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Location: Keeping up with the numbers! | Just curious if thank you notes are obsolete any more. I sent out six graduation cards with what I would consider a very appropriate amount of money seven weeks ago. To date I have not received one thank you note or call. Is this a thing of the past? Just curious as new generations of children have different outlooks on life. Any thoughts???? |
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Location: Never in one place long | I think this post has been on here before but NOPE I don't think so although, I'm in the same boat... I sent several decent sized checks out for our cousin graduates and haven't received a single thank you nor did they mention it when I saw them last. I also have not received thank yous from people that I've provided other things for. I don't except it but it is nice to at the very least KNOW they received it, I guess I know that by seeing when the check clears! |
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| Apparently some people think so...I gave a monetary gift to an old friend for her wedding last October and never received a thank you. I don't think there's any excuse for that! I guess it goes back to how you were brought up? Beats me!  |
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Location: South | I am a firm believer that if you receive a graduation gift or wedding gift you should send a "Thank you" note. This was the way my parents were raised, and the way they raised me. I gave a wedding gift a few months ago and still havn't gotten a "Thank you". I think that is just tacky on the receivers end. JMO |
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Location: Midwest | I wouldn't expect it if the person recieved the gift and thanked you in person at the time, however if this was a party you went to, or if you mailed it to them, I would think they should send you a thank you note OR call you to say thank you.
Cards in general though (of the paper sort) are not very popular anymore with the younger crowd.
I personally hate sending cards, though I did send thank you cards for my wedding gifts promptly. I believe I sent them after my wedding shower as well.
If a friend gets me a gift, or we exchange gifts in person, I do not later mail them a thank you card because I said thanks in person... and if someone mails me something, I normally will call or text (depending on the what the person prefers) to say thanks instead of sending a paper card. |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | I remember being a bit late on getting my graduation and thank you cards out for wedding and graduation, sometimes because I had the wrong address. But everybody got sent something. If somebody does something nice for me day to day or birthday or something, I'll just call or thank them in person. But formal occasions still demand them I think. |
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Location: ND--it snows, it floods, it snows, it floods | Probably one of my biggest pet peeves is not getting Thank You notes or at least some sort of response to a gift weather it be wedding, graduation or even birthday. I did send out 1 graduation card this year and got a thank you written by the kids mother which I was a little taken aback by but at least I got a response. I know my sister gets on my nephew and niece about it but my brother and his wife don't do anything...we barely get a response when they open the gifts in front of us which really irritates me. I've given up on hubby's side to recieve anything ever from them in some sort of response. |
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Hungarian Midget Woman
Location: Midwest | oija - 2014-07-15 10:52 AM I remember being a bit late on getting my graduation and thank you cards out for wedding and graduation, sometimes because I had the wrong address. But everybody got sent something. If somebody does something nice for me day to day or birthday or something, I'll just call or thank them in person. But formal occasions still demand them I think.
Agree.
I will usually only text people thank you if that is the primary way we communicate instead of phone calls (myself and many of my friends hate talking on the phone, lol), otherwise I will call. |
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The Advice Guru
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| I believe if you are giving something or donating something and expect something in return (the thank you) then you are doing it for the wrong reason.
Even if I donate prizes to a barrel race, I don't expect anything in return, last year I donated peewee prizes never received a thank you card, but I seen on Facebook, it was acknowledged. I was happier to see the smiles on the peewees faces. |
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Location: Keeping up with the numbers! | Thank you for the responses. I think it is a generation gap. Cards are the only way to go anymore if you do not live close. I won't even get started on the price of cards...lol! I think the cheapest one I sent was $4.99.
I guess prior to your responses I was filling a little miffed. Outside of the family members, some of these graduates I have not seen for a while and to send them a nice card and what I perceive as a monetary amount I just felt warrented a thank you. At least from the parents anyway, as I know they are the ones who instigated giving them my address to send their graduation announcement to begin with. |
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Location: Deep South | I think there is becoming a generation gap. I don't know if parents just aren't teaching their kids to do it or what the deal is. But where I'm from, people still expect to receive them for formal occasions.
Heaven forbid a bride doesn't send them out promptly. All the ladies at church are talking about her. |
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Location: NC | barrelracr131 - 2014-07-15 10:52 AM I wouldn't expect it if the person recieved the gift and thanked you in person at the time, however if this was a party you went to, or if you mailed it to them, I would think they should send you a thank you note OR call you to say thank you.
Cards in general though (of the paper sort) are not very popular anymore with the younger crowd.
I personally hate sending cards, though I did send thank you cards for my wedding gifts promptly. I believe I sent them after my wedding shower as well.
If a friend gets me a gift, or we exchange gifts in person, I do not later mail them a thank you card because I said thanks in person... and if someone mails me something, I normally will call or text (depending on the what the person prefers) to say thanks instead of sending a paper card.
I sent Thank You cards after all of my wedding and baby showers, but always thought it was a waste of time and money when I already told everyone thank you in person..... I can see sending them to someone you were not able to thank in person, but honestly don't see the point when you have already thanked them in person.... JMHO but my in-laws assured me it is a must so I did.  |
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"Heck's Coming With Me"
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Location: Kansas | Wedding gift and graduation in the past couple of months......no thank you notes. I expect them.
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Location: Tx | I am 27 and still send traditional "thank you" notes for everything! My parents required I do it when growing up and it stuck. From the time I learned to write I was doing my own thank you's for everything that was sent to me. My grandparents would send birthday, Christmas, dance competition flowers or money or for anything from any sponsors I had for softball, soccer, basketball or rodeo. I did it for all of my wedding stuff, baby stuff and my kids birthday gifts received from out of town. I was raised with very traditional values and my children will learn the same. I think people cherish a nice handwritten letter more than an electronic thank you. |
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Location: Moving soon..... | Maybe its just my generation, but I would not expect anything less. If I were to give someone a gift for any occasion, I would expect a thank you note. If I don't get one, I would assume that the gift was not appreciated or wanted. |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | I'm a Thank You card BEAST. I send them for EVERYTHING. Especially if the gift is from a distance, not only is it a polite thank you, but it also lets the sender know you received it. Any type of shower (baby or wedding), birthday gift, wedding gift - they all get cards from my family.
I think the problem here though, is a generation gap and just lack of etiquette. I don't mean that everyone needs beat over the head with Emily Post's book (there's heavier ones that would do a better job), but there's a general lack of etiquette and manners in today's younger generations - including my own. |
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| I don't think wanting or expecting a thank you note at all means you are giving a gift for the wrong reason. It is polite and good manners to properly thank someone for their time and effort in acknowleging you with a gift. It is also my biggest pet peeve to not recieve a thank you note. So many of the "niceties" of out society are going by the way side, knowing your neigbors, being part of a community and it is a shame. No one should be too busy to show appreciation and good manners. My kids are ages 21- 25 and they write thank you notes for Christmas gifts to their grandparents. |
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 I Prefer to Live in Fantasy Land
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | BeanCounter - 2014-07-15 11:01 AM Thank you for the responses. I think it is a generation gap. Cards are the only way to go anymore if you do not live close. I won't even get started on the price of cards...lol! I think the cheapest one I sent was $4.99. I guess prior to your responses I was filling a little miffed. Outside of the family members, some of these graduates I have not seen for a while and to send them a nice card and what I perceive as a monetary amount I just felt warrented a thank you. At least from the parents anyway, as I know they are the ones who instigated giving them my address to send their graduation announcement to begin with.
It's very easy and cheap to make your own Thank You cards or to buy them in a pack. |
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| We still give thank you notes.
Jimmy Fallon does "Thank You Notes" every week. They are pretty funny!
I remember a co-workers husband saying one time that women would send a thank you note to the person who gave them a thank you note for a gift. Thank you for your thank you note!  |
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Location: Texas | I received a hs graduation invitation post marked July 7th for a June 6th graduation from a great niece that I see maybe every other year. I am trying to decide if it even deserves a response. |
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