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 Don't Wanna Make This Awkward
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Location: Texas | My bestfriend from high school is having a baby next month...
I have another friend whose 6 months pregnant, another friend is married and had a baby last fall.
I have 8 friends that are engaged to get married this year.. 2 of those are ex boyfriends..
My current bestfriend decided she was a lesbian 2 weeks ago and now has a girlfriend that she already has life plans with and everytime I try and talk to her about something serious she tries to convince me that i'm a lesbian and tells me she thinks almost all girls are gay. I'm 100% sure i'm not and have nothing against it but hearing that stuff is getting old really fast.
I'm 19... I'm single.. and honestly I'm not worried about getting married and having kids anytime soon. Everyone I've mentioned is between 18-22 everyones around my age.
I halfway feel like i'm already going through my mid life crisis and the other half of me thinks everyone else is just crazy. It's just like I woke up one morning and nothing seemed the same anymore, it's weird.
Ok vent over. I just feel old and I'm not even 20 yet  |
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Cold hands and Warm Heart
 
Location: oklahoma | I vaguely remember being 20, I'm 50 now. You're just getting started in life. It goes by so fast, enjoy each day. Sounds cliché but it's true....zipping by. Don't be in a hurry and certainly don't let anyone pressure you. Sometimes when we're young, we want to hurry up and get to something better and bigger but we cheat ourselves out of today. Anyways, guess I have a reason for typing so much. I have children your age and I tell them the same thing. Enjoy today. |
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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | I was MOH for my best friend from HS at 20. Two and a half years later when I got married I didn't even ask her to be in my wedding. Add another three years in and I didn't even make it to her baby shower for her second born. Point of my story is people change and drift apart. It's perfectly normal... And I'm going to say healthy! You don't have to give into peer pressure, but it gets old hearing about it! I'm 25 and still have no desire for a child just yet. I hear from people on a weekly basis that I "better get to working on it." Just stick with the friends who understand that you're more than happy with where you are in life and enjoy it!! Everybody has different ideas of what makes them happy and some people just think that they've got if figured out for everyone!
I remember my first year out of HS (I've been out for seven years now).. I was making new friends in college and still trying to maintain relationships with HS friends... It was exhausting! Maybe I'm a bad friend, but I can honestly say that my husband is the only person from HS that I keep in contact with and I'm just as happy as I can be. |
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 Money Eating Baggage Owner
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Location: Phoenix | I wasn't even in the bridal party for 2 of my friends' weddings. I know I live far away but they should know I would have come. I sometimes get irritated thinking about it but HELL--can't change anything NOW!! |
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Location: Where the pavement ends and the West begins Utah | Listen you don't have to get married or have a baby cause everyone else is. You don't have to keep up with the "Jones". You keep on doing what ever makes you happy. They are moving on and that is ok! Don't feel lonely several individuals will be entering your life....chose wisely. You always have family when you get lonely seek them out and live each day to the fullest. |
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| I'm 23 going on 24 and I feel the same way occasionally, but used to feel it A LOT. I don't plan on ever having children and am perfectly comfortable with waiting for the right man to come along. I also don't drink (talk about social isolation!). What got me through the really rough patch were some pretty simple realizations. The only time I ever felt bad about my life's choices was when I let other people's judgment and perceptions get to me. In addition, when I stopped comparing myself to other people and kept my eyes on my own paper, I was able to better focus on how to improve my own life. |
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 Owner of a ratting catting machine
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| Honestly, you have NO IDEA how cool a fat wallet, a skinny waist, a big career, and a little sportscar are at 31 years old. None of the above are a high priority with kids.
19 is a pretty beautiful thing. So are your 20s. Can't imagine muddying them up with kids and husbands. |
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| classicpotatochip - 2015-03-22 3:02 PM Honestly, you have NO IDEA how cool a fat wallet, a skinny waist, a big career, and a little sportscar are at 31 years old. None of the above are a high priority with kids. 19 is a pretty beautiful thing. So are your 20s. Can't imagine muddying them up with kids and husbands.
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Red Bull Agressive
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Location: North Dakota | outrundaizy - 2015-03-22 1:29 PM My bestfriend from high school is having a baby next month...
I have another friend whose 6 months pregnant, another friend is married and had a baby last fall.
I have 8 friends that are engaged to get married this year.. 2 of those are ex boyfriends..
My current bestfriend decided she was a lesbian 2 weeks ago and now has a girlfriend that she already has life plans with and everytime I try and talk to her about something serious she tries to convince me that i'm a lesbian and tells me she thinks almost all girls are gay. I'm 100% sure i'm not and have nothing against it but hearing that stuff is getting old really fast.
I'm 19... I'm single.. and honestly I'm not worried about getting married and having kids anytime soon. Everyone I've mentioned is between 18-22 everyones around my age.
I halfway feel like i'm already going through my mid life crisis and the other half of me thinks everyone else is just crazy. It's just like I woke up one morning and nothing seemed the same anymore, it's weird.
Ok vent over. I just feel old and I'm not even 20 yet
That would drive me nuts. But yeah I totally relate. I'm 21 and since I graduated in 2012 I don't know how many friends and classmates have had kids and/or gotten married. Of course I moved a thousand miles away one week after graduating so I don't see any of them but on facebook I see pictures n stuff. Crazy! I've never even had a boyfriend cause I'm too busy with work, school, and horses. |
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Location: NC | I was just thinking the same thing. I just saw someone younger then me announced her pregnancy on FB. Most of the people my age (mid 20s) have kids, are either engaged or married and im sitting here thinking geez whats wrong with me? Im single and my "kids" are my horses and dogs. I refuse to settle which doesnt help much and I live somewhere where when a guy says they want country they want short shorts/skirt, tight tanks and cowboy boots. Not a person who is covered in horse hair and mud lol |
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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | classicpotatochip - 2015-03-22 3:02 PM Honestly, you have NO IDEA how cool a fat wallet, a skinny waist, a big career, and a little sportscar are at 31 years old. None of the above are a high priority with kids. 19 is a pretty beautiful thing. So are your 20s. Can't imagine muddying them up with kids and husbands.
Even though I'm happily married and in my mid twenties, I still have to like this statement. I literally LOL'ed. |
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Owner of a ratting catting machine
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| Longneck - 2015-03-22 4:35 PM
classicpotatochip - 2015-03-22 3:02 PM Honestly, you have NO IDEA how cool a fat wallet, a skinny waist, a big career, and a little sportscar are at 31 years old. None of the above are a high priority with kids. 19 is a pretty beautiful thing. So are your 20s. Can't imagine muddying them up with kids and husbands.
Even though I'm happily married and in my mid twenties, I still have to like this statement. I literally LOL'ed.
I got married when I was 29 to a guy I really think is great. No plans or want to have kids. I really enjoyed my 20s figuring myself out and building my career to what it is today. There's a great big world out there that isn't too accessible when you're starting a family early on. |
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Today is my birthday. I am now 59 years old. I had no intention of marrying when I was young - none. And I never wanted children of my own. Never. I dated quite a bit while in college - nothing really serious although a few of the guys tried to make it serious. Then, at age 21 I met a man eight years older and we became friends and hung out together. One day it hit me. I loved him. Scared the cr*p out of me. I tried to ignore him. Nope. He refused to be ignored but put no pressure on me. Then - I PROPOSED TO HIM. He accepted. In less than a year after meeting we were married. He had been married previously and had two young sons, ages 5 and 7. I became a holiday and summer mom. Then a full-time mom when they decided to live with us. It was a challenge, but I loved him and those little wild and crazy guys found a way into my heart. So...here I am many years later -- still married to the love of my life with two wonderful grown and successful "sons" whom I love with all my heart. Wow. I did set my horses aside while the boys were young (MY choice), but once they were grown returned to my horses -- and I worked on my career while the boys where growing up. I have no regrets about anything - none of my decisions. So - go out and live your life - do not let anymore convince you otherwise. You may bump into the love or your life at some point - if so, wonderful, if not, that's okay, too. (Oh - and I had a former college room mate also decide she was a lesbian. It happens.) Go forth - BE YOURSELF. Life is a great adventure. Live it. No one knows YOU like YOU do. |
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| I think you need to stop worrying about what others do and just find a path for you. |
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I just read the headlines
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| kmcsunshine - 2015-03-22 5:31 PM
I think you need to stop worrying about what others do and just find a path for you.
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Don't Wanna Make This Awkward
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Location: Texas | Thank you guys!
I'm not really upset about anything, it's just crazy! This time last year I was in high school, still having to ask to go to the bathroom and having a premade schedule by people who can't even correctly pronounce or spell your name lol
Obviously I know these changes happen, but it's just crazy to think about to me. I guess I'll get use to it  |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | I have the opposite problem. I am married, have two sweet little boys, am a business owner - and the people I went to high school with struggle to function like adults... Almost ten years later. |
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Owner of a ratting catting machine
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| svincent - 2015-03-22 6:59 PM
I have the opposite problem. I am married, have two sweet little boys, am a business owner - and the people I went to high school with struggle to function like adults... Almost ten years later.
Ha ha ha! Meeeee tooooo!! Those people are a fun watch on Facebook! |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | classicpotatochip - 2015-03-22 7:07 PM
svincent - 2015-03-22 6:59 PM
I have the opposite problem. I am married, have two sweet little boys, am a business owner - and the people I went to high school with struggle to function like adults... Almost ten years later.
Ha ha ha! Meeeee tooooo!! Those people are a fun watch on Facebook!
Lol for that reason, I'm FB friends with very few people from high school. We still live in the same area and I do a pretty good job avoiding them all in my everyday life. Lol |
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 The BHW Book Worm
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| What your describing is just what happens after high school |
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