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| Kinda long but the whole scenario needs to be known. About 4 months ago we let my husband's ex bring a horse to our house (for their daughter, pretty much) when she brought the horse, he was grossly underweight and injured.. not sure what happened to his leg but it was very swollen in the ankle. She said she had it x rayed but the vet said it needed that an mri done to see what was going on. She said her sister took the horse to get the mri done apparently they had a falling out and the mri results aren't available. Sounds fishy, but whatever.. she also said if we decided we couldn't keep him, she'd take him back no problem.. it didn't matter to her, I quote! I started feeding him up, worming , getting feet fixed, got a bunch of swelling out by poultice and cold hosing... step daughter was coming over daily to help clean stalls, water, feed, etc etc... then she started coming less and less frequently... she said it was costing her too much in gas to come over everyday. They live maybe 6 minutes from us, if that. The horse isn't sound... it's obvious where he's off..we decided we couldn't afford to take him for extensive x rays, mri whatnot... plus this ex refused to give us his papers... I actually had a friend who wanted him and would take him to the vet for whatever he needed and see if he could actually be fixed... ex refused to let the horse go unless this friend would pay $1000. My friend backed out... I don't blame her either!
Then the ex told my husband we can't have papers but she'd sign something saying she wouldn't sell him if he stayed with us. So fast forward... for the last month or so, step daughter hasn't even looked at the horse or come over to see him or ride him, he's rideable but very light and walking only... all his care has fallen on me, plus he's gotten aggressive with my daughters good colt that we just got back, kicking, biting and jumping on him. I have 1 medium sized pasture and I have 3 stall barn. I have 3 other horses, that our OURS. I'm having to stall horses up to keep the peace because of this horse.
So today, my husband made the call to the ex and said we are loading up the horse and bringing him back to you, we can't keep him here anymore. .. her answer was no... just put him down, she can't afford him anymore. Of course my step daughter is just hysterical... honestly we can't afford him as a pasture pet... every horse we have earns their keep... our pasture right now is good but it won't last much longer.. I don't even know what I've spent on getting him healthy again, minus the leg... my farrier says it's not fixable a few other people I respect say the same.. he's always going to be gimpy on it. I'm so angry right about the situation and her just saying put him down.. I'm trying not to lose my Jesus! |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Give him to your friend that was wanting him... |
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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-06-14 2:54 PM
Give him to your friend that was wanting him...
That opportunity passed, she got something else. Unfortunately. I've got a call out to her but I'm pretty sure it's going to be a no, since I know she's gotten another horse. And they board. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Will the Ex give you the papers on him? |
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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-06-14 3:08 PM
Will the Ex give you the papers on him?
If she has them and didn't give them to the sister, she might but I don't know. I think what upsets me the most is how she's just dumping this all on us... just put him down.. fine how about we haul him back to her and let her put him down... it's HER horse after all... she made that very clear. |
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| want2chase3 - 2017-06-14 3:17 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-06-14 3:08 PM Will the Ex give you the papers on him? If she has them and didn't give them to the sister, she might but I don't know. I think what upsets me the most is how she's just dumping this all on us... just put him down.. fine how about we haul him back to her and let her put him down... it's HER horse after all... she made that very clear.
I would haul him back anyway, she wants you to be the bad guy. Does your step daughter understand you are not in a position to keep him? |
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| rodeomom3 - 2017-06-14 3:25 PM
want2chase3 - 2017-06-14 3:17 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-06-14 3:08 PM Will the Ex give you the papers on him? If she has them and didn't give them to the sister, she might but I don't know. I think what upsets me the most is how she's just dumping this all on us... just put him down.. fine how about we haul him back to her and let her put him down... it's HER horse after all... she made that very clear.
That's what I just told him... load him up and take him to her house, let her deal with his fate.. yes we've talked to her several times about him, she's lobbying for another horse she can actually run barrels on and there's no way we can keep this one and take on another. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | LOAD HIM UP ...... and haul him back to her house..... and leave.....the horse is not your problem. |
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| Drop him off, in the front yard tied to a tree if necessary |
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| NJJ - 2017-06-14 3:48 PM
LOAD HIM UP ...... and haul him back to her house..... and leave.....the horse is not your problem.
I agree 10000% buuuuut my husband is a coward when it comes to her.. it hurts me to say that about him, but it's true and I've told him that . Having this horse here has caused us to argue more than we ever have! I want the horse GONE! |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | want2chase3 - 2017-06-14 5:48 PM NJJ - 2017-06-14 3:48 PM LOAD HIM UP ...... and haul him back to her house..... and leave.....the horse is not your problem. I agree 10000% buuuuut my husband is a coward when it comes to her.. it hurts me to say that about him, but it's true and I've told him that . Having this horse here has caused us to argue more than we ever have! I want the horse GONE!  Just wanted to add wish there was a way to help you out..
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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-06-14 5:54 PM
want2chase3 - 2017-06-14 5:48 PM NJJ - 2017-06-14 3:48 PM LOAD HIM UP ...... and haul him back to her house..... and leave.....the horse is not your problem. I agree 10000% buuuuut my husband is a coward when it comes to her.. it hurts me to say that about him, but it's true and I've told him that . Having this horse here has caused us to argue more than we ever have! I want the horse GONE!
I haven't. I know her and she's probably begging her hubby, I left her a message of the situation. And she's probably trying to figure out a way before she calls me back. |
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Location: Where the stars at night are big and bright, TX | Just have him put down. No horse needs to be walking this earth crippled and in pain no dumped on someone who will let it starve and continue to be in pain. Stepdaughter will move on and get over it faster than you think. |
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| Tilt The Kilt - 2017-06-14 6:16 PM
Just have him put down. No horse needs to be walking this earth crippled and in pain no dumped on someone who will let it starve and continue to be in pain. Stepdaughter will move on and get over it faster than you think.
I don't think he's in pain... you can poke his ankle flex it and he never flinched.. it's extremely hard. He's very sweet natured and likes being around people. He's not starving at my home, I'm working hard to find a solution for him. |
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| I called her myself... no answer so I text her to please call me so we can figure out what's best for the horse. .. haven't heard a thing. .. |
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| 1. You can let her be the heavy and tell her that you are bringing the horse to her house and tell her to have the vet meet you there. Drop the horse and leave.
2. Quietly, have the horse put down bury him and don't say anything.
3. Quietly, take the horse to the sale, drop him off and have them mail your check. Don't say anything.
4. Keep the horse and take care of him and quit complaining.
Personally, the less contact I have with ex-wives, the happier I am.
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Location: Opelousas, LA | streakysox - 2017-06-14 11:59 PM 1. You can let her be the heavy and tell her that you are bringing the horse to her house and tell her to have the vet meet you there. Drop the horse and leave. 2. Quietly, have the horse put down bury him and don't say anything. 3. Quietly, take the horse to the sale, drop him off and have them mail your check. Don't say anything. 4. Keep the horse and take care of him and quit complaining. Personally, the less contact I have with ex-wives, the happier I am.
I like 2 and 3, either one works for me. |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | streakysox - 2017-06-14 11:59 PM 1. You can let her be the heavy and tell her that you are bringing the horse to her house and tell her to have the vet meet you there. Drop the horse and leave. 2. Quietly, have the horse put down bury him and don't say anything. 3. Quietly, take the horse to the sale, drop him off and have them mail your check. Don't say anything. 4. Keep the horse and take care of him and quit complaining. Personally, the less contact I have with ex-wives, the happier I am.
I second that!! Thank GOODNESS my husband's ex isn't into horses, because she is a manipulator (I'd call her a master manipulator, but, much like the other things in her life, although she devotes much of her time to it, she is transparent and kinda sucks at concealing it).
If she thought she she could screw with my husband and the rest of the family by buying a horse, she'd certainly do it. Thankfully, she wouldn't know where to start.
Anyway. Whatever you do, make your own decision for what is best for you and suck up the expense. Don't talk to her anymore. Don't involve her in the process. The horse is abandoned at this point. |
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| OMG! Your hubby's ex sounds like a bigger POS than my ex's ex and I didn't think that was even remotely possible.
BIG hugs and sorry you were put in this position. What a sucky deal! |
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| Are there any therapeutic riding associations in your area or barns looking for safe sweet trail horses?? |
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