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Location: Lost in North Dakota....wishin on all the stars | The beginning has ended... Which leaves me wondering how this next chapter will play out.
As most of you know, My son Matthew and 3 friends were killed by a drunk driver 10/22/2011.. In Grande Prairie Alberta. A 5th boy survived... If you call it that. Life since then, well this past year, since my last up date has been.... Life. Since he was sentenced to his 3 years on Feb 28, 2014 we knew we had dark days ahead again... He was released on day parole August 2014, which brought the weekly phone calls telling us he is going home for 3 days, going Camping, going for birthday parties, a wedding, a graduation.... ( which Tanner and Walter SHOULD have been at)... May 10th, Mattys 19th birthday he got to go camping.... Me, well I could hardly move from my couch... A veru good friend remember Matt with a birthday cake for me... Lots of tears, especially with mothers day the next day. We know injustice and we know that the score would never be for our boys, the beginning has ended. Yesterday he was granted full parole. No more phone calls telling us what he is doing, no more. Now he has the rope to either walk on or hang himself with.
No, I don't believe he is totally remourseful, because he has yet to own everything he did that night.... But time will tell. After 7 months... His debt for killing those boys has been served. He is a free man, only having to attend councelling... And not get caught drinking...7 months... Not even 2 months for each life he ended.
I am struggling to find forgiveness... I have a forgiving heart and believe that I need to forgive him to heal my wounds, for Matty... But its a struggle, I rely on Romans in the bible a lot. My pastor is a member of BADD and is a pastor for some biker churchs as well... He has helped, but while, I have put it in my own heart to forgive, the Almighty has yet to show me that path.
That's, the update... Coming on 3 years since that terrible night... |
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Location: Sunny So Cal |  praying for you. May you find comfort and peace. |
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 Ima Fickle Fan
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Location: Texas |  If I were there in person, I would give you a hug. His punishment did not begin to fit the tragedy he inflicted. I am so sorry for your and the other families losses. I hope this young man truly has remorse, although I doubt it. But I hope the weight of it hangs on him for the rest of his life.
Continued prayers for your family. I can't begin to fathom how you have gotten this far and continue to move forward. |
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 Triple Extra-Ordinaire
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Location: Okla | I think of you often and have been keeping you in my prayers. Hugs for you |
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| Prayers, I will never understand the legal system regarding drunk drivers. It was not a mistake, it was a decision to not be responsible and consider others safety. |
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Location: Broxton, Ga | Prayers |
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Location: In The Land of Cotton | I am so very sorry. I can't even begin to know how you feel. Prayers for your peace. |
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| So very sorry. I too would find it difficult to forgive - especially since the little idiot hasn't really ever shown any remorse for what he did. Prayers to you that you find comfort and healing - and peace. Big hugs. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Prayers and hugs for you! |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas |
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Location: East Tennessee but who knows?! | Prayers for you to find release and peace. You have been thru a lot. |
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Location: Central Texas | HUGS! I think of you often. I have no words, only shock and disgust. |
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Location: Oklahoma | Prayers and hugs . . . I hope for you to find peace soon.
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Location: WYOMING | Somethings can never be forgiven or forgotten. |
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