in the corn of Iowa. | TrailGirl - 2014-05-09 1:35 PM While I agree that helmets are a great thing...Nagging/pestering/badgering another person to wear them is NEVER a good thing.
I tend to be a smart ass. I'd ask her if she has a mother. When she says yes...Tell her you do too...and that YOUR mother is the only one that could ever tell you what to do...and that her license to do so expired 10 years ago.
Do your barn owner and manager know this lady is harassing you? I'd sure let them know. It affects their business to have a trainer...who may be seen as a representative of the barn...harassing customers.
^^This would be a concern of mine if I was that barn manager or the owners. It is bad for business plain and simple.
You could say that it is your choice, not hers to make. And you've already signed the appropriate papers waiving any responsibility from the barn in case of an accident. Also mention that if she is persistant on harrassing you about it that you will have to put a complaint on file with the barn about her behavior.
Or you could stoop to her level and just say that you don't complain when she rides in riding breeches which are less protective than a pair of jeans.Besides, jeans don't make our butts look big. IMO. Good luck with her, cuz you're gonna probably need it. |
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Location: Southern IL somewhere between KY and MO | LRQHS - 2014-05-09 12:09 PM hmmmmm.....I wonder what the statistics are now? I work in Trauma and don't know of any English rider head injuries, but do know of a few serious Western rider head injuries....including a couple of deaths. Now, I'm curious. Could certainly be my area, but we do fly in a bunch so it's not just this general area that would be sent to us.
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | coco~n~cash - 2014-05-09 1:53 PM LRQHS - 2014-05-09 12:09 PM hmmmmm.....I wonder what the statistics are now? I work in Trauma and don't know of any English rider head injuries, but do know of a few serious Western rider head injuries....including a couple of deaths. Now, I'm curious. Could certainly be my area, but we do fly in a bunch so it's not just this general area that would be sent to us. Christopher Reeves.....
He had a neck/spinal cord injury...not a TBI as far as I know. Without the helmet...he may very well have ended up with both. Who knows |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | Tell her you have nothing to protect so what is her point? LOL |
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Location: California | I'll wear one on certain horses and depending on what I'm doing and where I am riding. I've seen people have life long seizures as a result of concussions they suffered in horse accidents. My sister suffered a concussion almost 2 years ago and still has vertigo. Ambulance rides are expensive too. $2500 to go a few miles!? I'd rather take that money and buy a nice saddle. |
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