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Itchy Boobs
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| Are any of you stay at home wife's? My husband and I don't have kids yet but I quit my old job a few months ago and have been looking for a new position however my husband wants me to stay home and continue to cook and clean and do laundry and barrel race and take care of all the animals. Do any of you have experience doing this? |
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 You get what you give
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Location: Texas | no, but it sounds wonderful. I'm tired :/ |
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| I quit teaching after 13 years but we have two children. I run around all over with them. Many times by myself. When I'm not doing that I'm helping my husband with the cattle and crops. There isn't much cooking and cleaning going on here, LOL |
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| Yes, it is fabulous especially considering that most working mothers/wives still do most of the cooking, cleaning and animal care. I get to do it without the demands of a job added to it. |
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I just read the headlines
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| Yes, but I did it with kids. Once the kids were out of elementary school, I got a part time job. I like the part time work because that frees me up to take care of the animals/people in my life - vet/Doctor, buy and unload feed/hay, go with my elderly parents to the panhandle when they need to (that is where their brothers and sisters all live), etc. |
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | Not to steal the post, BUTTTT- do those of you that stay at home have any kind of side gig to make money, or did responsibility fall solely on hubbys income? I am expecting my first pretty much any day now and really don't want to go back to work. My biggest issue right now is losing my insurance because I work for the state. I don't know that losing my income would be a hard hit as I incur quite a few expenses because of my job. (I drive 120 miles a day round trip) I was just wondering if any of you stay at home moms had a side gig that might could give me some ideas to pay for private insurance. |
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Shelter Dog Lover
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| When the kids were little I worked weekends and a few evenings a week when hubby could keep them. We had 4 in 4 years so, I would not have cleared much if we had to pay a sitter. I leased apartments. When my husbands income increased I quit the part time work. |
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | rodeomom3 - 2016-11-27 5:00 PM
When the kids were little I worked weekends and a few evenings a week when hubby could keep them. We had 4 in 4 years so, I would not have cleared much if we had to pay a sitter. I leased apartments. When my husbands income increased I quit the part time work.
I have highly considered going part time. |
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 Shoot Yeah
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | I did it for several years. I quit my job when we got married and didn't go back to work until our youngest entered kindergarten. Then I worked at his school, only part-time, so I could drop him off and pick him up, but I still did all the grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking, house maintenance, feeding, etc. As he got older I was able to work full-time in the school. 16 years later we divorced and I had lost all my earning potential by walking away from a job that paid better than what I make now, 16 years later, and I got to hear from all my "friends" how they didn't believe in spousal support because I CHOSE to stay home to raise our kids. I would do it all over in a heartbeat because our kids were the most important thing and I feel good knowing that I raised them. However, you really need to make sure you are covered financially. I know that sounds SO ominous, but here I am at 46 years old and making barely over 1000 per month working a really great job for the school district, but I don't have any type of college degree, so I can't make more within the school district and I'm limited on what jobs I can get outside of the schools because I have no degree. |
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  Northern Chocolate Queen
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Location: ND | I'm a stay at home wife......I don't have a "real" job but help with the cattle & farm work, I run the rake during hay season, I have a barn full of really nice young horses that we've raised & are currently bringing along as ranch and mounted shooting horses, plus I do my artwork on the side....I honestly put in more hours & work a lot harder now than I ever did when I had a job in town, difference is that I love what I do now. |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | SaraJean - 2016-11-27 5:32 PM I'm a stay at home wife......I don't have a "real" job but help with the cattle & farm work, I run the rake during hay season, I have a barn full of really nice young horses that we've raised & are currently bringing along as ranch and mounted shooting horses, plus I do my artwork on the side....I honestly put in more hours & work a lot harder now than I ever did when I had a job in town, difference is that I love what I do now.
You do too have a real job, I think being a stay at home wife works harder then most that do have to work. We dont work off the clock. Our work is never ending, lol..  |
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 Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | Southtxponygirl - 2016-11-27 6:37 PM SaraJean - 2016-11-27 5:32 PM I'm a stay at home wife......I don't have a "real" job but help with the cattle & farm work, I run the rake during hay season, I have a barn full of really nice young horses that we've raised & are currently bringing along as ranch and mounted shooting horses, plus I do my artwork on the side....I honestly put in more hours & work a lot harder now than I ever did when I had a job in town, difference is that I love what I do now. You do too have a real job, I think being a stay at home wife works harder then most that do have to work. We dont work off the clock. Our work is never ending, lol..
Edited by MS2011 2016-11-27 7:10 PM
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 Owner of a ratting catting machine
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| rodeochick123 - 2016-11-27 3:12 PM
Are any of you stay at home wife's? My husband and I don't have kids yet but I quit my old job a few months ago and have been looking for a new position however my husband wants me to stay home and continue to cook and clean and do laundry and barrel race and take care of all the animals. Do any of you have experience doing this?
Let me know if you ever get into spouse swapping. |
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Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | classicpotatochip - 2016-11-27 7:06 PM rodeochick123 - 2016-11-27 3:12 PM Are any of you stay at home wife's? My husband and I don't have kids yet but I quit my old job a few months ago and have been looking for a new position however my husband wants me to stay home and continue to cook and clean and do laundry and barrel race and take care of all the animals. Do any of you have experience doing this? Let me know if you ever get into spouse swapping.
LOL - no joke! I'm in line behind you! |
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You get what you give
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Location: Texas | MS2011 - 2016-11-27 7:05 PM
Southtxponygirl - 2016-11-27 6:37 PM SaraJean - 2016-11-27 5:32 PM I'm a stay at home wife......I don't have a "real" job but help with the cattle & farm work, I run the rake during hay season, I have a barn full of really nice young horses that we've raised & are currently bringing along as ranch and mounted shooting horses, plus I do my artwork on the side....I honestly put in more hours & work a lot harder now than I ever did when I had a job in town, difference is that I love what I do now. You do too have a real job, I think being a stay at home wife works harder then most that do have to work. We dont work off the clock. Our work is never ending, lol..
amen... that is what I will be (working wife/working mom in the future). I know we will share responsibilities, but I'll be doing a lot at home on top of my work schedule, and on call schedule... I'll be run ragged. Actually, if anything, my fiance will probably have to do more of the parenting things whenever we have kids (after we're married), because his schedule will allow him to actually go to meetings and recitals and all that jazz.
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Location: bring on the heat, NV | I am a stay at home ranch momma. I didnt actually stay home until I was expecting and now we have 2 under the age of five. It was hard at first for me but for different reasons. Lil kids limit to some extent what Im able to help with ranch wise but Im figuring things out. I became a distributor to promote a product I believe in and make a little on the side to pay for my horse showing but im about 100 miles one way from town... so no part time for me lol. I think itll depend on your circumstances. If its working now why not try it? It's harder for me to not have a "job" then having one at least at first now im much more settled and with my boys I dont think I would want it any other way.
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 I'm Really Boring
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| I'm not married yet but I do know that I could never be a stay at home wife simply because I cannot handle being dependent on another person. That would make me incredibly uncomfortable. However, if you think it's right for you, go for it. |
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 Dog Resuce Agent
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Location: southeast Texas | Stay at home wife is great, but what if things go south,,, death of spouse, spouse not able to work, spouse walks out. Have a backup plan. |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Sorry if I offended the working women on here, I have had so many different women some friends and not, that they wanted to work away from home because they didnt want to have stay at home because it was to much stress on them being at home and dealing with the kidos. Crazy I know.. put been tolded this more then a few times.. But didnt mean to offend or rubbed in the wrong way, Sorry to the offended  |
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 My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | SaraJean - 2016-11-27 5:32 PM
I'm a stay at home wife......I don't have a "real" job but help with the cattle & farm work, I run the rake during hay season, I have a barn full of really nice young horses that we've raised & are currently bringing along as ranch and mounted shooting horses, plus I do my artwork on the side....I honestly put in more hours & work a lot harder now than I ever did when I had a job in town, difference is that I love what I do now.
Oh yes mam you have a real job----there is no one that works harder than moms (or non-moms) who stay home and take care of houses, yards, cooking, cleaning, homework, horses, cattle, kids,errands, pets, and husbands. It's always made me mad when people say "oh she doesn't work, she's a stay at home mother (or, again, non-mom). Y'all have HARD REAL jobs. |
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