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Location: Arkansas | I feel selfish cause it seems like I'm always asking y'all to pray for things happening in my life. . . .So I didn't come on here this week asking for prayers when maybe I should have. But I have a miracle to give God credit for and I wanted to shout it out loud. And that's when I knew to come here and give Him the glory.
My ex husband is an alcoholic. A very bad one. He ended up in the hospital this week with NO liver function whatsoever---the doctor said his liver was completely shriveled up. (He's drank HARD for many years.) There is no way to convey to y'all how bad he looked; simply put he looked like a dead man. He was so yellow he glowed. Even his eyes were yellow. His bilirubin was unreal and they drained 20 pounds of ammonia off him Wednesday after they had the family talk to Chris about a DNR---which he did sign. Chandler is our only son, and he has been there everyday with Chris helping do things no 17 year old boy should have to do for his father. And seeing him in a shape no one should see another human in. Yesterday Chris was wild eyed and I promise I thought no one was home anymore. He wasn't as swollen or yellow but he looked even worse. I almost started to tell Chandler to get prepared for the worst.
This morning the doctor came in and said he was taking IV out and when Chris can walk unaided he can leave the hospital. Doctor had told the family the second morning it would take a miracle---and that's what he proclaimed it this morning  He told them he's never seen such high liver levels and the person live. And that he really hadn't expected him to make it through.
Prayers work and God is good. Chris has a long way to go but He gave him another chance and I feel like surely there's a reason for that. My son still has his father and I am so so thankful for that. Sorry for the book but my heart is so full right now and I knew some of my buddies on here would understand that. . .
Edited by Chandler's Mom 2016-03-07 10:33 PM
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Go Get Em!
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Location: OH. IO | Love it!!!! I lost my brother at 41 years old to alcoholism. I pray Chandlers father will realize how lucky he is.  |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | Again, I knew you'd get it!!!! Chris is 44. I have always told Chandler don't start drinking or smoking and then you don't ever have to try to stop. Same with pills or street drugs. Today's world scares me to death
Did your brother have a family, kids? I don't get how Chris doesn't see what he's doing to his son, and that he has something to live for. . . But I realize that he and I don't look at the world thru the same eyes either.
Thanks for your never-ending support Jake! |
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Location: OH. IO | my brother had three children.He was a horrible father as hard as that is to say,its the truth. I got custody of his youngest and raised him as my own.It was difficult for my whole family.He could never give up alcohol over his own family.Our story has so many twists and turns and some absolutly horrific events,I will never forget it.Always here for you my friend. |
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My Heart Be Happy
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That is so sad, but thank God the kids had someone to turn to. My daddy is more of a daddy to Chandler than Chris, which is why I say Chris is a father. To me there is a big difference between a daddy and a father. Maybe if he can get sober things will change. . .
So much of your situation sounds familiar.
Edited by Chandler's Mom 2016-03-05 7:06 PM
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Location: At the race track with Ah Dee Ohs | We are always here. Praise God he is going to be OK. Maybe this will be a wake up call for him. Prayers he continues to improve ànd hugs to you and Chandler. |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | My barrel horse buddies----y'all make me feel warm and fuzzy. . . . And not alone |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Prayers that he stays on the right track, hes got to want this as much as anyone else to stay healthy, God cant do it all. I grew up with alcoholism on both sides of my family and its not pretty, my grandfathers on both sides died of alcoholism and my dads older and younger bother died this way, they stop for a few weeks and then start up all over again. The younger bother had kids but his wife left him with the kids at a really young age and he never ever saw them again, they went into hiding he was a mean drunk. When he died they didnt even come to him funeral was so sad. They didnt know their dad at all. Drinking won out over everything he had in life. |
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Location: Dubach, LA | So happy that he has a chance to change. I'm watching my son do this to himself. Absolutely nothing or no one can help. Praying for you and yours right now. |
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Location: OH. IO | CanCan - 2016-03-06 10:33 AM So happy that he has a chance to change. I'm watching my son do this to himself. Absolutely nothing or no one can help. Praying for you and yours right now.
Im sorry you have to go through this.It is absolutly heartbreaking to watch.Prayers to you and many hugs too |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Prayers for Chandler to stay strong threw all this |
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Location: Montana | I do believe in miracles, and your family is one. I'm glad for you and your son, and prayers for continued healing. |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | I truly pray he may see this as a second chance too. |
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Location: So. California | I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. May I suggest you have your son talk to someone about his feelings. A pastor, councelor or take him to an Alateen meeting. Alcoholism is a family disease, it adversely effects all members of the family unit. Talking to someone who can help your son deal with his feelings, and understand that no human power can stop his father from drinking, only he can with God's help. I pray that you both find the peace you seek.
Adding your family in my prayers. |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | Chris has taken a turn for the worse. The doctor said they are going to move him to the nursing home tomorrow because they've done all they can. . . . Chandler is having a hard time so I beg of y'all to pray for my baby----he needs uplifting by God's mighty grace. As I stood by Chris' bed today watching him sleep I thought about the last time the three of us were in a hospital together, and it was when Chandler was born 18 years ago on March 13. To think he's 44 and dying is breaking my heart, not only for him but for Chandler. |
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Location: west of East Texas | So sorry for your family. Many prayers for you all. |
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Go Get Em!
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Location: OH. IO | Oh im so sorry for all of you.my prayers for all three of you.Poor Chandler.please let him know he is in my thoughts and prayers. |
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