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Location: Kansas | With a bad break up? I was in a relationship with someone, who I truly did love. He broke it off with me last friday, because he said I was putting him through alot. We went to a concert in a town about 30 miles from home, I said hi to a guy I previously had a relationship with (over 2 years ago), the guy acknowledged I was in a relationship and that was basically the conversation. So basically that ticked my ex off.....he left me in the town, had to have my grandmother come get me at 1:00 am since my car was at his house.
Since then, I haven't eaten since saturday...all I do is cry. He is talking to other girls already, and then sends me nasty text messages saying I was the one who never loved him, nor cared about him and that because of my "actions" I did this to myself. The messages are horrible, I cry everytime he sends a new one. I guess I'm hurt, because I'm a single mother.......and he was a "father figure" to my daughter. He basically states I'm a piece of crap who never cared about him.
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 Bulls Eye
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Location: Oklahoma | I messaged you on facebook... |
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Location: London Ontario | Block his number. Stupid comments and texts like that are ridiculous and I guess show his true colors. There are like a bajillion other guys out there and as corny as that sounds its true. He sounds like he needs a good a** whoop and to grow up. I say focus on yourself and your cutie for a while, the right guy will come around in time. Hugs... |
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Location: NW. Florida | Different strokes for different folks. I'm sorry you're hurt, but if he left me somewhere I wouldn't be hurt.....I'd be pissed. I wouldn't put up with someone that childish and didn't respect me any more than that. Find someone worthy of you and your child. Again sorry you're hurt. |
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  Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I'm so sorry, Aushlin. While he seemed like a great guy from what I saw, he left you in town stranded and he is lashing out at you in texts. These are not the actions of someone that cares about you. Even if he intended to break up with you, a man, would not have left you stranded. Though it seems hopeless right now, it will get better. It's going to take a little time, but don't settle for that. You and your daughter deserve better than that. That's not what a man would do. I'm here and on FB if you need to vent, talk, cry, need strength or just need me to cuss him out for you. Don't hesitate to contact me if you need. Hugs :) |
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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | I can't say anything better than what everyone else has said.... he showed his true colors and don't forget it. Lashing out in texts is immature and leaving you stranded somewhere is uncalled for. I think if was that jealous over an ex saying hello (which, IMO, would have been immature NOT to acknowledge each other if you had a past) I think he has something of his own to hide.
I would either get a new number or block his and don't let his nastiness get to you! Be strong and know that someone else better is out there!!
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | So sorry to hear this girl! Like what was said above, I real man would not have left you stranded like that.
Like I said on FB come out to Wyoming! |
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| LRQHS - 2014-11-20 2:43 PM I'm so sorry, Aushlin. While he seemed like a great guy from what I saw, he left you in town stranded and he is lashing out at you in texts. These are not the actions of someone that cares about you. Even if he intended to break up with you, a man, would not have left you stranded. Though it seems hopeless right now, it will get better. It's going to take a little time, but don't settle for that. You and your daughter deserve better than that. That's not what a man would do. I'm here and on FB if you need to vent, talk, cry, need strength or just need me to cuss him out for you. Don't hesitate to contact me if you need. Hugs :)
LRQHS beat me to it. It's going to hurt, some days more than others, but I promise it will get easier, and you and your daughter deserve better than how he has treated you. Give yourself some time to grieve, hold onto your daughter tight and move on, one step at a time. Stay strong and know that your friends on BHW will always be around to listen :) |
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 Hawty & Nawty
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| He sounds super guilty of something you have yet to discover. Be patient. You'll probably find out the real reason for this unexpected behavior soon. Meanwhile, hold your head up and block his number. Who needs that kind of aggrivation? (hugs) |
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Location: NE Texas | He is not a man, he is a child, and you are not a priorty, bottom line. He isn't worth your time and you don't want that kind of person as a role model for your daughter. I agree with whoever said they would be ticked off....a man doesn't put a woman in that position...EVER! You need to block his number and on facebook (if you do that sort of thing). He's not worthy of your time.....heck, i'd be encouraging everyone to take him off your hands! LOL I know you're hurting but in order to get over this you're going to have to make a conscious choice to see that he is not that kind of man you're looking for to share your life with and that with that type of temper and negligence toward you, he's definitely not someone you want around your child. Find a man who things the sun rises and sets on your behind....someone who would spend their last penny for your happiness....someone who you want to do the same for. THAT's the man who is worthy of you and your daughter's time.
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| Good riddance.
Leave you stranded in another town, heck ANYWHERE! Oh He LL no. I don't care how mad he is at you, that is dangerous and putting your safety in jeopardy.
Good riddance. |
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Location: N Texas | I agree with the others--no matter how pissed at you he was, there is no excuse to leave you stranded somewhere. As much as it sucks, it kind of looks like he was looking for a way out and blew this out of proportion on purpose.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, but I've found the best way to cope is to stay busy. Crying helps too, but the more you sit around and dwell on it, the more miserable you're going to make yourself. You're going to go through a huge range of emotions--anger, hurt, acceptance, and everything in between--more than once.
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| Wow. That is really sad and immature. I agree with the others, regardless of how mad he was...he should NEVER have left you 30 minutes from home without a ride. Thoughtless and self centered at best. A man that will do that is also someone that you cannot depend on in other situations and you are better off without him. As far as the nasty text messages yet still talking to other girls...he has a control issue and you would be best to block his number. Yes it will be hard for you, but when you look down the road 10 years later you will look back and think "Omg what was I thinking? My life would be horrible now if I had stayed there." (Trust me...I speak from personal experience.) |
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Location: Kentucky | RidenFly - 2014-11-20 3:54 PM He sounds super guilty of something you have yet to discover. Be patient. You'll probably find out the real reason for this unexpected behavior soon. Meanwhile, hold your head up and block his number. Who needs that kind of aggrivation? (hugs)
Yep - he is the guilty party and he is trying to cover his tracks by making you feel like crap. |
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Hawty & Nawty
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| Murphy - 2014-11-21 12:57 PM RidenFly - 2014-11-20 3:54 PM He sounds super guilty of something you have yet to discover. Be patient. You'll probably find out the real reason for this unexpected behavior soon. Meanwhile, hold your head up and block his number. Who needs that kind of aggrivation? (hugs) Yep - he is the guilty party and he is trying to cover his tracks by making you feel like crap.
It's an old trick. Accuse the innocent of something you're guilty of and make a big show of it.... |
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Undercover Amish Mafia Member
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Location: Kansas | What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it. |
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| Hmmm, lets recap:
1. He left you in a strange town after you and your ex had an responsible/respectful convo.
2. He's talking to other girls already.
3. He's sending nasty texts to rub it in.
Um, no. This guy is a jerk that you, nor your daughter need.
I'm sorry that you're hurting right now, but I'm going to bet that you'll feel better, and very soon. |
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Bulls Eye
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Location: Oklahoma | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:00 PM What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it.
Oh no.... this is 2014... you can da*n well say hello to whoever you want. If he were secure it wouldn't have been an issue.... you didn't do anything wrong.... he's a little p**is......... |
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Undercover Amish Mafia Member
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Location: Kansas | TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:02 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:00 PM What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it. Oh no.... this is 2014... you can da*n well say hello to whoever you want. If he were secure it wouldn't have been an issue.... you didn't do anything wrong.... he's a little p**is.........
He is talking to a girl he slept with......he talked to her our entire relationship but claimed it was about his "puppies" and that was it.....yet she was on his snapchat...and she would "cry" to him in text messages about her dog being sick this, or that. And I never said anything to him about it, nor did I accuse him of anything. |
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Location: Paradise , tx | You cope one day at a time. You only want someone who treats you like a princess. Even though it hurts right now , I am very sorry for your hurt. I think many of us have been there, just remember you are special, even if you don't think so right now, and if he cann't see that, his loss |
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