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Location: Smack Dab in the Middle | I'm resigning from my job of 8 years at 5pm today... I want to leave on good terms, but I also want my boss to know that I'm leaving because I'm frustrated. I've loved my job, the people I work with and my customers...but I haven't had a raise in 6 years. My work load has at least quadrupled, and my stress level has gone through the roof the past few months after our latest acquisition. My performance has been great--I've taken our profit margin (for my department) from a struggling 9% to over 23%.
I had my mid-term review on Monday, which went well, right up until the end when I asked yet again for a raise. So I left frustrated. Tuesday morning, I got a phone call from a local, but unfamiliar number. It was an unsolicited job offer. Big change from what I do, but the timing was extraordinarily apt. Small pay raise, but big potential for more, same benefits, no Saturdays, more paid holidays and very flexible hours. I still had a very hard time making my choice, but I made it quickly, and I committed today over lunch to the new position. Now, to get through telling my boss with out crying, because I DO NOT want to do that. 
I have almost 4 weeks of PT to burn through. 2 weeks vacation and 2 weeks sick pay. I realize I may have to forfeit my sick pay, but I'm hoping I can figure out a way to take all of it. I'm just so ready to get this over with... |
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Location: Kansas | It's not always easy but stand your ground and be polite. Thank your boss for the years you were given, but don't give the reason for no pay raise to be why your resigning. |
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 Shelter Dog Lover
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Good luck to you, and heres a hug  |
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Location: In a happy place | Yes to what rodeomom said this takes courage. Good for you. Just remember to be polite and kind. You don't ever want to burn bridges. |
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 Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | Be prepared to forfeit all paid time off...... You seriously might want to schedule a vaction and then come back and give your 2 weeks.
Most companies will not compensate you for vacation time not used.
AND GOOD LUCK with the new venture!!!!
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 If it Ain't a Paint it Ain't!
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Location: Mansfield, Tx | Good luck on your new job....
Stand strong... and hold in your emotions....
Edited by RunningOnPaints 2014-09-11 3:17 PM
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Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | sorrel horse ranch - 2014-09-11 3:12 PM Yes to what rodeomom said this takes courage. Good for you. Just remember to be polite and kind. You don't ever want to burn bridges.
^^^This!!! Don't give a reason!!! EVER!
Just tell him that an opportunity that you cannot financially afford to pass up has presented itself. Do everything you can to make the transition easy for them.
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Location: GA | Like others said, don't burn bridges.
I just went through something similar. My boss doesn't quite know how to run the business which resulted in work being miserable. I was offered another job and a pay raise. I didn't get into why I was leaving. I told them it was because it was closer to home (true), higher pay (true), and a great opportunity (true).
You never know when you might need a recommendation even though I know how you'd like to tell them, it's just not always a smart choice.
ETA: Be prepared for them to potentially match pay. If they want you to stay bad enough, chances are they will do anything. Be prepared on what you think your decision would be IF they offered to match all pay and benefits this new job is offering.
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Hummer's Hero
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Location: Smack Dab in the Middle | kgraham38 - 2014-09-11 3:17 PM
Like others said, don't burn bridges.
I just went through something similar. My boss doesn't quite know how to run the business which resulted in work being miserable. I was offered another job and a pay raise. I didn't get into why I was leaving. I told them it was because it was closer to home (true), higher pay (true), and a great opportunity (true).Â
You never know when you might need a recommendation even though I know how you'd like to tell them, it's just not always a smart choice.Â
ETA: Be prepared for them to potentially match pay. If they want you to stay bad enough, chances are they will do anything. Be prepared on what you think your decision would be IF they offered to match all pay and benefits this new job is offering.
I'm actually quite sure my boss will panic. The statement was made during my review, that if I were to leave that meeting and get hit by a car walking back to my office (across the street) that he wouldn't know what to do. I'm the only one that does what I do, I currently have no back up. I fully intend to leave on good terms. I'm not leaving because I'm angry--I'm not. I wasn't seeking another job, it just happened, and it's not the first time, it's just the first time I've accepted--obviously. I will still actually have to do business with this office, it's where I buy all my feed, LOL. I've single handedly run the feed and animal health departments for 6+ years, and before that, I was the assistant. Our feed business size more than doubled in June with our acquisition, and I've handled all the transition and most of the inventory issues we've had as a result. But I don't have the same vision of where we should go as my boss has shared with me. And that's a battle I don't think I'd ever win.
I am sure that my boss will try to keep me--my new employer is sure they will too. It will take a lot at this point to make me stay--not just money either. |
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Location: GA | RockinGR - 2014-09-11 4:31 PM kgraham38 - 2014-09-11 3:17 PM Like others said, don't burn bridges.
I just went through something similar. My boss doesn't quite know how to run the business which resulted in work being miserable. I was offered another job and a pay raise. I didn't get into why I was leaving. I told them it was because it was closer to home (true), higher pay (true), and a great opportunity (true).
You never know when you might need a recommendation even though I know how you'd like to tell them, it's just not always a smart choice.
ETA: Be prepared for them to potentially match pay. If they want you to stay bad enough, chances are they will do anything. Be prepared on what you think your decision would be IF they offered to match all pay and benefits this new job is offering. I'm actually quite sure my boss will panic. The statement was made during my review, that if I were to leave that meeting and get hit by a car walking back to my office (across the street ) that he wouldn't know what to do. I'm the only one that does what I do, I currently have no back up. I fully intend to leave on good terms. I'm not leaving because I'm angry--I'm not. I wasn't seeking another job, it just happened, and it's not the first time, it's just the first time I've accepted--obviously. I will still actually have to do business with this office, it's where I buy all my feed, LOL. I've single handedly run the feed and animal health departments for 6+ years, and before that, I was the assistant. Our feed business size more than doubled in June with our acquisition, and I've handled all the transition and most of the inventory issues we've had as a result. But I don't have the same vision of where we should go as my boss has shared with me. And that's a battle I don't think I'd ever win. I am sure that my boss will try to keep me--my new employer is sure they will too. It will take a lot at this point to make me stay--not just money either.
It really, honestly, to me at least, sounds like your boss is taking advantage of how great you do. It would seem to me that if he absolutely valued you then he would take the raise into serious consideration.
You have been there for a long time. I can almost guarantee you that he probably thinks that no matter what, you'll never leave.
If the opportunity presents itself where you can politely discuss the issues, then do your best. I think given the amount of time you've worked there, you should be able to have these discussions. It's just finding a way so he doesn't get angry... which may be hard or next to impossible!
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Location: Tulsa, Ok | There is never a way to predict how a boss or owner will react in any situation that threatens the status quo of their working world. I have seen previously calm, reasonable individuals nearly go postal. Hence I think you just tell the boss that you have received an offer with terms and potential that are just too good to turn down. Thank him for the time and experience and leave it at that. Do not let him push you into giving details because it opens the door for the conversation to end up in the trash. |
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | SC Wrangler - 2014-09-11 4:17 PM
There is never a way to predict how a boss or owner will react in any situation that threatens the status quo of their working world.  I have seen previously calm, reasonable individuals nearly go postal.  Hence I think you just tell the boss that you have received an offer with terms and potential that are just too good to turn down. Thank him for the time and experience and leave it at that. Do not let him push you into giving details because it opens the door for the conversation to end up in the trash. Â
It sounds like you have made a very sound and reasoned decision -- and that in your new job you will have opportunities to grow and prosper. When you leave, as others state, be kind and courteous and professional and then MOVE ON. From what you have described there will probably be some type of emotional plea with promises to attempt to twist your arm to stay -- but it will be for all the wrong reasons! Go forth... prosper... grow into all you can be!!! Best of luck!!! |
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Location: Rodeos or Baseball games | Good luck!  |
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Location: Bandera, TX | How did it go? |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | GoMistyGo - 2014-09-11 6:20 PM How did it go?
I wanta know too.. |
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Location: A Higher Elevation | Yes. Update us please.
I'm in a somewhat similar situation... lol
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Hummer's Hero
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Location: Smack Dab in the Middle | Things went better than expected. Boss didn't actually try to counter, which on one hand spoke volumes, and on the other was a relief. I simply said I'd accepted an offer and wished to leave on good terms. That I would do what I could to help kick start a couple of projects that I was supposed to head up in the near future. I get my vacation but technically have to forfeit my sick days. However, he did say he would probably pay me for my full two weeks but not make me stay the whole time if I didn't need to. So he's kinda trying to give me some of it, which is a nice gesture. He's also indicated he will sign over my incentive check from purina (normally he beats around the bush about that). So that's a nice $583 bonus that I was fairly sure I'd not see.
So I really can't complain about it. I stayed calm and confident. I feel better than I have for several days. |
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| Glad you are leaving! I have been doing the job of 2 people for over a year now because my company "downsized" and fired my co-worker - at LEAST I have gotten a nice raise but if I had a better offer, I'd be GONE, GONE, GONE. I am no longer loyal to a company that isn't loyal to it's workers. I worked my last job for 18 years, so it's not like I jump from job to job! |
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