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| My son who is 14 started staying with his father full time about a year ago so that he could rope every day. They live close so I thought that I would be able to see him often. I hardly see him at all in that they take him out of state a lot to rope and when they rope close, they do not bother to tell me about it. Now my ex has decided to home school him. I am not for it at all. We have great schools where we live and think it's important for him to socialize. They live out in the middle of nowhere and he does not have any friends out there. He also has some great opportunities to go to just about any college he wants to because he will have access to Native American grants. I do not know anybody that has gone on to college that home schooled. My question is, do you have of know of any success stories of home schooling? |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | BROKEN FEATHER - 2017-04-12 4:11 PM
My son who is 14 started staying with his father full time about a year ago so that he could rope every day. They live close so I thought that I would be able to see him often. I hardly see him at all in that they take him out of state a lot to rope and when they rope close, they do not bother to tell me about it. Now my ex has decided to home school him. I am not for it at all. We have great schools where we live and think it's important for him to socialize. They live out in the middle of nowhere and he does not have any friends out there. He also has some great opportunities to go to just about any college he wants to because he will have access to Native American grants. I do not know anybody that has gone on to college that home schooled. My question is, do you have of know of any success stories of home schooling?
Socializing isn't an issue at all. he can socialize while roping. Roping can take him many places. He can still apply for the grant after he has completed homeschooling and earned his GED. He can still go to college on the grant and may get looked at more for colleges with rodeo teams. Home schooling is best in this type of situation. As long as schooling is getting done and as long as he earns his GED college is always an option and grants and scholarships are granted to children who homeschool all day everyday.
Roping will be an added bonus to his application. Especially if he is picked up by a college specifically for a rodeo team scholarship. |
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| Lots of home schoolers are successful at college. If he lives close by, get in your car and drive over there to see if he is roping :). I hope they start to include you more. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | rodeomom3 - 2017-04-12 4:24 PM Lots of home schoolers are successful at college. If he lives close by, get in your car and drive over there to see if he is roping :). I hope they start to include you more.
To be completely honest, I don't they are intentially leaving you out. They are Male... They forget a lot of things and don't think like we do. They may not know that you take prde in watching the ropings. Maybe ask him for a schedule or send a short text asking for a weekend schedule or weekly schedule. I'm sure your son would send it to you.
Also, bring the boy snacks. He may be more apt to remember to invite you if you bring him some little debbies or M&Ms... I know I would. LOL  |
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Location: Where I am happiest | BROKEN FEATHER - 2017-04-12 4:11 PM My son who is 14 started staying with his father full time about a year ago so that he could rope every day. They live close so I thought that I would be able to see him often. I hardly see him at all in that they take him out of state a lot to rope and when they rope close, they do not bother to tell me about it. Now my ex has decided to home school him. I am not for it at all. We have great schools where we live and think it's important for him to socialize. They live out in the middle of nowhere and he does not have any friends out there. He also has some great opportunities to go to just about any college he wants to because he will have access to Native American grants. I do not know anybody that has gone on to college that home schooled. My question is, do you have of know of any success stories of home schooling? Yep. I homeschooled my daughter her junior and senior years. She actually finished her high school in a year instead of 2 through public school's as she was able to work at HER pace instead of the schools pace. We went through a state run home school program. She entered college, did her first year at the community college to get her generals out of the way then transfered. She got her masters, graduated on the Deans list carrying a 3.8 all through college. She now has a great job with the county and is the administrator of her entire county division.
Trust me, home schooling can be a great thing and these kids that rodeo are NOT lacking socialization! I'll also point out, the socialization they get going to rodeo's, ropings, and barrel races are far better then the socialization and experiences they get running around with other kids with no supervision if you get my drift. At least he is always for 80% - 90% with a parent!! Feel blessed Mom and dont cause a rift just because you talk yourself into it. He CAN go to college and his time with his Dad and roping is FAR better then running around doing drugs, stealing cars, or getting girls pregnant. If you say you dont get to spend much time with your son and I suspect this is the core of your misgivings, then perhaps being the supportive Mom is the much better way to go and go watch some of his ropings! Please dont rain on your sons parade because your jealous of the time he spends with his Dad. Peace out Mom.
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Location: Texas | My 2 oldest granddaughters are home schooled with the oldest graduating last year and is now attending college on a rodeo scholarship. She is really smart and social and would have suceeded in either situation but decided to homeschool because it fit into their schedule better (which I didn't really like). I don't think a little structure would have hurt. Not everyone is going to get a scholarship. They have plenty of rodeo friends to socialize with but know no other people their age in our small town.
My other grandchildren go to public school. They play in school sports and are involved in losts of activities and probably know almost everyone in town. They do not rodeo.
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| My daughter has homeschooled her whole life and at 15 she started her own photography business and now at 17 she is pretty well known and getting called out all over to shoot rodeos and other events. She is even getting invited by other big photographers to come along on some of their shoots. They can socialize at any of their events like ropings and I think my daughter gets even more and better socialization because she has to deal with a lot of adults and do grown up things like manage her little blooming business, handle money, pay bills ect. I also have several friends who have kids who have gone on to be very successful in college. I know it can go wrong but as long as the kid and parents keep after it the level of education can be very good. |
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| Since I am a public school teacher, I am in favor of public schools. There are definitely advantages to public schools besides socializing. First of all teachers have to be certified in their subject area. Difficult courses like Chemistry and Physics or Algebra are extremely hard without some explanation. I know that colleges require Algebra and most require some form of Chemistry. It helps to be prepared since college classes cost money. Public schools offer many things that you cannot get through home schooling such as fine arts to mention one. Sports is another and while fine arts and sports are two of the fartherest things from what I teach, they are important. Most places that you work now require you to be a part of a team, even teaching. Home schooling is not free. Many times parents do not supervise that work is getting done. Texas colleges require a students take a test and if they do not pass they have to take remedial classes that are expensive and do not count for anything. Public schools do prepare you for that. (NOT ACT OR SAT)
I do know that in many states (Texas is one) students are required to attend a certain number of days or they lose credit for the entire semester. Rodeoing counts as absences. Ashleylynn on here attended a Christian school so could she could rodeo. I have known her since she was a little fart. She can give you the best input on that route. |
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Location: Texas | There are homeschool groups, I am not sure where yall are located. I am a Homeschool kiddo. I loved it. I didn't have many friends in school when I went to public school, to begin with. I attended 4h and went to barrel races, but still didn't friends my age. Public school was too loud for me or teaching a test and mom didn't like that, she wanted me to have an education. I went to college and got my bachelors, worked about 2 years in an accounting firm, went back and got my teaching certification. I now teach at a public school, have been here about 5 years. I work at a disciplinary campus, and not the main campus and love it.
Friends I had that homeschooled also is a fireman, and the other was a Navy pilot, where the others ended up I am not sure.
Mom made sure I learned and went to "school" when she home schooled me. I had to be at the table ready for school at 8, and that was the only thing I was allowed to do until the school day was over. The homeschool many do nowadays where they say they are homeschooling, and they do not teach their children, basically, they are free range, I do not agree with.
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| I have a few cousins that were home schooled and they are both registered nurses and doing fine except for huge amounts of student loan debt. They were in 4H when they were kids but the majority of their social activities were with their church. Very very conservative Christian family and that was why they home schooled. If you think your ex is capable of doing this you should not worry too much. I would be more concerned about not being able to see him. Do you think your ex is intentionally excluding you? Sure seems like it. |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | I am wanting to homeschool our daughter too but she is just 14 mos so I have a little time. I have worried some about socialization. But I think with 4H, church, rodeo, and a local homeschool group she will be okay. I have thought about dance lessons or something similar too to help with more socialization with kids her age. |
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| In my opinion, there are two types of homeschooling going on with kids that I know. I know kids whose parents chose to homeschool them for academic reasons, whether they were struggling to keep up, or more advanced than their peers, or they may have a busy schedule working for their parents on their ranch, so it makes sense for them to homeschool to allow them to do more to help the family.
THEN I see the kids who are "homeschooling" but you never hear of them actually doing anything besides roping or racing all the time and swiping their parents' credit cards every 5 minutes.
I am not trying to be overly judgmental, but I really worry about these kids. When I was in high school and college, I worked either part or full-time, kept multiple horses in shape and tuned up, practiced, AND went to school full-time. I was one of the only one of my peers who did all this, and it was hard, but it taught me HUSTLE. Now a decade post high school and college graduation, its hard for me not to feel like I have achieved so much more than many of them. I know a lot of baby-boomers are very displeased with my generation, but I guess we will see what is to come from the one with all this homeschooling going on. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | I hope that his dad is really doing the home schooling for your son and not just roping all the time, home schooling is really tough and you got to be on top of it and know what your doing is the dad qualified to be able to have the time and knowledge to beable to help your son? Theres alot more to this then most people think. |
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| I was homeschooled and very well socialized. I ran highschool rodeo and loved it. College wasn't a problem for me, I attended a very well known engineering school and graduated with 3.8 GPA |
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | I home schooled and went to a Christian private school. I went to the private school because my mom was tired of fighting me to do my school work. My dad owned a sale barn and I had a barn full of barrel horses, so school tended to be the furthest thing from my mind. I started at the private school when I was a sophomore in high school and never looked back. Since I maintained a 4.0 and they knew my extensive travel schedule and the fact that I worked for my dad, I was allowed to leave school at 12 everyday. I graduated valedictorian and went to school on a full ride rodeo scholarship. I was exempt from having to take the entrance exam that most home and private school students do due to my SAT scores. I took no remedial classes and took 18 hours my first two semesters in college. I LOVED the private school, but honestly don't advise home school. It takes A LOT of self discipline and dedication to your studies, and lets face it- rodeo kids are more likely to be more dedicated to their horses and the sport they love. I still completed my freshman year as a homeschool student- which included geometry, Spanish 2, and chemistry, but it wasn't easy. It always ended up with my mom and me locked in her office for hours the day before my six week assignments had to be turned in. I also personally know several people that "homeschooled" and never graduated or got a GED. my private school was basically home school in a more controlled environment. It was mostly self-taught and self-paced, but we had instructors to offer structure and assistance when needed. I never missed the social aspect of high school, I hated drama and had more important things to do on Friday nights than go to the movies, or a party, or a football game. I feel like that by surrounding myself with people with similar interests and goals as myself my drive to succeed was increased. |
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| I homeschooled from 5th grade on. I went to college and have a BBA in Business. There are more homechooled college graduates than you think. |
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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-04-13 10:16 AM I hope that his dad is really doing the home schooling for your son and not just roping all the time, home schooling is really tough and you got to be on top of it and know what your doing is the dad qualified to be able to have the time and knowledge to beable to help your son? Theres alot more to this then most people think. Correct! There is a lot more to Home educating! Especially record keeping if one is wanting to participate in "sports" in College. There is a rigorous to do list with the NCAA. I am in my 10th year of Home schooling, 7th year with Classical Conversations (the best program imo) If the purpose is just to be able to rope more then I would be concerned! IF it is to create an independent thinker and worker then Go for it!!!!! Check out the statistics on Home schoolers and testing and College entrance! Very, very good stats, especially Classic Conversation grads. My 10th grader has already scored a 26 on ACT and is taking those difficult courses that were mentioned by the public school teacher and is carrying a 4.0 and playing very competitive basketball and has 6 years and counting of piano for his Fine Arts. He attended 1 semester of Public VoTech in Pre Engineering and had enough of that after sitting through hours of time being wasted.....BUT the great thing of being in the USA we have the freedom to choose what is best for each of us! You better get involved with driving over and dropping in quite frequently especially since his education is in question.
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| streakysox - 2017-04-13 8:30 AM Since I am a public school teacher, I am in favor of public schools. There are definitely advantages to public schools besides socializing. First of all teachers have to be certified in their subject area. Difficult courses like Chemistry and Physics or Algebra are extremely hard without some explanation. I know that colleges require Algebra and most require some form of Chemistry. It helps to be prepared since college classes cost money. Public schools offer many things that you cannot get through home schooling such as fine arts to mention one. Sports is another and while fine arts and sports are two of the fartherest things from what I teach, they are important. Most places that you work now require you to be a part of a team, even teaching. Home schooling is not free. Many times parents do not supervise that work is getting done. Texas colleges require a students take a test and if they do not pass they have to take remedial classes that are expensive and do not count for anything. Public schools do prepare you for that. (NOT ACT OR SAT) I do know that in many states (Texas is one) students are required to attend a certain number of days or they lose credit for the entire semester. Rodeoing counts as absences. Ashleylynn on here attended a Christian school so could she could rodeo. I have known her since she was a little fart. She can give you the best input on that route. Really? How many Homeschool families do you personally know? OR, maybe you are referencing the Public School system?  Because we know that EVERY parent in that system pays attention to everything going on with their student.
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| I had a college friend who was homeschooled and she had no issues with college. I think there are pros and cons to public and home schooling, but both are valuable. (I am a public school teacher )Sending prayers your way. |
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Location: Arkansas | TyE - 2017-04-16 12:37 AM
streakysox - 2017-04-13 8:30 AM Since I am a public school teacher, I am in favor of public schools. There are definitely advantages to public schools besides socializing. First of all teachers have to be certified in their subject area. Difficult courses like Chemistry and Physics or Algebra are extremely hard without some explanation. I know that colleges require Algebra and most require some form of Chemistry. It helps to be prepared since college classes cost money. Public schools offer many things that you cannot get through home schooling such as fine arts to mention one. Sports is another and while fine arts and sports are two of the fartherest things from what I teach, they are important. Most places that you work now require you to be a part of a team, even teaching. Home schooling is not free. Many times parents do not supervise that work is getting done. Texas colleges require a students take a test and if they do not pass they have to take remedial classes that are expensive and do not count for anything. Public schools do prepare you for that. (NOT ACT OR SAT) I do know that in many states (Texas is one) students are required to attend a certain number of days or they lose credit for the entire semester. Rodeoing counts as absences. Ashleylynn on here attended a Christian school so could she could rodeo. I have known her since she was a little fart. She can give you the best input on that route. Really? How many Homeschool families do you personally know? OR, maybe you are referencing the Public School system? Because we know that EVERY parent in that system pays attention to everything going on with their student.
I would think it would be hard to say EVERY parent pays attention to EVERYTHING going on with their child. Chandler went to a private Christian school and I helped with his homework almost every night. I stayed on top of his grades and his schooling and his activities---but I know I didn't know EVERYTHING. And yes, I've personally known homeschool families that weren't on top of the game when it came to teaching or learning. . . .
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