|
|
  Damn Yankee
Posts: 12390
   
Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | So crucify me now and get it over with, or just don't ready it, because the fact is, I have nowhere else to ask.....
Ok...this may be totally inappropriate to post here, but where else do I ask??? Are there any woman on here, or do you guys know of any woman, who never had children, didn't know whether they wanted to or not, but either way they ended up having a hysterectomy at a young age? Like 34 or so or younger? Regrets? Pros? Cons? Yes, there is a medical reason to have it done. Surgeons are all suggesting it and I know it's the best thing for my body, but dang it's such a huge decision..... |
|
| |
|
The Advice Guru
Posts: 6419
| I know a few who have, the biggest problem with having a complete hysterectomy is developing osteoporosis. Early menopause, hormone replacement therapy which also has a long list of side effects.
The risks lower if a partial hysterectomy is performed, leaving the ovaries.
Good luck on your decision. |
|
| |
|
Elite Veteran
Posts: 1094
Location: Idahome | I can't help here, but many  . I can only imagine the decision to be made. |
|
| |
|
 Shelter Dog Lover
Posts: 10277
| That is such a personal decision as to have children or not and there is no right or wrong answer. You do not need to put your health at risk. I really posted to say that there are other ways of becoming a parent if you decide you want children. My neice is not able to have children and within 4 months of becoming approved as a foster parent she and her husband have a 2 year old little girl and twin newborns they are fostering to adopt. |
|
| |
|
 Dr. Ruth
Posts: 9891
Location: Blissfully happy Giants fan!!! | I haven't had it but I know it would take away a lot of issues I have. But I have yet to have ANY doctor say they would do it until I am past 35. And I have seen a lot of doctors in my short life span... |
|
| |
|
Damn Yankee
Posts: 12390
Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | cheryl makofka - 2014-08-07 3:32 PM I know a few who have, the biggest problem with having a complete hysterectomy is developing osteoporosis. Early menopause, hormone replacement therapy which also has a long list of side effects. The risks lower if a partial hysterectomy is performed, leaving the ovaries. Good luck on your decision.
Those risks aren't as bad as the risks if I don't have it done :( |
|
| |
|
Damn Yankee
Posts: 12390
Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | rodeomom3 - 2014-08-07 3:40 PM That is such a personal decision as to have children or not and there is no right or wrong answer. You do not need to put your health at risk. I really posted to say that there are other ways of becoming a parent if you decide you want children. My neice is not able to have children and within 4 months of becoming approved as a foster parent she and her husband have a 2 year old little girl and twin newborns they are fostering to adopt.
We already know we will foster/adopt someday. We aren't ready now, but someday |
|
| |
|
The Advice Guru
Posts: 6419
| Depending on your beliefs you could discuss with your doctor about harvesting a few eggs prior to surgery, then if you decide you want children later on, there are surrogate wombs available.
Last time I heard in Alberta womb rental was 10k. You never know a friend may offer to carry the child for you for free.
There are also many children who need adoption.
|
|
| |
|
Damn Yankee
Posts: 12390
Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | cheryl makofka - 2014-08-07 3:51 PM Depending on your beliefs you could discuss with your doctor about harvesting a few eggs prior to surgery, then if you decide you want children later on, there are surrogate wombs available. Last time I heard in Alberta womb rental was 10k. You never know a friend may offer to carry the child for you for free. There are also many children who need adoption.
No, we wouldn't go that route. We will adopt some day when we are ready. |
|
| |
|
The Advice Guru
Posts: 6419
| missroselee - 2014-08-07 2:48 PM
cheryl makofka - 2014-08-07 3:32 PM I know a few who have, the biggest problem with having a complete hysterectomy is developing osteoporosis. Early menopause, hormone replacement therapy which also has a long list of side effects. The risks lower if a partial hysterectomy is performed, leaving the ovaries. Good luck on your decision.
Those risks aren't as bad as the risks if I don't have it done :(
There are treatments for most medical conditions, and you can always be proactive on the osteoporosis and start taking calcium and vitamin d in dosages your doctor recommends.
As you probably know there are risks to any surgery, which your doctor should discuss with you. |
|
| |
|
Shelter Dog Lover
Posts: 10277
| missroselee - 2014-08-07 2:49 PM rodeomom3 - 2014-08-07 3:40 PM That is such a personal decision as to have children or not and there is no right or wrong answer. You do not need to put your health at risk. I really posted to say that there are other ways of becoming a parent if you decide you want children. My neice is not able to have children and within 4 months of becoming approved as a foster parent she and her husband have a 2 year old little girl and twin newborns they are fostering to adopt. We already know we will foster/adopt someday. We aren't ready now, but someday
We love those foster babies just as much as the other babies in our family. The 2 year is smart as a whip and very articulate. She has only been part of our family for a few months but we brag on her like we had something to do with how smart she is. We just gush all over her  |
|
| |
|
I just read the headlines
Posts: 4483
| Please do what is best for Your health! |
|
| |
|
Damn Yankee
Posts: 12390
Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | cheryl makofka - 2014-08-07 3:54 PM missroselee - 2014-08-07 2:48 PM cheryl makofka - 2014-08-07 3:32 PM I know a few who have, the biggest problem with having a complete hysterectomy is developing osteoporosis. Early menopause, hormone replacement therapy which also has a long list of side effects. The risks lower if a partial hysterectomy is performed, leaving the ovaries. Good luck on your decision. Those risks aren't as bad as the risks if I don't have it done :( There are treatments for most medical conditions, and you can always be proactive on the osteoporosis and start taking calcium and vitamin d in dosages your doctor recommends. As you probably know there are risks to any surgery, which your doctor should discuss with you.
I'm already on treatments. A hysterectomy will be my only option at some point so why wait if I can make the decision right now? i take Rx calcium and d3. Have been on it for a while because we knew it would come to this at some point. I'm just trying to talk about my feelings before I make one. |
|
| |
|
Damn Yankee
Posts: 12390
Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | I guess a lil more information would be that I have been on Lupron for 60 days. It's a drug that puts you into medical menopause.
The first 30 days were rough, as I was warned they would be. The last 30 days, despite the side affects, have been amazing. |
|
| |
|
The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | My sister-in-law had a hysterectomy in her early 20s because of an insane case of endometriosis. Her and my brother-in-law didn't have kids, and decided not to adopt. She says the hardest thing was the early menopause. Even though they gave her replacements, she still struggled with her hormones for a long time. Good luck!! |
|
| |
|
The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | Surrogacy is WAY more expensive than 10k. My mother was a surrogate TWICE. The average cost to do surrogacy is around 40k. The clients pay ALL medical costs - not insurance, PLUS the "womb rental" as you called it - which goes up in cost if you end up with multiples. My mom have birth to two sets of surrogate TRIPLETS. Surrogacy is by no means a cheap or easy route.
ETA: this was in response to Cheryl. Somehow the quote function failed
Edited by svincent 2014-08-07 3:16 PM
|
|
| |
|
The Advice Guru
Posts: 6419
| missroselee - 2014-08-07 2:57 PM
cheryl makofka - 2014-08-07 3:54 PM missroselee - 2014-08-07 2:48 PM cheryl makofka - 2014-08-07 3:32 PM I know a few who have, the biggest problem with having a complete hysterectomy is developing osteoporosis. Early menopause, hormone replacement therapy which also has a long list of side effects. The risks lower if a partial hysterectomy is performed, leaving the ovaries. Good luck on your decision. Those risks aren't as bad as the risks if I don't have it done :( There are treatments for most medical conditions, and you can always be proactive on the osteoporosis and start taking calcium and vitamin d in dosages your doctor recommends. As you probably know there are risks to any surgery, which your doctor should discuss with you.
I was talking post surgery
Hormone replacement therapy, depending on your medical history you may want to discuss with your doc if this is an option, as my understanding is it can increase your chance of heart attack or stroke in some individuals.
Weight gain
Osteoporosis, there is didrocal, not many side effects to that, but doesn't work for all
You might become at risk for heart disease, this you will need to speak to your doc about as I cannot remember what the literature was saying.
Your emotional well being you are going to go through the stages of loss, this will be normal, you may need to speak to a professional to help you get through the stages, and how to deal with the emotions.
Hot and cold flashes
The other thing is you may feel like a million bucks after and have very few side effects and wonder why you didn't do it sooner. |
|
| |
|
 Expert
Posts: 1440
Location: Texas | I would not hesitate to do it. I am 44 and never had kids and it was my decision for a lot of reasons. If a doctors told me that I needed a hysterectomy I would do it to improve the quality of my life. Yes, you will have issues due to changes in hormones etc but it is better than being sick or miserable all the time. I guess I wonder what makes you hesitant to have the operation? If doctors say you need it and have exhausted all other options why not have it. |
|
| |
|
 Angel in a Sorrel Coat
Posts: 16030
Location: In a happy place | I guess I am going to sound blunt but here goes. I would get the hysterectomy. I have read enough of your posts that in my opinion I think you would be better off doing it. You and your husband would make wonderful parents and later if you want to adopt it would be a super option.
You need to take care of you. |
|
| |
|
 Husband Spoiler
Posts: 4151
Location: North Dakota | I think you have made your decision but you want a support system for encouragement. I say go for it! If you are miserable and think it is the only way to feel better and for a chance to get healthy once again then absolutely do it. |
|
| |
Folks on-line