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Location: KS | What is the point of this?
And Im talking unmarried maybe out of high school, not out of college girls.
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Location: PNW | I'm guessing it is to manipulate young men. | |
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Location: North Dakota | I can not fathom why anyone would be stupid enough to PURPOSELY have children while young and unmarried. Unless they are doing it just to get welfare. Which is sick. Becoming pregnant while not married makes you something like 75% more likely to live in poverty (I don't remembe the exact stat but it's basically an economic death sentence for your life). I understand mistakes happen but teens should really be taught to keep it in their pants until they're married or at the very least a somewhat mature, responsible adult. I work in the medical field and see SO MANY young, single girls with young kids running around the waiting room, all on medicaid. Working some piddly low wage job or not working at all. This is a big part of what's wrong with our society. They are a burden on the rest of us. | |
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| I believe a lot of them, who do it on purpose (not those who are on birth control, and it really is an oops), have no idea what they are going to do with their life. They may have no role model-their mom may have been pregnant early and the girls have no idea how to go about getting into college, paying bills (outside of government assistance) etc. So they figure "why not, that's what my mom did and she's good". There has to be a way to mentor these girls so they know they can get out and be successful--there's nothing wrong with being a mom but there's so much more they CAN do if they really want to. | |
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| Attention and immaturity. They think it's gonna be cute outfits and baby showers and name picking and butterflies! I'm not sure but I'm guessing they're too immature to think of the REAL consequences. | |
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Location: Four Corners Colorado | Well let me tell you a little story. I grew up in a small poor little town. My Mom got hurt badly at work and had to go on assistance so we wouldn't be homeless. When I turned 18 I couldn't stay with my mom anymore but I was caring for her and helping her with things she couldn't do. So we went down to social services and talked to my mom's case worker about what we could do, I was working but not making enough to pay all our bills. That Lady looked straight at me and asked, "Are your pregnant" Shocked I said No!, I was a size 1 Lol. She asked me again and then add that if I were pregnant she could just sign me up for benefits, add me to my moms rental agreement and even get me signed up to go our community college. I told her again there was no way I was pregnant and she said well then you'll have to move out, but come in if anything changes. We walked out of that office stunned at what had just happened and what we were told. She basically told me, get knocked up and we will give you all these free stuff. My sister did go down that road, She got free housing, reduced utilities, $600 in food stamps, medical, and went to school to be a nurse pretty much for free all because she had two kids out of wedlock. It is disgusting to me.
Edited by equussynergy 2015-09-10 2:08 PM
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Location: Phoenix | They weren't raised around horses and don't understand the consequences!!! I'm mid-twenties and still terrified of becoming pregnant!!!! | |
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Location: Kentucky | Maybe because they are mean, so having a baby will calm them down.
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | equussynergy - 2015-09-10 2:05 PM Well let me tell you a little story. I grew up in a small poor little town. My Mom got hurt badly at work and had to go on assistance so we wouldn't be homeless. When I turned 18 I couldn't stay with my mom anymore but I was caring for her and helping her with things she couldn't do. So we went down to social services and talked to my mom's case worker about what we could do, I was working but not making enough to pay all our bills. That Lady looked straight at me and asked, "Are your pregnant" Shocked I said No!, I was a size 1 Lol. She asked me again and then add that if I were pregnant she could just sign me up for benefits, add me to my moms rental agreement and even get me signed up to go our community college. I told her again there was no way I was pregnant and she said well then you'll have to move out, but come in if anything changes. We walked out of that office stunned at what had just happened and what we were told. She basically told me, get knocked up and we will give you all these free stuff. My sister did go down that road, She got free housing, reduced utilities, $600 in food stamps, medical, and went to school to be a nurse pretty much for free all because she had two kids out of wedlock. It is disgusting to me.
This is how it is in the ghettos. It is their lifestyle and has been for generations. Another great liberal policy that came back to bite us all. | |
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| I'm 32, unwed (been with my bf 4+ years) and 8 weeks pregnant with my first and terrified! Couldn't imagine why anyone would get pregnant on purpose at a young age!
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Location: Buffalo, TX | Nevertooold - 2015-09-10 2:15 PM equussynergy - 2015-09-10 2:05 PM Well let me tell you a little story. I grew up in a small poor little town. My Mom got hurt badly at work and had to go on assistance so we wouldn't be homeless. When I turned 18 I couldn't stay with my mom anymore but I was caring for her and helping her with things she couldn't do. So we went down to social services and talked to my mom's case worker about what we could do, I was working but not making enough to pay all our bills. That Lady looked straight at me and asked, "Are your pregnant" Shocked I said No!, I was a size 1 Lol. She asked me again and then add that if I were pregnant she could just sign me up for benefits, add me to my moms rental agreement and even get me signed up to go our community college. I told her again there was no way I was pregnant and she said well then you'll have to move out, but come in if anything changes. We walked out of that office stunned at what had just happened and what we were told. She basically told me, get knocked up and we will give you all these free stuff. My sister did go down that road, She got free housing, reduced utilities, $600 in food stamps, medical, and went to school to be a nurse pretty much for free all because she had two kids out of wedlock. It is disgusting to me. This is how it is in the ghettos. It is their lifestyle and has been for generations. Another great liberal policy that came back to bite us all.
I agree....This is the main reason, plus a lot of these girls have no good father role model (or mother)....so they seek male attention, or any attention, in the only way they know how...
So who is using all of this "free" birth control?...I guarantee the ones who need it aren't, they just get knocked up and get freebies, or go get an abortion...I would rather pay them a monthly amount of money that they couldn't turn down NOT to get pregnant....at least it would help stop the generational abuse of freebies....oh well....jmo
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| To go on MTV's 16 and Pregnant or get on Teen Mom? | |
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| I sat in the stands in Refugio when my son's freshman basketball team played them. I was shocked at how many of the varsity players at Refugio had MULTPLE baby mommas! Those girls AND the girls' mommas were SO proud their kid/grandkid was fathered by these young deadbeats. These kids were the celebrities of their school. The girls had stature because an athlete had gotten them pregnant. | |
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Location: SE Louisiana | equussynergy - 2015-09-10 2:05 PM
Well let me tell you a little story. I grew up in a small poor little town. My Mom got hurt badly at work and had to go on assistance so we wouldn't be homeless. When I turned 18 I couldn't stay with my mom anymore but I was caring for her and helping her with things she couldn't do. So we went down to social services and talked to my mom's case worker about what we could do, I was working but not making enough to pay all our bills. That Lady looked straight at me and asked, "Are your pregnant" Shocked I said No!, I was a size 1 Lol. She asked me again and then add that if I were pregnant she could just sign me up for benefits, add me to my moms rental agreement and even get me signed up to go our community college. I told her again there was no way I was pregnant and she said well then you'll have to move out, but come in if anything changes. We walked out of that office stunned at what had just happened and what we were told. She basically told me, get knocked up and we will give you all these free stuff. My sister did go down that road, She got free housing, reduced utilities, $600 in food stamps, medical, and went to school to be a nurse pretty much for free all because she had two kids out of wedlock. It is disgusting to me.
All that and they can drag it in front of a judge and get court ordered child support. Ideally they can produce children by more than one father and Really get the money pouring in. | |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | GLP - 2015-09-10 3:25 PM I sat in the stands in Refugio when my son's freshman basketball team played them. I was shocked at how many of the varsity players at Refugio had MULTPLE baby mommas! Those girls AND the girls' mommas were SO proud their kid/grandkid was fathered by these young deadbeats. These kids were the celebrities of their school. The girls had stature because an athlete had gotten them pregnant.
Sick and Texas's opposed love affair with football is sick also. The two players that ran off that ref is beyond disgusting and they both should get time for it and not just time out of football. It was an aggravated assault.
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Location: KS | My husbands first girlfriend did this, they dated for maybe 6 months, she made friends with one of my husbands best friends(cousin) girlfriends who was a senior in high school, this girl was first year in college. They schemed up this plan to get pregnant at the same time, 9 months later they have their kids less then 10 days apart from one another. My husband had left this girl soon after he was informed what they did, his cousin married his girlfriend before she had the baby. The girl that got her wedding informed all of the family what this other girl had done (even though she did the same thing), and told them they got on the internet to find out what month they needed to get pregnant to have the babies a certain time of year ( Im not sure why they needed the internet to tell them how far away nine months is and one of them was a nursing student at the time), then that they were taking prenatals, and they were both said they were on birth control and lied about it. This was crazy to me, and the thing is both of these girls I think come from pretty good families.
And your all probably wondering how I ended up with the man who left his girlfriend. (Or not) I grew up in the same area, we were all friends growing up, never had any intentions of being in a relationship with him, I went to college and somehow he found a way to make me fall for him. We've been together for almost 8 years now, married for 4.5 years. And I have a wonderful step daughter. The thing is she's now old enough to start asking questions. She has always known me as the woman with her dad, she was 2 months old when I finally agreed to date my now husband. Her mom married when she was about 4. The relationship between her and us is barely speaking. I actually do not speak to her, we had tried to be friends in the beginning, but she was always making stuff up about me and my family (who she still does not know), telling people that her and my husband were thinking of getting back together, etc. I finally cut all ties, and haven't spoken to her in probably 3 years. My husband talks to her only if his daughter needs picked up or dropped off somewhere different than what the parenting plan states, but the rest is all in paper, we didn't actually have a parenting plan until my step daughter was 5, her mom had this thing about picking fights every few months or so (my husband is not a fighter, but shed always try really hard to bring me into it), well we both had had enough and finally decided to take her to court (they settled outside), but she now hates us even more because we get a lot more time with his daughter. We have always been really careful about things that are said, but I've always made my step daughter feel comfortable about talking about her mom, etc. I don't want her to know how much we really don't like one another, and so far I think we've done pretty good. And its not that I just completely hate her mom, because its not like that, its just we found everyones lives are better if the relationship is a minimal one, and I think its a mutual feeling. She is the facebooker type, I have never had facebook nor has my husband, but she would try to find things about us on it, she actually had the nerve to ask my husband about 2 wks after we were married if I was pregnant. I found out later she was snooping on my moms facebook and someone had said congratulations grandma (my brother was expecting), I then had my mom set her personal setting to friends only, not that that can keep her from snooping. I had to confront her via text about it, and I ask her very nicely to not bring her business in to ours, if it was something to do with her daughter it was fine to talk to my husband, but I wasn't ok with her asking us about our lives, etc. and I also explained to her that if we had news that we were expecting it would be something we as in me and my husband would want to tell his daughter. The next weekend when my step daughter came, she told me her mom told her I had a baby in my tummy.
So now that I've dragged that out, I have actually never come out and told somewhat strangers that story, something I have always kept with family and close friends, not something we try to dwell on and now why after so many years Im thinking about the decision this girl made. I guess I watch my step daughter grow up, and shes such a beautiful, smart girl, I hope that some how some way we can keep her from making the same choice her mom made. I wouldn't trade her for anything, but to me that is one of the most selfish things a woman can do. The thing is she doesn't realize how lucky her daughter is to have so many people that love her, because I know some people are in different situations and they don't have the best of both worlds, I can say I think my step daughter does. It's still hard to watch her have to share holidays (she's always missing out, we don't tell her that) and its hard to watch her get passed around. We've tried to make the best of it, but I think it hurts the children more than anything. All because some girl wanted to get pregnant to keep a man around, and do it with her best friend.....
Since then I have met about 3-4 other girls who have done the same thing, gotten pregnant on purpose. One of those is just like what someone mentioned above, for welfare, she came from a family of 10 kids, pretty much all different dads. She got pregnant and had been on welfare until about a 2 years ago, she's finally realizing what a good job and a support system does for her. I just couldn't imagine making that kind of decision, I had a goal, I wanted to go to college and get a job and support myself before anyone else was going to support me. And that's what I did. And I thank God everyday for the life he has given me, we have had our shares of ups and downs, and have been through more than most in our first 5 years of marriage, but he has a plan for us. This is just a little part of it.
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Location: Deep South | I have dealt with more than one young female that got pregnant on purpose to trap a man. They all think that a baby will make him stay, will make want to be with his "family," will make him love her more, that their relationship problems will suddenly "disappear" just because they have a baby together.
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| Girls thinking that a male will be there to harvest the crop that he sowed is crazy. | |
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Location: Kansas | Why does it matter? I was 20 when I was pregnant with my daughter......and no it wasn't on purpose. I don't think you need to generalize all those who are young getting pregnant on purpose to all young women. Crap happens | |
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