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Location: PNW | I was just invited to a friend's baby shower.... for her FOURTH DAUGHTER. Seriously? What could she POSSIBLY NEED? Also, she is hosting it herself. She is throwing herself a party, for all of us to bring gifts - to replace things she already has. Greedy much?
Am I the only one that finds this annoying? Like... come on. They are more than capable of financially footing the bill for this child. I am all about helping people out who genuinely need it, but this just seems greedy to me.
Somebody please tell me if I just need to shut up and get off my Emily Post high horse. Or you can agree with me and we can drink wine and be cranky together. You choose!
PS: I had to post this on here because I obviously can't rant about it on FB. |
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Location: Vinton, La. | Ahhhh, buy her a sack of diapers, go to the shower, eat cake, drink punch, and enjoy yourself. Hey, free cake! |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | Bigtime mistake - 2015-02-25 12:15 AM
Ahhhh, buy her a sack of diapers, go to the shower, eat cake, drink punch, and enjoy yourself. Hey, free cake!
Free cake indeed. No wine though. |
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Location: Vinton, La. | Dang, sorry. I don't drink wine. You drink the wine and I'll have some cheese!! Lol |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | Mmmmm cheese. |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | I wouldn't go but then again I don't do baby showers or wedding showers. If I like the person I send a gift. |
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| I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude? |
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| Easy fix. Don't go. Although, free cake is always nice and everyone always needs diapers. |
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| Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
I've never understood celebrating in such a big way for the first birthday of a child since the child has absolutely no idea what is happening or why, but people have gone all out crazy over the first birthday. I'm not saying don't have some kind of gathering, but the first birthday has become as spectacle for the adults. LOL |
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| sodapop - 2015-02-25 7:20 AM
Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
I've never understood celebrating in such a big way for the first birthday of a child since the child has absolutely no idea what is happening or why, but people have gone all out crazy over the first birthday. I'm not saying don't have some kind of gathering, but the first birthday has become as spectacle for the adults. LOL
I have 4 kids and we just gave them a cupcake in took pictures, parties did not start till they were old enough to understand. Now my first grand baby will be here in a March and will be living next door, I can't promise I won't be turning into a crazy lunatic when it comes to doing things for him.
As far as throwing a shower yourself for your fourth child, kind of tacky. |
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Location: Texas | Some people just feel the need to make a production out of everything. |
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Location: God's country...aka TEXAS | I work with a girl who just had a shower for her fourth child also. She had no problem going and registering for all kinds of gifts etc. I don't understand it either because this was her third daughter and she had plenty of clothes etc. I don't mind buying diapers (which is what I did) but I don't think you should be registering and having a huge baby shower. |
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Location: Kansas | I never had a baby shower for my daughter....my coworkers threw one for me the day after I was born. And thank goodness for that because I had diapers for like a year hahaha.
I'm not big into baby showers, I don't like the games |
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Location: Never in one place long | I think if a parent wants to celebrate their new child with a shower that's great but the invite should specifically say NO GIFTS PLEASE. That way it is apparent that it's just a celebration and theyr'e not trying to get presents from it. I'd say that is ridiculous if she is registering and requesting gifts for a 4th child!! People these days! |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | I'm old school and apparently so are all my family and friends because I didn't get a baby shower for my 2nd even tho she was a girl and I needed clothes. My mom made up for it tho, because she was excited about her first granddaughter. LOL Plus, I made the poor child wear her brother's hand me downs at home until she was old enough to notice.
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| Wanted to add my friends gave me a baby shower for my 4th but only because the first 3 were girls and he was a boy- no baby shower for#2 and #3 girls. I did not register for gifts, I received little boy clothes that were much appreciated. |
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Location: Idahome | My girlfriend is throwing me a small shower for my 2nd, even though I don't really need one. My first was a girl and this one is a boy, so it will be nice to get a few boy things but if I truthfully would rather not have one at all. I don't need much and am getting a ton of boy clothes from another friend of mine. I told her that if she insisted, it needed to be super small and not much money spent. My family all lives about 6-8 hours away, so it will only be a few people anyways. I don't see the need to have a shower for each kid especially if they already have stuff for the same sex from previous. |
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| People these days... they really make you wonder. I recently saw a former co-worker whose marriage lasted less than a year, SELLING all her shower/wedding gifts on Facebook, so she could up and move to San Diego to be with her new boyfriend. How classy. |
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| DLV - 2015-02-25 9:09 AM
I think if a parent wants to celebrate their new child with a shower that's great but the invite should specifically say NO GIFTS PLEASE. That way it is apparent that it's just a celebration and theyr'e not trying to get presents from it. I'd say that is ridiculous if she is registering and requesting gifts for a 4th child!! People these days!
This is how we did it. For number 2, we had a "sprinkle", where you just bring small gifts that you need for each-diapers, wipes, maybe crib sheets & some new onesies. For the 3rd, my work threw me a surprise shower, so sweet, and at least it gave me some pictures & gifts for the baby book.
I think it would be sad to be a later child & look back and see no shower/party pictures in the baby book, almost like if you weren't first you didn't matter.
Edited to add: I didn't throw myself any of the showers- kind friends & family chose too, and I told them all no presents were necessary for all 3, I wanted people to come so I could see them & not feel obligated.
Edited by quikchik 2015-02-25 9:34 AM
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| In my area, we have showers for all children, #2, #3..., same gender, different gender, it doesn't matter. However, I can't imagine giving yourself a shower for #4. I would just buy diapers. |
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