wyoming barrel racer - 2015-11-19 8:34 PM Married at 19 and my first son was born when I was 27. 2nd son came when I was 31. I wanted to be done having kids by 30. That didn't happen, but pretty close. I am a big planner and planned each of them to be May babies. I even got lucky and got both the boys I wanted. I do think the older you get the harder it is. Maybe I just have too busy a life. I'm always outside during the summer riding or doing ranch things and working on something in the house in the winter when we are done feeding cows. By 8 pm I am EXHAUSTED. I used to be a night person too. Still think I am but the body just quits by 9. I was raised by a dad with no patience and I apparently inherited that trait. I was also blessed with a super hard headed "Strong willed Child" as the books like to call him. He is the oldest and probably most of the reason I am so tired. I'm 35 now and so glad I had these 2. In High School I could really care less about kids. I do wish my husband and I had done more fun things before we had kids. We just worked instead. So when the kids came, we were pretty finacially set. Have our own business etc. That does take some stress off. If you really want kids though, don't wait until the time is just right, because it never will be. There will always be an excuse to hold off. I was not a baby person and still am not. But something about holding your own and getting to snuggle when they sneak in at 3 am. It's just something really special.

Peewee212 - 2015-11-20 11:32 AM

Thanks for all those giving advice. I realize Im not alone. :)
I have always wanted kids, and I know I want more than just one....two, three, four. I don't really want to plan, if it happens it happens, but if we're no longer doing anything to prevent it I want to be mentally prepared. If it takes months that's ok, I just want to be prepared it may only take one month.

My biggest fear is I feel like Im going to have to give up so much of me when it happens, Im not sure, this sounds selfish, but I work full time, my husband farms/ranches and when Im not at work Im usually messing with horses, checking cows, etc. When we work cows Im always there, nothing keeps me from not being there, and I don't have to worry about keeping and eye on the kids or having someone else watch them. Im not against the help, but I live a mile away from my inlaws and have a very poor/difficult relationship with my MIL, and its not on my end, I have tried everything and all the woman does is degrade me, disrespect me, and after talking about it to enough people (Im a part of a young women of faith group in our small town) I think its a jealousy thing, which I never thought this until it was suggested to me. You wouldn't believe the things that have been said to me. I have always been strong willed, and not afraid to stick up for myself, my family when someone else wants to disrespect me/us and I think this has put even more of a strain on our relationship (Im not afraid to call her out when shes wrong). I have a sister inlaw that has a 2 year old, our MIL has done the same thing to her but she lets it go, lets her take her son and go do things (she doesn't come around all that often) but I think Im going to have a really hard time with letting people who have treated me so poorly be a huge part of my childrens lives, yes I want them to know their grandparents, I don't want to keep that from them, but my father in law refused to come to our wedding because it was not in his preferred church. I have worked hard the last 5 years to forgive, I have a somewhat good relationship with him, but its not good enough that I want my kids to sleepover or spend all day with them. I have watched my MIL disrespect the mothers of all her grandchildren in front of them. My parents on the otherhand our amazing, complete opposite, respectful, positive people, who have treated my husband like a son and do the same with all my sister inlaws. I live 5 miles away from my parents. And would never have a problem with them spending so much time with my children.
My husband and I are in good place as far as our relationship, we are financially ok, and he's more than aware of my relationship with his parents, he knows they are wrong. But they our his parents, and he has no control over what they think or say, he just has to know he has to stick up for me and our kids.
The age I am now, and the things that we've been handed I feel Im strong enough to handle it, like I said just want to be all in and I really would like to fit in my favorite jeans again. :)

Again thanks for the input, didn't mean for this post to get so long.