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  Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Swiss, provolone, mozzerella.....It doesn't matter.....cause I am going to put my first ever whiney post.
My hysterectomy was scheduled for January 28th. Hubby and I planned everything out to a "t" with our schedules. He traded a 24 hour duty with someone else and took the duty today from 7am until 9am tomorrow just so he could be off a few days following surgery.
Well....yesterday (sunday) the hospital called but didn't leave a voice mail. Odd. They have an automated system that leaves us messages of appointment reminders. Didn't think much of it since I was tracking my pre-op today. About 7am this morning they call again. Its my surgeon. He hadn't left a voicemail because I would not have been able to call him back. He asked permission to bump my surgery up to tomorrow. He is also active duty and is pulling 24 hour duty shift himself (only on call ER doc tuesday night). He said he would prefer to do my surgery on a normal day rather then at the end of a 24 hour shift. At the time we scheduled none of the duty rosters were out so he had no way of knowing....
Not a big deal, and trust me I appreciate his honesty and wanting to change plans.....
Now the whiney part....hubby doesn't get off until 9am and he has got to sleep. So I found a ride to the hospital at 6am and get to do the whole stinking thing by myself because his chain of command could care less (standard procedure is to accomodate for spouse medical reasons, meaning it is their job to get someone to cover down, but they didn't feel like it).
I'm not feeling sorry for myself, but I am NOT looking forward to doing everything by myself tomorrow.....so there's my whiney post. I can't whine to my husband. He's already more upset about it then I am. But I really wanted to whine to somebody......and I don't care who thinks less of me because I'm whining about something so petty..... |
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The Advice Guru
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I just read the headlines
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| Oh man, that stinks! If I lived close by I would stay with you. I have had many surgeries and it does make it easier if you have some one with you. Hugs and prayers for an uneventful surgery and quick recovery!  |
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Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | It just sucks because he's never NOT been there. I am perfectly capable of doing things alone and taking care of myself....but quite frankly.....sometimes I just don't want to. I blame my husband for that. Before he came along I always wanted to be alone. He has spoiled the hell out of me and now I always want him there. |
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 Angel in a Sorrel Coat
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Location: In a happy place | I am so sorry you will have to do this by yourself. But it is so good your husband has you spoiled. It was tough doing my bc chemo and radiation by myself but I got it done. You are even tougher than me so I know you will be okay. Just wish you didn't have to do it alone. That sucks. |
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 Banjo and Baby
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Location: South of Canada and North of Mexico | Awww so sorry for you girl!!!! It sucks, but you will be okay. *HUGS*
I had my mom with me so not as bad, since hubby could not make it to my Audrey's birth or when I had a miscarriage and had to go have an emergency d&c. Hope you can have someone there when you go in and wake up.
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Location: Cap'n Lindsey Rotmeat | Are you having the DeVinci procedure? |
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Location: in the middle of backwoods iowa | I just had mine in Oct. I understand wanting him there for procedure but you will appreciate him more at home the next day when you hurt! Don't over do it after either- It really does a number on your body. Prayers for a quick and easy surgery. |
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Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | elliej - 2015-01-26 10:20 PM Are you having the DeVinci procedure?
No. Laporascopic but not the da vinci |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | Ugh, I'm sorry. It sure does make the pre-op jitters easier to survive when you have someone with you to talk to. Maybe they can give you a little something to relax, so you won't care as much. |
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| Hugs |
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 Namesless in BHW
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Location: At the race track with Ah Dee Ohs | Whine all you want. That really sucks.  |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | Not petty at all! I'd be whiney too without my support system there!
I have gone it alone a lot of times in the past for medical stuff because the ex couldn't be bothered to be there for me. But I'm seeing now what it can be like to have someone that loves you and wants to be there for you all the time....I can tell you I'd miss it now.
Good luck!!! |
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 I Chore in Chucks
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Location: MD | I would be whiney! it's not petty at all. At least the Dr. was honest with you about moving your time around though! but it is frustrating when you plan your entire day/week around something and then last minute it gets messed up and you can't fix it!
I feel for you, I'd be one step ahead of you though and would probably have thrown some tears into the mix! I wouldn't manage without my SO most days. |
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Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | When the surgeon called and I realized it was him, I almost panicked. I thought he was calling to cancel . I've been off the Lupron since we scheduled the surgery and the pain the last week has been bad enough that I have barely slept. I'm fine during the day. It just hurts to lay flat. So I was scared that I would have to wait longer. So I was relieved to be a day early despite messing up plans versus any other alternatives. I'm here waiting. Hubby is safely home and hopefully sleeping by now. |
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 Bulls Eye
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Location: Oklahoma | All I can say is HUGS... Josh will be there soon. Whine away all you want. |
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 More bootie than waist!
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Location: Riding Crackhead. | nothome-gone racin - 2015-01-26 10:27 PM I just had mine in Oct. I understand wanting him there for procedure but you will appreciate him more at home the next day when you hurt! Don't over do it after either- It really does a number on your body. Prayers for a quick and easy surgery.
This....mine was also in October and I was lucky to have my hubby, daughter and mom there while I was in surgery. I had to stay in the hospital 4 days and by the time I got out everyone had to be back to work so I was on my own. I would have loved to have help while recuperating.
Hugs to you and a speedy recovery. |
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| for a safe surgery this morning. I know you've been through a TON the last couple of years ... You're gonna come out of this amazing and you'll have valuable time at home with your hubs. Keep us posted - and yes, it is perfectly fine to vent your frustrations! |
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I'm a Cry Baby
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Location: n.c. | Prayers and ((((hugs)))) for you. Just know we're here for you anytime.
Wish some were close enough to actually BE there, but know we are thinking
about you. And your husband would rather be with you than anywhere else.
Quick recovery prayers for you too. |
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 Love Me Some Robert Redford
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Location: WV | Sorry, this stinks. Hope all goes well!!!!!!!! |
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