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 Hawty & Nawty
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| If there was no cheating or drastic drama involved, how did you know when it was time to call it quits. I'm not saying this is happening with me (remember, I'm an author) but I'm not saying it isn't. I'm just curious about the little things that happen that make a person say; "Enough is enough." |
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Location: Oklahoma | For me, I was just plain tired. Tired of his drinking, fighting, temper, & his lack of support or help with our 80 acre place. He wouldn't help with any of the chores and would just "come home, drink and play video games". I figured if I was going to be the one doing everything, it was time to lighten the "load"(by 240 lbs). I haven't looked back. |
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Location: Somewhere between S@%&# stirrer and Saint | 34 years before it ended.  |
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 The Vaccinator
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Dreamin of 3cans - 2014-09-09 7:50 PM
For me, I was just plain tired. Tired of his drinking, fighting, temper, & his lack of support or help with our 80 acre place. He wouldn't help with any of the chores and would just "come home, drink and play video games". I figured if I was going to be the one doing everything, it was time to lighten the "load"(by 240 lbs). I haven't looked back.
This sounds like the opening lines for a great novel.... |
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Member
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| We didn't say more than 20 words to each other the course of 10 months. Didn't see that changing. |
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 Hugs to You
Posts: 7551
Location: In The Land of Cotton | When I held a gun to his head after he beat me. |
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Veteran
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Location: Okla | Don't mean to get side tracked, but this question got me to wondering how many here are single and do you intend on staying single? Just wondering.. |
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Expert
Posts: 1432
| Mine was very mentally and emotionally abusive and it started immediately after we said "I do". He was awesome until then. We didn't even make it a year. I was his 3rd wife, that should've been my first clue....
Edited by 3TurnsonSpud 2014-09-09 8:07 PM
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 Warmblood with Wings
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Location: Florida.. | lots of reasons for me but I think as a relationship marriage goes.. when you stop being friends.. its time to walk away..or fix it.
Edited by Bibliafarm 2014-09-09 8:18 PM
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Hawty & Nawty
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| Keep these coming. I need to read these. I promise. |
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Too busy outside!
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| Bibliafarm made a good point. I would say when you realize that neither one of you respects the other. |
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 More bootie than waist!
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Location: Riding Crackhead. | 3TurnsonSpud - 2014-09-09 8:00 PM Mine was very mentally and emotionally abusive and it started immediately after we said "I do". He was awesome until then. We didn't even make it a year. I was his 3rd wife, that should've been my first clue....
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Expert
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Location: west of East Texas | The respect comment was exactly what I was going to say. And respect can be lost in many ways. I lost all respect for my ex when he kind went 'phantom' on me after we had a child and but criticized my every move. I knew my marriage was over when I realized I would rather be anywhere else but around him. |
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Location: OK | When we were fighting (again) at 2 a.m. I'm going to the couch to sleep-he follows me, not about to let the disagreement go. THEN--my kids in the hallway crying and yelling (at 2 a.m. on a school night) at us "YOU GUYS STOP FIGHTING"!! I didn't want my kids around that anymore! Before that, lots of jealous controlling behavior-when I finally decided not to live that way anymore-we just fought all the time. |
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 Ditch the Stirrups
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Location: Sorrow Not! Defending against workplace bullies | When he wouldn't come out to the barn to help me with a horse I was afraid of because he didn't want to get dirty. I just wanted him to watch me ride in case something happened...soon met someone else at the barn who wanted to watch me all the time! Happily married now. |
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 Dog Resuce Agent
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Location: southeast Texas | Old timely,
tried marriage three times, intend on staying single this time............. |
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 Shelter Dog Lover
Posts: 10277
| 3TurnsonSpud - 2014-09-09 8:00 PM Mine was very mentally and emotionally abusive and it started immediately after we said "I do". He was awesome until then. We didn't even make it a year. I was his 3rd wife, that should've been my first clue....
I am so sorry and also so glad you got out of that terrible situation. |
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Shelter Dog Lover
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| chasendacash - 2014-09-09 10:32 PM The respect comment was exactly what I was going to say. And respect can be lost in many ways. I lost all respect for my ex when he kind went 'phantom' on me after we had a child and but criticized my every move. I knew my marriage was over when I realized I would rather be anywhere else but around him. This is what happened to my sister's marriage. They had a disabled child and he was no where to be found at doctor's appt. etc. He could not handle it and was ashamed of her. Their other daughter is fostering to adopt newborn twin baby girls who were taken away because of drug abuse. Babies have tested for minimal exposure. When his daughter called to share the news of the new babies his first question was "Is there a test to see how smart they are"- still a jerk.
Edited by rodeomom3 2014-09-10 7:28 AM
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | When giving him a second chance to be faithful...and he wasn't. If you cant trust your partner in life...and you have no respect for them...you just sort of wake up one day and just know that you are done. |
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 The One
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Location: South Georgia | It was in my gut and I kept ignoring it for fear of the unknown and being alone. I finally listened to my gut. Best thing I ever did. |
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