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Location: Loma Linda, CA | Mine is a non horse person.
I find it difficult sometimes. He HATES going to barrel races and often gets headaches around the boarding facility. He says he is allergic to hay or the dust.
It is his personal hell if he does get dragged to a barrel race lol. He doesn't understand it. Doesn't get 'it', but he supports it in the sense that he doesn't get mad if all I want to do is go ride my horse and race on the weekends. Lol. So there is that.
What's your experience? I'm totally not dogging on my SO at all. I appreciate that he is supportive. He is supportive in letting me do my ventures. Supportive in helping me save for a truck/trailer and getting on board on buying a house with horse property when we are ready to buy a house.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Non horsey person, he does his own thing when I go barrel racing.  |
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Location: ohio-in my own little world with pretty ponies :) | He's non horsey. But he helps out a lot. Also he is extremely supportive of it. He likes that I have something I'm so passionate about and it's "my" thing. He goes to barrel races sometimes since I don't like to go alone and e likes to watch and help out. But he has his things too so he does that a lot too. |
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Location: Wyoming- where its always windy! | Mine is non-horsey. In fact, he's allergic to horses. I sometimes wish he was more into horse activities but I understand he would probably have a major allergic reaction if I drug him to a race. He does however feed for me when I ask and is finishing out the LQ on my trailer so I'm content. I'll keep him around I guess ;)
Edited to add- it is frustrating some days though because he doesn't fully understand how important they are to me. Like I would live in a single wide trailer for the rest of my life if it meant my horses had a beautiful place to live. He thinks if we move to town, I can just board them anywhere like it's no big deal. Doesn't really see eye to eye with my dreams and goals of having horse property in the future. So that has been an area of conflict for us. But hopefully we can get things figured out
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| Mine is non horsey but wants to get into it. He likes coming to barrel races and likes the horses. He's just in the process of learning to ride which my horse is a terrible beginners horse who takes advantage. So he's getting a horse he can learn on, he wants to eventually start running to. ?? It's nice to find someone who not only supports my horse addiction but wants to get into it. |
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Location: MD | Non horsey here with allergies- bad ones. I just appreciate him when he's in there and he's always doing his best.
Loves going to the races and kind of kicks my butt in gear about going to them. When we are at shows he's always trying to clean up the stall, brushing the horses, wrapping polos, has the draw sheet and how fast they are moving figured out. He's the best :)
I never ask him to do anything unless he has nothing to do and he's asking to help. I ALWAYS say thank you and you're the best. I never forced him in the beginning to do the horse thing and let him come around on his own time.
For the allergies, this is the same guy that can't dust the house without his nose turning into a faucet. He showers or baby wipes down as soon as he can. Takes the claritin D dissolve tabs and he says that he actually can be functional on them. |
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Location: Texas | my boyfriend enjoys horses, enjoys ranch work and starting colts…but not a big fan of the barrel races. He comes sometimes and its always those times that he comes that we have a different tractor driver who drags REALLY REALLY SLOW, or something breaks down, and whatever time I told him we would be home by gets pushed back by hours.
He says he's supportive but maybe in his mind, LOL.. he likes that i have something to do but he doesn't like it when I am gone all the time. I don't blame him.. and between his schooling for this PhD and my vet school, we are 5 hours apart a lot of the time so the last thing he wants to do is drive 3 hours to my parents house to see me say bye and head to a barrel race. The more I have been meeting in the middle the better things have been! Things weren't ever bad, but it's cut down on a lot of the bickering about barrel races. |
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Location: Arkansas | My husband and I both rodeo. We have been married for almost 9 years. While I know it works for lots of people, I cannot imagine being with someone that wasn't a horse person. Horses are such a huge part of my life. We don't even have Cable/Dish or home internet becasue we are never in the house! Growing up, I never even went on a lunch date with someone that wasn't a horse person--not that I thought they weren't "good enough", but because I knew I wouldn't be happy with someone that didn't share the same passion I did so why bother?
A big downside though, is the $$$! It gets expensive paying for both of your horse hobbies. Add in a few dry weekend where you both don't win anything and you start to reconsider your decision about only wanting a horse person! lol
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| My husband grew up on a family owned dairy so he "had" to ride,,,,, now the only thing riding he does is on his harley.
He is so supportive ,,,, he knows how much I love my horses,,,, he enjoys going to jackpots / rodeos with me,,, doesnt get any better than that in my eyes. Right after we purchased our new home last year he knew the first thing we had to get built was my arena. I could sit here and brag on him all day. God truly blessed me with a good one 
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Location: Lost in the corn of Iowa. | My hubby is very non horsey. With that being said...he is my biggest fan. He will come to a race but not to little saddle club shows because to him those are like watching paint dry. LOL!! He said he likes to watch me run, just because he knows where my mare and I started from. He always asks me how I did if he stays home from a race. But given the choice, he'd rather be on his harley riding the country side. Which is nice because he likes when I travel since it's a great excuse for a nice bike ride. His words almost exactly. LOL!! He is very supportive, we are beginning to look for another place and he wants to make sure there's plenty of room for a barn, arena and pasture. I am having saddle issues with my mare and he sits down with me and looks at different saddles and is kinda getting into the shopping thing (probably because it's my dime! LOL!)
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Location: Somewhere around here | My husband is a horse person and I LOVE IT!!! Half the guys I've dated wern't into horses and they always treated it like it was a hobby that was going to magically go away one day. I didn't want to bring that kind of attitude into a marriage one day. My husband (used to) break colts and trained his horses for reining but dabbed a little into team roping. He's not in love with barrel racing by any means but he understands what I say to him and I can go to him for help in needed be!
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Location: Minnesota | My husband is in the middle. He's started to ride more but I wouldn't call him a horse person per say. He'll hop on and ride with me if I ask but I never see him wanting his own horse. |
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Location: Alberta | Hubby is a horse person, he ranch ropes....he is also a farrier & saddle maker |
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Location: London Ontario | Mine was kind of forced in to it all! His mother rode and trained Dressage horses VERY competitively and did VERY well. She is a very very well respected rider, coach and competitor around here. His sister rode as well, surprisingly he is actually the most natural rider out of his siblings, but was always more interested in the tractors, trucks and toys that went a long with the lifestyle. I love it because he is always there to fix trucks, trailers and toys when they break down and keeps us in running order. He is allergic but always carries around allergy meds as he knows how important it is to me. He is my biggest supporter but can often get pretty tough on me(in a good way!). He is always there to help load, feed, water, tack up etc. It's nice that our hobbies kind of go hand in hand - truck and horses - so we can both be kind of happy! He is my #1 driver, hook-er-upper and supporter. Now that I have taken a little vacation from it all, I am starting to get the serious itch to get back running so he is helping me in every way to get everything together to get my next futurity horse. I cant wait and am thankful ever day that he's around to help!!! |
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| My hubby is a NON horse person! Capitals on the NON!! He is supportive, sort of. He lets me go, I have time to ride, and he helps me put up hay. He does complain about the cost, but I tell him a "happy wife is a happy life!" Because without my ponies, I would be one unhappy lady! |
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Location: Oklahoma | Horsey person  However, I agree with one of the earlier posts. When hauling together and both of us have a dry weekend or two-can get expensive and of course a bit tense. LOL However, I wouldn't have it any other way. He is also my horse shoer |
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Location: Loma Linda, CA | chasincans85 - 2014-05-23 3:43 AM
Mine is non-horsey. In fact, he's allergic to horses. I sometimes wish he was more into horse activities but I understand he would probably have a major allergic reaction if I drug him to a race. He does however feed for me when I ask and is finishing out the LQ on my trailer so I'm content. I'll keep him around I guess ;)
Edited to add- it is frustrating some days though because he doesn't fully understand how important they are to me. Like I would live in a single wide trailer for the rest of my life if it meant my horses had a beautiful place to live. He thinks if we move to town, I can just board them anywhere like it's no big deal. Doesn't really see eye to eye with my dreams and goals of having horse property in the future. So that has been an area of conflict for us. But hopefully we can get things figured out
Oh my! I know exactly how you feel!
He's like... yeah just find a place in town! I've tried to explain that decent horse property that is affordable is definitely outside of 'town'.
But we did find an area that we both liked... though expensive, that we will one day get!
It's in San Timoteo Canyon! OMG it is beautiful there! |
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Location: Blissfully happy Giants fan!!! | Non-horsey...and I LOVE it. Horses are mine and it is my me time. I don't want him invading that part of my life. haha!
That said, never once has he complained, said a bad word, etc. He is allergic to hay and all sorts of other things, but he is putting fences up, mows, moves hay for me, whatever that needs to be done for the horses. If I am out of town, horses are taken care of. If I can't get away from work, he hauls my horses to the vet, holds horses for the farrier, etc. He keeps my truck and trailer up to date on maintenance, checks over everything, etc. Never bats an eye.
Super supportive of me running. I was debating on going to a race a few weeks ago and he was the one telling me I should enter it.
He doesn't get to go to the races but if he is off work he comes. But he never tries to get my attention or talk with me unless I chat with him first because he knows that is my zone time. He just wants to be around me.
I have dealt with a non-horsey SO who said they were supportive but not really and I have deal with a horsey SO too. I wouldn't trade my hubby in for anything in this world. I would also do anything for him and he knows that. That includes taking weekends or days off to spend with him. But he never takes advantage of that information. Which makes me love him even more. |
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Location: Loma Linda, CA | rodeochick382 - 2014-05-23 7:21 AM
My husband and I both rodeo. We have been married for almost 9 years. While I know it works for lots of people, I cannot imagine being with someone that wasn't a horse person. Horses are such a huge part of my life. We don't even have Cable/Dish or home internet becasue we are never in the house! Growing up, I never even went on a lunch date with someone that wasn't a horse person--not that I thought they weren't "good enough", but because I knew I wouldn't be happy with someone that didn't share the same passion I did so why bother?
A big downside though, is the $$$! It gets expensive paying for both of your horse hobbies. Add in a few dry weekend where you both don't win anything and you start to reconsider your decision about only wanting a horse person! lol
Trust me you're still broke with a non-horse person!
My SO Is a freaking doctor (if it weren't for his student loans we'd be better off lol)! We never seem to have enough money! Lol. I'm almost a veterinarian (again student loans, ugh!)
Horses are just plain expensive! But worth it!
Edit: I didn't realize how many non-horsey SO's there were lol! I sometimes have this romantic idea of what it would be like if mine were more interested in horsey stuff. OR even bull riding so we could go to more rodeos even as spectators (getting him to go as both of us as spectators is exactly like pulling teeth lol! I end up bribing him lol)
But it is neat to see all the support out there! Mine will probably never learn to drive the truck/trailer. That's definitely all me lol! But emotionally he is there. Financially we share both our incomes so I guess there is that support too cause I'm sure technically some of my hobbies bleed into what would be his contribution lol.
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| I was married for a long time to a non-horsey person. When the marriage ended, he blamed it part on the horses, not on the fact that he was cheating on me and got another woman pregnant, but that's another story.
Now I am very HAPPILY married to a horse person. I couldn't ask for anyone better. He totally gets it and he is so supportive. Having you S.O. share your passion for horses it is a true blessing and I can't imagine not being with a non-horse person ever again.  |
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