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Location: California | You rope an untouched colt to catch it and tame it and you're called inhumane. You ride with a tie down so you must not be a trainer. You pull up in a rusty horse trailer, so you must not have any idea what you're talking about. Your horse isn't bred great and kind of plain looking, so you must be a poor newbie. You finally do pinch your pennies together and buy a nice horse, and then it's all about how that horse is, "too good for you". Or if you're over weight, that's all people talk about. Or if you get fit and finally start doing well, well you're still a used to be fat, swayed back horse and rusty trailer owner who inhumanely ropes colts and uses tie downs.
I'm not talking about bhw--so many people here are nice and uplifting. Went to a GAME SHOW, not even an actual barrel race, to watch in the stands, and the non stop behind the back talking is nasty.
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| *almost there* - 2017-03-28 3:57 PM
 You rope an untouched colt to catch it and tame it and you're called inhumane. You ride with a tie down so you must not be a trainer. You pull up in a rusty horse trailer, so you must not have any idea what you're talking about. Your horse isn't bred great and kind of plain looking, so you must be a poor newbie.  You finally do pinch your pennies together and buy a nice horse, and then it's all about how that horse is, "too good for you".  Or if you're over weight, that's all people talk about. Or if you get fit and finally start doing well, well you're still a used to be fat, swayed back horse and rusty trailer owner who inhumanely ropes colts and uses tie downs.
I'm not talking about bhw--so many people here are nice and uplifting. Went to a GAME SHOW, not even an actual barrel race, to watch in the stands, and the non stop behind the back talking is nasty.
So, WHY are horse people so mean?
Ignorance on their part. They don't know what they don't know. |
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| *almost there* - 2017-03-28 1:57 PM
 You rope an untouched colt to catch it and tame it and you're called inhumane. You ride with a tie down so you must not be a trainer. You pull up in a rusty horse trailer, so you must not have any idea what you're talking about. Your horse isn't bred great and kind of plain looking, so you must be a poor newbie.  You finally do pinch your pennies together and buy a nice horse, and then it's all about how that horse is, "too good for you".  Or if you're over weight, that's all people talk about. Or if you get fit and finally start doing well, well you're still a used to be fat, swayed back horse and rusty trailer owner who inhumanely ropes colts and uses tie downs.
I'm not talking about bhw--so many people here are nice and uplifting. Went to a GAME SHOW, not even an actual barrel race, to watch in the stands, and the non stop behind the back talking is nasty.
So, WHY are horse people so mean?
LOL You just said the magic words " Game Show". I am absolutely NOT saying all of them are like this but my experience for the last 40 years of my life has been that those people are a whole different breed. No other way to explain it. To each their own, but they have a whole new way of looking at things... Then they realized you can actually win money at just barrel races so SEASONED horses and riders started entering the novice classes cause technically they or the horse had not won $500 lifetime. Chaps my hide. |
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Location: Kansas | horse people can be A**holes point blank, especially english riders for some reason. They especially hate barrel racers.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | *almost there* - 2017-03-28 3:57 PM You rope an untouched colt to catch it and tame it and you're called inhumane. You ride with a tie down so you must not be a trainer. You pull up in a rusty horse trailer, so you must not have any idea what you're talking about. Your horse isn't bred great and kind of plain looking, so you must be a poor newbie. You finally do pinch your pennies together and buy a nice horse, and then it's all about how that horse is, "too good for you". Or if you're over weight, that's all people talk about. Or if you get fit and finally start doing well, well you're still a used to be fat, swayed back horse and rusty trailer owner who inhumanely ropes colts and uses tie downs.
I'm not talking about bhw--so many people here are nice and uplifting. Went to a GAME SHOW, not even an actual barrel race, to watch in the stands, and the non stop behind the back talking is nasty.
So, WHY are horse people so mean? I'm pretty sure the ones sitting in the stands dont know cra* about what they are talking about, to me its always the non horsey/want a be's are the ones always talking cra* about others.
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| It's really hard to make friends or meet people that don't talk crap about you anymore...wish I had the answers! And the sad part is, this isn't just at races anymore, its all over! Putting other people down makes them feel better about themselves. If someone is just a nonstop gossiper or crap talker, I always feel sorry for them. Obviously nothing is going right in their life, and they cannot find happiness. Just try to surround yourself with good people, who want to see you succeed <3 |
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Location: California | 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 2:01 PM
 because no one gets punched in the face anymore.Â
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 3:01 PM because no one gets punched in the face anymore.
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If someone is talking directly to you about someone, cut them off and say something positive then walk away.
If you hear it in the stands and want to do something about it, interject if it is about someone being fat at one time. You can say I overheard you say this person lost so much weight, wow, that is awesome, she looks fabulous then move. |
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Location: California | Well so someone would make a run, and then they let a certain group out of the arena, and a bunch of the people that just rode would come in the stands and saying the meanest stuff about people either in the arena waiting to make a run or during a run. I am not naive to the nasty side of people but even I started to feel uncomfortable for these people, that I didn't even know!
And the kicker is, all of the advertisements say "everyone's welcome!" |
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| I wish it was easier to make friends at barrel races! I don't have any friends that barrel race...would be nice to have someone there to talk to sometimes. I've tried making friends, but after giving compliments, asking questions, most of the people stick their noses in the air and turn back with their group. Oh well, guess its not meant to be =p |
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| When people are comfortable talking bad about their "friends" to me, it makes me wonder what they're saying about me when I'm not around. And I agree that it isn't limited to the horse world. People are pretty bold when the person they're badmouthing isn't around, but suddenly all of those negative opinions disappear when that person shows up and they put on their fake face and act friendly. |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2017-03-28 4:02 PM
horse people can be A**holes point blank, especially english riders for some reason. They especially hate barrel racers.
I've learned that I dont really give two craps what anyone thinks of me nor my horses. Â
That's because most English riders have only seen the "barrel racers"who use a too-tight tie down to keep from getting their nose broken because they think a bit isn't effective until a horse's mouth is bleeding and waller around like a **** albatross whupping on their horse. |
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Location: OH. IO | UTAHCANCHASER - 2017-03-28 5:08 PM
1DSoon - 2017-03-28 3:01 PM Â because no one gets punched in the face anymore.Â
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Some of the things you post make me shake my head but this statement couldn't be truer and made me LOL!! Â
I agree with 99percent of the things 1D says.if you really think out his posts he is usually right on:). |
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| Katielovestbs - 2017-03-28 4:18 PM
I wish it was easier to make friends at barrel races! I don't have any friends that barrel race...would be nice to have someone there to talk to sometimes. I've tried making friends, but after giving compliments, asking questions, most of the people stick their noses in the air and turn back with their group. Oh well, guess its not meant to be =p
That is the way it was when the kids started showing cattle! Finally i met another mom that didn't grow up in the breed show circuit and we hit it off. After that it got easier. But I never forgot who the snobby ones were. It sure felt good when my daughter won State Champion against the open show people with a bred and own heifer and then when my son won National Champion with a bred and own heifer. We had a lot of people genuinely happy for us and we also received some who are THEY looks , too.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | jake16 - 2017-03-28 4:23 PM UTAHCANCHASER - 2017-03-28 5:08 PM 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 3:01 PM because no one gets punched in the face anymore.
Some of the things you post make me shake my head but this statement couldn't be truer and made me LOL!! I agree with 99percent of the things 1D says.if you really think out his posts he is usually right on: ).
Yep agree Jake, he just dont waste anytime beating around the bush, he calls it the way he and most of us see's it. |
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| 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 4:01 PM
 because no one gets punched in the face anymore.Â
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FINALLY! You and I agree on something!!!!! |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | jake16 - 2017-03-28 4:23 PM UTAHCANCHASER - 2017-03-28 5:08 PM 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 3:01 PM because no one gets punched in the face anymore.
Some of the things you post make me shake my head but this statement couldn't be truer and made me LOL!! I agree with 99percent of the things 1D says.if you really think out his posts he is usually right on: ).
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2017-03-28 4:02 PM
horse people can be A**holes point blank, especially english riders for some reason. They especially hate barrel racers.
I've learned that I dont really give two craps what anyone thinks of me nor my horses. Â
I have done dressage and hunter jumpers for MANY years and I have nothing but great things to say about the people that I met in the discipline and I don't remember ever hearing derogatory comments about barrel racers. For us it was a very foreign world that we did not quite understand but I personally always admire the barrel racers!.
When I started to run barrels (not very long ago) I was afraid of being rejected and criticized not only because I started so late in life but by my lack of knowledge and confidence. I was so PLEASANTLY SURPRISED to meet nothing but wonderful, encouraging, helpful and the nicest people ever. I guess you find mean people in every discipline.
On a personal note, I do try to stay away from negativity and drama. I think everyone that gets on a horse regardless of the discipline of choice deserves a lot of credit and respect, but that's just my opinion LOL
I thank God everyday for all the wonderful riders in both disciplines that He has put in my life and for the two amazing mounts that put a smile on my soul every time I run them. That's what I try to concentrate on. |
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