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 Ima Non Controversial Girl
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Location: where the wind blows | If you were married then got divorced would you keep your ex husbands last name or go back to your maiden name. To not panick those that know me I'm happily married. Just saw the name of a gal who was married to a former neighbor 10 plus years ago and she's still using his last name. They were only married a year at most. I know some (like my sisters) kept so they are same as kids but I honestly don't think I'd keep my ex husbands name if I were to divorce. Just made me curious as to why you chose to or chose to go back to your maiden. Can you tell I'm bored. :) |
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 Ima Fickle Fan
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Location: Texas | I would keep it. I have two boys and wouldn't want to confuse them. Plus, I didn't like my maiden name. And it was a pain in the @$$ to change it when I got married. I'd rather skip the hassle. |
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Location: Canada | I can see the benefits of keeping it. When your young and get married and change your name you typically only have some financial companies you need to notify. As you age you typically have a mortgage, retirement savings, personal loans, credit cards etc, etc. and notifying all the companies of a name change is painful and time consuming so most simply keep the name.
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Location: Texas | I kept my ex's last name but we were married 13 years and that is how everyone knew me. Plus it is not fun changing your name on everything! |
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Extreme Veteran
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Location: Somewhere in the middle of nowhere | When I divorced, I kept my ex's last name because my kids were young and I didn't want to confuse them. I also think it would depend on how long you were married. I also know that some women keep their ex's last name because they can't let go of the ex.... |
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 Good Grief!
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | i never changed mine when i got married..so it was easy when we split ....lol
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 I hate cooking and cleaning
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Location: Jersey Girl | I kept it because of my son. If I didn't have him I would have gone back to my maiden name. |
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Expert
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| I changed mine back to my maiden name and I was married 30 plus years, no kids. Didn't want to be associated with that last name. |
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Elite Veteran
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Location: Idahome | Have an aunt who's husband #2 had the last name Brown. When they divorced, she kept the name and eventually met husband #3 with the same last name. Never had to worry about changing it. You just never know, you may get lucky with the next one. |
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Location: fun meter pegged OK | Since I had kids, kept my married name. Otherwise, I would have gone back to my maiden. |
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Elite Veteran
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| I changed mine back to my maiden name. I didn't want to be reminded of him (and how awful he was) every time I signed my name, wrote an email, etc. |
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  Friendly horse swapper
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Location: Buffalo, TX | I really wanted to go back to my maiden name 31 years ago, and I wish I did.....but I think it's too late now...funny you would bring this up, I was actually thinking about wanting to do it anyway a couple weeks ago....don't really know why, and I still might, but it would throw everyone for a loop...my maiden name is Miers....don't know yet...I bet people would hear it and think I got re-married and would try to figure out who...LOL.... |
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Location: Saskatchewan | Soon as the divorce papers were done, I changed it back. It was a pain but we were only married for 3 years, was young and frankly I didn't want to be associated with his family. He was actually upset I changed it back lol um i'm not married to you why would I keep it, we also had no kids. |
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Party Gal
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Location: fun meter pegged OK | Cindy Hamilton - 2014-10-15 4:53 PM I really wanted to go back to my maiden name 31 years ago, and I wish I did.....but I think it's too late now...funny you would bring this up, I was actually thinking about wanting to do it anyway a couple weeks ago....don't really know why, and I still might, but it would throw everyone for a loop...my maiden name is Miers....don't know yet...I bet people would hear it and think I got re-married and would try to figure out who...LOL....
Now that would be funny! |
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | My parents were married for 17 years and have been divorced for about the same amount of time. My mom never got remarried and has kept our last name.
She alway got along with my dad's side of the family just not my dad. I never really thought about her changing it back but will have to ask her why she kept it. |
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| When my mom divorced my dad she kept our last name since everyone at work knew her by that name. Also, my brother was underage and the hassle of changing it. Her maiden last name was an easy one, I told her she should of picked a guy with a better last name growing up. The benefit to our last name is not too many people have it and when someone calls to sell you something, when they can't pronounce it can hang up on them before they try again to pronounce it. It is entertaining the variations I have heard of the years of people trying to guess my last name let alone how to say it. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | I know a girl who was only married a year and kept the name to spite the family... She is currently in jail, again... and is running down the prominant family's name... Bad deal...
I guess people have different reasons... I would want to go back to mine if anything ever happened but I love my family and my last name... |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | rowdy256 - 2014-10-15 5:44 PM When my mom divorced my dad she kept our last name since everyone at work knew her by that name. Also, my brother was underage and the hassle of changing it. Her maiden last name was an easy one, I told her she should of picked a guy with a better last name growing up. The benefit to our last name is not too many people have it and when someone calls to sell you something, when they can't pronounce it can hang up on them before they try again to pronounce it. It is entertaining the variations I have heard of the years of people trying to guess my last name let alone how to say it.
Now I'm curious about YOUR last name LOL  |
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| I would keep it! My maiden name is awful...and it would re associate me with a crap family lol |
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The Advice Guru
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| I do know that it costs money to have it legally changed back.
Also a big hassle, drivers liscence, passport, credit cards, banking, postal office, if you add it up it could end up costing quite a bit. |
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