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Location: Texas | One of our sons has two sets of kids by two different wives. The older two are 8 and 14 and the younger ones are almost 2 and 4. Wife #2 arranged for all of them to have family pictures taken and I thought they came out pretty good. I think they gave them to her on a flashdrive so that she could print whatever she wanted. They took pics of the older kids together and individually. I asked my son if it would be ok if I made copies for their mother and other grandmother and he said sure. When Wife #2 found out, she texted me asking if I really made copies for Wife #1 and I said yes. She texted me back that she would appreciate it if I did not make copies of pics that she gave me to give away. I then told her that I asked Son and he said it was ok to which she replied that He did not have the copyright. From that point, I did not respond. These pictures did not have any type of watermark or photographer's identifier, so I did not see a problem.
Was I wrong to share the pictures with Wife #1?
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | RocketPilot - 2014-11-22 3:52 PM One of our sons has two sets of kids by two different wives. The older two are 8 and 14 and the younger ones are almost 2 and 4. Wife #2 arranged for all of them to have family pictures taken and I thought they came out pretty good. I think they gave them to her on a flashdrive so that she could print whatever she wanted. They took pics of the older kids together and individually. I asked my son if it would be ok if I made copies for their mother and other grandmother and he said sure. When Wife #2 found out, she texted me asking if I really made copies for Wife #1 and I said yes. She texted me back that she would appreciate it if I did not make copies of pics that she gave me to give away. I then told her that I asked Son and he said it was ok to which she replied that He did not have the copyright. From that point, I did not respond. These pictures did not have any type of watermark or photographer's identifier, so I did not see a problem.
Was I wrong to share the pictures with Wife #1?
I am assuming that the son paid for the pictures.....and wife #2 is trying to be a selfish b*tch......I wouldn't worry about it and would give wife #1 the pictures of HER children. |
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Location: Texas | I would tell her to get over it. It's called being a proud grandparent, no matter who the copies of the photos are given to.
Edited by Dudette 2014-11-22 4:18 PM
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | Son and Wife#2 both work, so I am assuming they both paid for the pictures. My husband I I put our money together. After 44 years, we don't have my money and your money. I sort of threw my son under the bus, I guess, by asking him but honestly I didn't think it would be a problem. Evidently he didn't either or he would have asked her. I only gave Wife#1 the pictures of her kids for her and her mother. I see them every week at a football or soccer games. We all sit together and are friendly. |
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 Playing the Waiting Game
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| You did the right thing and wife #2 will just have to deal with it. |
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| Wife #2 needs to mature and put differences aside. How immature and silly to not want to share pics of the kids regardless of whatever goes on between #1 and #2. |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | Thank you. I feel better. I think Wife #2 is just being petty. She has a college education but is very jealous of the older kids. Son does not favor them. I probably do, just because of the way she treats them. I think her texting me didn't set right with me but I also know she would not have had the nerve to say those things to my face. |
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Location: South of Canada and North of Mexico | When I had 9 month pictures done of my daughter, I picked what I wanted and she put them on a flashdrive for me to print off on my own, she also had 2 8x10's sent in to a professional digital picture place for prints. Im sure shes just using the "copyright" issue on you with no real problem. |
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Location: sunny california | both households should have pics of all 4! the older kids should have pics of their younger siblings. people are so screwed up. |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | watchpeppydoc - 2014-11-22 5:17 PM When I had 9 month pictures done of my daughter, I picked what I wanted and she put them on a flashdrive for me to print off on my own, she also had 2 8x10's sent in to a professional digital picture place for prints. Im sure shes just using the "copyright" issue on you with no real problem.
Yes, I thought the 'copyright' thing was just more of her crap. The older kids are reallly good with the little ones, but eventually her attitude is going to ruin their relationship. Dr. Phil says that you have to love the kids more than you hate the X. So true. |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | komet. - 2014-11-22 5:22 PM
I am afraid you are right. |
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Location: Missouri | I guess I'll be the odd one and say that I would also be annoyed, since the other mother did not pay towards the sitting fee or copyright. Also, the step-mom probably purchased the outfits, planned the sitting, and may have had special ideas for the shoot. Pictures are not cheap, a disc can be several hundreds of dollars. The disc belongs to the parents and they should be able to control who gets copies. JMO.
eta: I know longer buy pics for my in-laws. They are just too expensive. The last time I asked if they would like some, I spent nearly $500 on theirs alone. I now give them the web address to order their own. (of course, they get school & sports pics)
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Location: Missouri | Am I reading correctly? Did you photocopy the prints? If so, that is a big no-no. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | just4fun - 2014-11-22 6:16 PM
Am I reading correctly? Did you photocopy the prints? If so, that is a big no-no.
It was a gift... No strings mentioned.. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | Notice the first question was... did she give some to the OTHER one.. |
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| just4fun - 2014-11-22 5:52 PM I guess I'll be the odd one and say that I would also be annoyed, since the other mother did not pay towards the sitting fee or copyright. Also, the step-mom probably purchased the outfits, planned the sitting, and may have had special ideas for the shoot. Pictures are not cheap, a disc can be several hundreds of dollars. The disc belongs to the parents and they should be able to control who gets copies. JMO.
eta: I know longer buy pics for my in-laws. They are just too expensive. The last time I asked if they would like some, I spent nearly $500 on theirs alone. I now give them the web address to order their own. (of course, they get school & sports pics)
But their dad did pay for the pictures and if he OKs sharing with their mother case closed, petty to not want their mother and grandmother to not have copies. Find reasons to get along instead of not get along.
In laws asking for $500 in pictures is a little much! |
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Location: So. California | RocketPilot - 2014-11-22 1:52 PM One of our sons has two sets of kids by two different wives. The older two are 8 and 14 and the younger ones are almost 2 and 4. Wife #2 arranged for all of them to have family pictures taken and I thought they came out pretty good. I think they gave them to her on a flashdrive so that she could print whatever she wanted. They took pics of the older kids together and individually. I asked my son if it would be ok if I made copies for their mother and other grandmother and he said sure. When Wife #2 found out, she texted me asking if I really made copies for Wife #1 and I said yes. She texted me back that she would appreciate it if I did not make copies of pics that she gave me to give away. I then told her that I asked Son and he said it was ok to which she replied that He did not have the copyright. From that point, I did not respond. These pictures did not have any type of watermark or photographer's identifier, so I did not see a problem.
Was I wrong to share the pictures with Wife #1?
Personally, I don't see a problem with you sharing pictures of the two older children with their mother and other grandparents. What would be nice is if Wife #1 and the other grandparents would send your son and Wife #2 a thank you card for the wonderful pictures and how much they appreciate her/them taking the time to have their pictures taken. Make sure you give Wife #2 credit. That might help her get over being "upset" and realize that her efforts were noticed and appreciated by everyone. It's amazing what a simple thank you card can do.... 
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| just4fun - 2014-11-22 4:52 PM I guess I'll be the odd one and say that I would also be annoyed, since the other mother did not pay towards the sitting fee or copyright. Also, the step-mom probably purchased the outfits, planned the sitting, and may have had special ideas for the shoot. Pictures are not cheap, a disc can be several hundreds of dollars. The disc belongs to the parents and they should be able to control who gets copies. JMO.
eta: I know longer buy pics for my in-laws. They are just too expensive. The last time I asked if they would like some, I spent nearly $500 on theirs alone. I now give them the web address to order their own. (of course, they get school & sports pics)
I'll be one of the odd ones out with you... mom #1 could get her own taken anytime.  |
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Location: At the race track with Ah Dee Ohs | When you are mixing 2 families, you get along. Making copies with the consent of your son for the older kids mom and grandmother was the right thing to do. Who cares who paid for them. Son said yes and that's all that matters. You did a good thing. |
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