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| Does anyone else feel like they really have no true friends? This is a new login. I know lots of people. Have hundreds of folks on FB. But I'm not real sure I'd consider anyone close. I have not received a phone call from any person other than my parents for IDK how long. I've had people call me back, but no one takes the first step.
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| I have 2 people I consider close friends other than family. Sometimes we don't talk for a month due to busy lives, but when we do, it's like we talked yesterday. Sometimes I call first, sometimes they do. I have noticed the more time I put in with them, the more time they put on with me. I chalk it up to busy lives. There are several ladies on here that if I lived closer too, I would probably be that annoying friend to, haha.
You have to work at friendship just like a marriage or family.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | NoFriends - 2017-03-28 10:37 AM Does anyone else feel like they really have no true friends? This is a new login. I know lots of people. Have hundreds of folks on FB. But I'm not real sure I'd consider anyone close. I have not received a phone call from any person other than my parents for IDK how long. I've had people call me back, but no one takes the first step.
Sort of beginning to wonder why.
I have a few select friends, I dont like sitting on a phone and I dont do FB but Hubby has one but never gos on there, I check it out to see what is happening to others sometimes but all the friend request I see I dont even know who in the heck they are they are mosely friends of a friend of a friend of another friends so to me all the friends you see on other peoples FB they dont even know 85% maybe 90% of them, lol..
I think everybody is busy with life and FB so many dont have the time to call anyone now adays but Texting is the in thing so Texting takes up alot of time too, lol.. So why are you logged under a different name whats the big Deal?!!! I have just a few true friends and that dont embarress me at all I like it that way less drama you have to deal with.  |
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| I'm so sorry you are feeling this way...hugs for you! I feel the exact same way, I really don't have any friends that I do anything with outside of work. I keep pretty busy, so it doesn't bug me too much. But every once in a while it gets to me. The only people I do anything with is my family and boyfriend...I don't really have much advice to offer, I'm so sorry. But, as said above, with a true friend you don't need to keep close contact with. They are still with you no matter what. And if you are always having to make the effort to talk or see them, then they aren't true friends. It should be mutual. I realize that I don't have many friends because I am not a very good friend. I don't keep in touch very well, and I don't have a lot of extra time to go and do things, so I lost most of my "friends". But the real people who love and care about you will love you no matter how long. My only friend, who I have been friends with for 16 years, we would still do anything for each other. And I only see her about once a year. Hugs to you, and hope that things will turn around <3 |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Just wanted to add here you have us to hang out with and we're all friends some not so much but mosty we are all friends, lol  |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | GLP - 2017-03-28 10:48 AM I have 2 people I consider close friends other than family. Sometimes we don't talk for a month due to busy lives, but when we do, it's like we talked yesterday. Sometimes I call first, sometimes they do. I have noticed the more time I put in with them, the more time they put on with me. I chalk it up to busy lives. There are several ladies on here that if I lived closer too, I would probably be that annoying friend to, haha. You have to work at friendship just like a marriage or family. If you want to talk or need advice there are some great people on this site.
Same here GLP I can go months maybe even a year are 2 can go by but when we see each other its like time standing still and we never miss a beat, lol..As we get older the busier we are, I thought when the kids were all grown up I would have more time on hand, nope not true, lol.. Now I'm either on a tractor, working in the yard caring for all the animals and so on, the days are so much shorter for me..  |
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| I have been called " Rude" for not accepting FB friend requests from people I either don't know ( Maybe we have a mutual friend and they saw I had horses and they have horses or something) or people who I know, just choose not to share events in my life with. lol I only have 30 FB friends, but they are GOOD FRIENDS. |
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| I think that's just it. I DO make an effort. I call them. I'll send a text.
But it seems like I'm the only one who initiates. It's not every day either, so I don't feel like I'm hounding people by sending 99 messages and calls every hour.
Reason for new login is there is one specific person on here who would probably say they are my very close friend. That person doesn't call either! |
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| I don't have any friends either. Then my sister died, and so now I have my husband and my mom to talk to. Mom lives 500 miles away and is giving me **** because I'm riding a western horse instead of the jumpers I grew up with. She's not even interested in how fabulous my horse is and how much I'm learning, just wanted to know if I could re-train her. ?? and I live in a rural area and have lots of horsey neighbors, but I'm just so shy and afraid they are going to judge me that I haven't reached out to any of them. So I guess it's my own fault I'm lonely, but. . . .
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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 11:08 AM
GLP - 2017-03-28 10:48 AM I have 2 people I consider close friends other than family. Sometimes we don't talk for a month due to busy lives, but when we do, it's like we talked yesterday. Sometimes I call first, sometimes they do. I have noticed the more time I put in with them, the more time they put on with me. I chalk it up to busy lives. There are several ladies on here that if I lived closer too, I would probably be that annoying friend to, haha. You have to work at friendship just like a marriage or family. If you want to talk or need advice there are some great people on this site.
Same here GLP I can go months maybe even a year are 2 can go by but when we see each other its like time standing still and we never miss a beat, lol..As we get older the busier we are, I thought when the kids were all grown up I would have more time on hand, nope not true, lol.. Now I'm either on a tractor, working in the yard caring for all the animals and so on, the days are so much shorter for me..
Right?! I thought time would slow back down once the kids were grown. Nope, I think it hit overdrive! |
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| NoFriends - 2017-03-28 11:20 AM
I think that's just it. I DO make an effort. I call them. I'll send a text.
But it seems like I'm the only one who initiates. It's not every day either, so I don't feel like I'm hounding people by sending 99 messages and calls every hour.
Reason for new login is there is one specific person on here who would probably say they are my very close friend. That person doesn't call either!
Oh, I'm sorry about that. I am the wall flower type, so it is very hard for me to meet new people. The good friends I do have are very outgoing. I meet new people through them. And they are not drama mommas.
Look around you and listen to what people say and do. When you think there is someone you would like to be friends with, just start saying hello, etc. when you see them and I bet pretty soon you have a new friend. Big hugs because I've been there. |
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| hannahbug - 2017-03-28 11:24 AM
I don't have any friends either. Then my sister died, and so now I have my husband and my mom to talk to. Mom lives 500 miles away and is giving me **** because I'm riding a western horse instead of the jumpers I grew up with. She's not even interested in how fabulous my horse is and how much I'm learning, just wanted to know if I could re-train her. ?? and I live in a rural area and have lots of horsey neighbors, but I'm just so shy and afraid they are going to judge me that I haven't reached out to any of them. So I guess it's my own fault I'm lonely, but. . . .
I guess my point is that I understand how you feel.
Use your horses to meet your neighbors. Maybe ask them who they use for vet, farrier, teeth floats. Maybe ask where they get tack, feed, Etc.
Even though you probably don't really need these things it would be an ice breaker. You know how we love to talk about our horses. Ask where they got their horse, how it's bred, what discipline they ride, stuff like that. |
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| Where do you live "No Friends"?
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| GLP - 2017-03-28 11:49 AM hannahbug - 2017-03-28 11:24 AM I don't have any friends either. Then my sister died, and so now I have my husband and my mom to talk to. Mom lives 500 miles away and is giving me **** because I'm riding a western horse instead of the jumpers I grew up with. She's not even interested in how fabulous my horse is and how much I'm learning, just wanted to know if I could re-train her. ?? and I live in a rural area and have lots of horsey neighbors, but I'm just so shy and afraid they are going to judge me that I haven't reached out to any of them. So I guess it's my own fault I'm lonely, but. . . . I guess my point is that I understand how you feel. Use your horses to meet your neighbors. Maybe ask them who they use for vet, farrier, teeth floats. Maybe ask where they get tack, feed, Etc. Even though you probably don't really need these things it would be an ice breaker. You know how we love to talk about our horses. Ask where they got their horse, how it's bred, what discipline they ride, stuff like that.
I don't feel like this is about making friends. I'll talk to anyone.
It's more about having people care enough about me to make contact with me, instead of me always initiating. Maybe I'm simply too boring to spark their interest. |
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| Tinker - 2017-03-28 12:07 PM Where do you live "No Friends"?
In a small town. Again, made a new name for a reason. Too many people know me. |
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| This is a pretty normal thing that comes as we age. Our circle of friends gets smaller, more people are spending time working and with their children. I have found that more and more people just want you around if there is something they can get out of you so I do my best to steer clear of users and that's what a lot of people act like anymore. I told one "friend" a few years ago that if they were just going to come around once a year when they needed their computer fixed to just stop. Haven't seen them since. I only have around 45 FB friends and most of them are family or people I talk to regularly. I have 2 people on my Facebook that are what I would call friends.
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| I lost my mom in early Feb. She was my one true friend. I have someone in my life that I see/talk to all the time, but I've never thought of her as 'deep.' There always has to be something in it for her for her to make an effort. I also do not like talking on the phone extensively - kinda info passed on ony then done. Just not a chatty kind of person (except about horses, of course). And I don't have a smart phone so texting is a painful process for me (lol - I usually call if the text will be more than three words!)
Now that my mom is gone I feel I am completely alone. I have two or three friends from BHW that I wish I was physically closer to so I could visit in person. I know at least one has also lost her mom in very recent times. It's tough.
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Location: Kansas | NoFriends - 2017-03-28 10:37 AM Does anyone else feel like they really have no true friends? This is a new login. I know lots of people. Have hundreds of folks on FB. But I'm not real sure I'd consider anyone close. I have not received a phone call from any person other than my parents for IDK how long. I've had people call me back, but no one takes the first step.
Sort of beginning to wonder why.
same here, I talk to pretty much one person on a daily basis and of course my grandparents. Kind of sucks at times |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? |
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Location: Somewhere else | First off, hugs to you. I've learned the hard way to keep your circle of close/best friends small. I have maybe 4 friends that I would trust with my life. The rest are friends, but it's the ones I see at the rodeo's, barrel races, talk to on FB. Keep your circle small and you'll be so much more happier. |
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